Conduits for Gods gifts? Is that what you are? Its some fucked up cultural programming I have thought is very real amongst Filipinos. What do you think whether this is a fair statement to say happens when you live in the Failappines that you, me and the Lord are being “used” by these takers (aka users) whom don’t give a shit about you (the helper) and have only their own end goals in mind – themselves. Filo-lovers and foreigners unfamiliar with Filipino’ism wouldnt understand this. Those in the “Filipino bubble” would however. More on this soon.
As time goes on I am helping Filipino’s less and less. I have gotten used to the general lack of gratefulness whether it be my time, largely financial etc, even where I don’t expect anything in return. I’ve often felt just used as an ATM machine would be (by people that I’ve known quite some time) or similar to be called upon when and if needed as a social welfare mechanism.
Often I’ve seen the result of what help I’ve provided ending up as a Facebook post or worse still, the person to come back after crying firstly hungry for food money to ask for money for items such as a handbag!
Filipinos have a “lack” mentality. That lack mentality will be played out in full gear towards those that are generous and kind. Show a Filipino kindness and your fair game to be used and abused for your kindness. Its just in the Filipino nature whether they know it or not to want to take – Filipinos at the end of the day are takers and not givers in society. They may not realise it, but they have been used to “lack”. They’ve grown up with it all their lives or had this social programming passed onto them by their parents and peers.
By growing up with a lack mentality I mean …..
lack of jobs,
lack of opportunity,
lack of food (lets get real the number of Filipinos i met going hungry through not having money to buy food),
lack of stocks (lol!) …
lack of support in society (welfare, infrastructue etc)…
lack of common sense…
LACK OF MONEY and on and on their toilet roll list of problems go.
Foreigners to the Philippines know that second to stupidity and lack of common sense is a lack in Filipino society compouded by the senseless earbashing you get of demands and begging.
Most … not all “shit dump” their lack onto foreigners, but most Filipinos will be takers and not givers if you allow them too. Open the doors to hear a Filipinos problems and your opening a flood gate.
The lack mentality turns into lets rip this opportunity for all its worth as we may never have it again even to the point of creating “lose-lose” setups. which eventually bust friendships.
I guess poverty has largely influenced their thinking to a subconcious level but also the Catholic church which litters their brains with mantras such as: “the joy is in giving”, “if you dont ask you wont receive” and on it goes, theres also some distortions in their thinking about taking from the rich and distributing it to the poor who will through ignorance distribute to the church and enter the gates of heaven before God … penniless.
The Filipino culture has an EXPECTATION you will give. The rich will provide for the poor and you know Filipinos never thank the provider publicly, they always from my experience thank the Lord for what the provider has given.
what?!… I just feel fucking used by this Filipino mentality that seems so fucked up as if foreigners are just conduits of the lords gifts and that the hand of the foreigner that put it all together needs no appreciation returned as it was the lords work all along!
Around Christmas time you will get used to being asked often by complete strangers “wheres my gift”. Its no joke when you get asked several times a day to a point of irritation and just highlights this fucked up notion that Filipinos have that “the world owes me something” and these foreigners here are going to give it if I annoy the crap out of them.
Worse still, I often think giving to Filipinos is a THANKLESS task. Theres absolutely no thanks at all. The kick in the guts comes when your generosity has been posted on Facebook thanking god for the gifts. Where are they getting these gifts? From foreigners of course.
“Thankyou Lord for your blessings” with a picture of cameras and other electrical items eg. cell phones.
I have seen someone I have helped between jobs have a photograph of her standing outside her old employment place and saying – thankyou Lord for all your blessings and that I am not working here any more. What the fuck. Theres no, ZERO, nadda, zip mention to say hey thanks to “Joe Blow” for helping me out during my transition from one job to another and I was about to go out and prostitute myself like my other Filipina friends to get money for food and rent.
What the fuck! – theres absolutely never a mention of the foreigner or male (more often than not) that has provided this help for what may be on many of these Facebook posts.
The real kick in the guts after spending time, (including listening time) to these asswipes problems is seeing all the friends gloating as if she got really blessed and the greed and envy wanting it too ie. the holiday, camera, bag etc. gimme, gimme, gimme. The long time spent in discussions about how lucky she is to have that.
I’ve seen other posts where handbags and gifts are nicely laid out in a luxury hotel, pictures of food, hotel and more and … yes you guessed it. Not a foreigner conduit to be seen let alone a mention of thanks to the person providing it. Lets be honest here. Filipinas living in a rental place of 2000-3000 pesos a month cannot afford a room at a five star Manila hotel and other gifts can they.
I saw once a girl holding many 500 peso notes in her hand with a huge smile. This was posted on Facebook. What she didnt say was that a foreigener who was kind enough to pay for her semesters fees and a laptop left the country and she got a refund on the fees and pawned the laptop (both at huge penalties to what paid) as she wanted to get the cash. Not a word. Just, thankyou Lord for your blessings. Sick. Fucking sick Filipina.
Essentially Filipinos dont give a fuck about you or the good Lord. They care ONLY about themselves and their end goal in mind – its “core” basic survival/primate mentality. They don’t care if you have nothing left after giving generously. Filipinos don’t want to know what your problems when push comes to shove, thy will jus go onto the next listening ear.
Whats worse is when Filipina associate giving with love.
I find it really disgusting that once the greed starts and the Facebook promotional machine starts running amongst the friends network and family that doesnt stop them.
One thing that Filipinas have is the mental programming of gifts = love. Filipinos have this firmly in their heads theres a relationship between gift giving and love. The more a foreigner gives, the more the foreigner loves the girl in her eyes. Whoaaa..now thats fucked up. Many are living in a delusion of the relationship statemnt “looks don’t matter,… age doesn’t matter” …yes, what matters is the smell of the wallet and gifts.
Want an example. I know a guy who gave a lot. He bought food, drinks which of course (ratchets up to more and more need) to a block of land and tricycle bikes for two brothers. Like wtf?! – He got in return statements from this greedy, needy taker, “I don’t think you love me”.
Filipino’s will shame – Shaming is something that is known well in the Philippines. It perhaps originated by the teachings of the Catholic church. You will find they will say something that is quite common, again this association with gifts and love. “My family are ashamed of me, my foreigner hasn’t put a house and lot into my name, etc. like foreigners do” LIKE ..WHAT THE FUCK. This is bullshit. They don’t expect that of their fellow arse-wiping Filipinos but they have double standards towards foreigners to ask with no shame at all. They have stories that run around in their minds about how all foreigners are buying house and land and cars and jewellery for their filipinas to show how much they love them. Seriously, this is really screwed but goes back to – lack. take it while its there.
Thats one thing you’ll find in the Philippines – Stories. And these stories run riot amongst the ignorant Filipino mind.
Am I mistaking something. Am I right to say from my experience and that of the other readers here that Filipinos think the money or “stuff” they have been given by the foreigner is more from the hand of god than the hand of the foreigner? as God has blessed me to pass it on to dearest Filipino.
No mention of the work (ex taxes) and sweat I put in to get that “gift” benefit to them. Therefore, you get little reaction to any form of help other than to be ABUSED FOR MORE. Ringing me at all hours of the day and nigh, texting every 5-15 minutes manic style, crying, carrying on, pleading for more help saying their crying and trying to do a time close on me?
Filipinos are takers and not givers – I just find it so fucking sick. I’ve dated girls from nearly every country in Asia except Brunei. Filipinas and Thai are the fucking worst and they dont have a good reputation overseas. Not only there is no thanks for the help, they want more through their prayers!
“LORD GIVE ME ….”
“LORD GIVE ME …”
I went to christian gathering with my ex and witnessed people with microphones on stage saying how they were blessed with eg. 5 sales this month … but Lord .. yes sweet Lord… give me more!
I got this car … but Lord .. give me more …
I bought a house and lot but … Lord … give me more
I got over my sickness Lord .. but Lord .. I want money for a …
Oh my fucking god—- PLEASE!!
Well, the Lord must be tired of all this greed from Filipinos.
Do Filipino’s show any thanks to the Lord in return other than
a “thankyou for your blessings” post in Facebook?
THE BOTTOM LINE IS — Filipinos don’t care about God’s gifts
In reality, Filipinos are hypocrits. They say they love the Lord but they are ignorant in a lot of ways. Filipino’s talk the talk and not walk the walk when it come to loving what are noticable blessings given by the Lord.
Filipinos just want to take … take … and fucking take until they cant take no more and move on…..
when the going gets tough and the lifeline runs out … so do the Filipino!
General society abuse Gods blessings – the blessings of nature, the rivers, the oceans, the animals. Have you seen how animals are treated in the Philippines?, how the environment is treated?, how they litter throwing rubbish on the streets and out of vehicles, how they don’t even care to put recycling waste in the right bins or local governments putting in place BASIC …READ: BAY FUCKING SICK environmental measures that are low budget programs.
The bottom line is Filipino’s rather than showing some respect for the environment, each other, doing something in return to protect Gods gifts (of nature), they also take from God and destroy it. They’re only interested in themselves and material goods. They don’t really care whats around them, the bigger picture environment – no matter how dirty it is.