There is a term I use called the Filipino bubble. You are either in the bubble or outside the bubble. Let me explain –
A – Foreigner newbies to the Philippines or foreigners overseas tend to live outside the bubble. I’ve heard many remarkable comments in defence of Filipinos from people that have been here in the Philippines only weeks or have never visited the Philippines. These foreigners have not endured the real Filipino way, have largely been living outside the bubble and so see Filipino’s as what is often used “kind, caring, happy smiling people”. More often than not these ignorants who have been living outside the bubble would call anyone seen to be putting down Filipino’s as racist.
In the Philippines, many of the outside the bubble living people experienced Filipinos at a hotel level and of course there’s a different level of interaction especially when you’re outside the bubble.
It is therefore not surprising that some foreigners have rose coloured glasses on and will see Filipinos in a different light – that is, from outside the bubble.
With foreigners living overseas. They have nothing but praises for Filipinos despite not having visited the country – they experience a dose of filipino through interactions mainly at a work level e.g. hospitals where a lot of Filipina workers are employed. What they don’t realise is that these workers are much the “brains”of the country that have been driven overseas to seek work leaving behind the largely uneducated, unskilled workers in the Philippines – the “crumb feeders” feeding off the oligarchs.
It’s true to say OFW’s support the lazy families back in the Philippines who you will see at places like Ayala eating up meals that clearly they cannot afford. The movement of workers overseas is largely the result of a repressive 60/40 constitutional ownership rule which have stifled a lot of business from foreigners in a lot of areas in addition to Filipinos who are traditionally known to rip-off foreign companies that have come to the country by renegotiating contracts, estafa scams etc. and having a legal system in the country which serves only the good of filipino’s no matter how bad they are.
As I say, what foreign company is going to invest large amounts of money on a 60 – 40 basis and have no financial controls or protections in the legal system which is severely bogged down in what is a corrupt system where not only judges but jurors being paid.
B –Filipinos living outside the bubble: A a lot of Filipinos delusional -theres no question about that. They make comments about their own Filipina kind to me and online dating sites and what annoys me is a statement they roll out like parrots “not all Filipina that”. It’s just common as hearing the term “if you don’t like it leave”.
Filipinos all seem to say and believe that they are standouts and unique. That they have no shame to bear and have a squeaky clean image. No matter whether in the north, middle or south of the country they all have this delusional opinion that only a minority of their kind are manic, stupid, failing, scamming, narcissist, and all the other things that we have discussed here. I’ve even had conversations on numerous occasions where the person said that statement and came out quite defensive over filipino’s asking for money all the time and then a couple of sentences later they asked me for money! And here’s me thinking not all Filipinos are like that sir. They will cover up their own language with weezal talk by using the words “lend” when they mean “give” (with no repay) and see themselves as being honest! bahhh!!
Yes, from an arm’s-length point of view not all Filipinos are like that… but when they enter into your bubble or you theirs – they change – LET ME REPHRASE THAT — COMPLETELY CHANGE! Filipinos fucking change.
95% of Filipina that I have dated from hundreds and hundreds of women over a decade have changed and changed quickly. So I can say not all are like that but I can say most (95%–other friends say 98%%!) of Filipina are like that (money grubbers and opportunistic as if you are a provider or ATM with no care about you as a person, just they want the money and will heap guilt and shame on you if you don’t provide it) when it comes to asking especially for money.
When you’re on a street level there is not a problem, but when you get into a relationship or friendship level then that is when you get into the bubble.
Being in the bubble is especially dangerous in a relationship– WAIT! even as simple as a friendship you are taking the first steps of entering into the bubble.
When you’re on a street level there is not a problem, but when you get into a relationship or friendship level then that is when you get into the bubble. Filipinos expect you to pull your weight, even when they don’t themselves and of course they think foreigner equals rich, equals will pay the majority if not 100% of everything they ask for (As the church says – ask and you shall receive… and most believe this! A great level of self entitlement comes out, and this comes out early in the piece not later as soon as the bubble is entered by you. Justification based on church mumbo-jumbo is used and lived by .. shame is put on those that don’t give, its humble to be poor, the joy is in giving, share your blessings… blah fucking blah.
The Filipino bubble is about accepting a person and their problems and situation.
Heard the saying “accept me for who i am”, “someone to support me and my studies or family” – RUN! This is a cultural trait that what is yours is mine and mine is yours. The mentalism of the Filipino is so fucked up they would think its normal for someone to provide a life to them, they just got to pray harder and god will provide it. When they found someone gullable like a foreigner, look out…
Just remember Filipinos bring nothing to the table
Just remember Filipinos bring nothing to the table, so they don’t have anything to give back to you, really other than sexual comfort – theres not much there in terms of intellectual interaction upstairs, worldly and life experience other than saying “have you eaten”, “drink your medicine”, “who’s there with you now”, “don’t forget to eat your dinner”.
Then when your in the bubble and get deeper into the bubble, YOU WILL start getting the family saying what is mine is yours and yours is mine but in effect they are just bleeding you dry.
The family will enter and thats the bubble starts blowing bigger.
I find this really disgusting, imagine telling your friends that your flying 20 hours say to a land called the Philippines to meet people to support the family, a girl, who has possibly one to 3 kids plus, little education, nothing really to say and talk about, a low level of mental and social skill, has no assets, no money, no job, no future, and you tell your friends you going there to provide them with your income, get them out of the shit, provide and support them for anything they ask. You will be living in a country where you will have little legal right. That everyone in the country is wanting to get out of the country and you are Visa ticket, the gold lottery winnings to getting out of the country but the catch is you have to pay everything also. Your friends would think you are stupid! – Right?– but this is the power of the Filipino bubble once inside — many foreigners get sucked in to this power and the only way to break free is to pop the bubble, leave, let it burst, let it implode. You’re playing with people who have high level of self entitlement a matter how much effort you have made, no amount of effort or financial giving is enough there’s always a demand, there’s always a need, there is always someone in need and who has a problem and not a lot of THANKYOU to go along with it.
Some at this point would call it a black hole… even if you gave a Filipino family 50,000, 100,000, 500,000 pesos a month miraculously there would still be demands and needs and … problems 🙁
These are highly dependent people. They have no idea how to move forward and get themselves out of problems and see you as an easy meal ticket. BE NICE TO FILIPINO = SIGNING YOUR OWN DEATH WARRANT.
Filipinos work on the simple principle, if you don’t give just move onto the next provider. If you don’t like it leave.
Filipinos work on the simple principle, if you don’t give, they just move onto the next provider. If you don’t like it leave. And this is where many foreigners get burnt after giving and giving and giving and getting nothing back they start scaling back the giving only to find the Filipinos will just leave because they are getting less and less and less social benefits.
I have helped a number of people and found them simply dissapear easily when the money supply runs out. You would think this ungrateful race would reciprocate in some way but by nature they are takers.
Filipinos are not interested in you. If you weren’t buying beers for the uncle, giving money for food for family gatherings, paying fares etc, . then they would follow this statement of they don’t like it they’ll just leave. Love to Filipinos is about money. Money is first, second, third on how that will help them in the future to survive – survival mentality.
If you arent giving therefore you must not love her!
Therefore, your entry into the bubble is extremely quick – mind numbingly quick in a lot of cases where you expect picture financial weight from paying for grandma’s funeral costs to birthday parties to tuition fees.
And on Filipino friendliness? The reason why Filipinos are friendly is a social benefit factor. They are continuously seeking benefits – everyone’s heard the saying “where is my gift” but they are opportunistic in every way looking for opportunities to ask for something. It’s quite simple mathematics that if there are no social benefits you will not find the Filipina hanging around much longer. They are living with their necks just above water line so why waste your time with someone who is not gonna be a giver. They even do this when they haven’t proved themselves, expecting you to give as a complete stranger. In some cases perhaps they are scared off because they’re so used to being asked for money from family members who have bled them dry – that it keeps them poor and soon as you are sick in hospital, down on your luck – guess with Filipina will go – out the door.
I often tell those that are saying “not all Filipina like that” that the Filipina have no rights to talk about that as they have no experience in what they are saying other than a Filipina to Filipina level of friendship. So when it comes to dating someone, being in the bubble…. they cannot talk from experience. They have never dated another Filipina unemotional level nor had sex with the Filipina so therefore cannot talk much like a male cannot talk about having a baby is a female can.
I have dated hundreds and hundreds of women here in the country and I can tell you that 95% of Filipina have given me problems.
I have dated hundreds and hundreds of women here in the country and I can tell you that 95% of Filipina have given me problems. The Filipina bubble comes out where I am being asked to give a helping financial hand and I am really sick of it, the lack of respect they show people visiting this country. I don’t give a shit about how they treat themselves but as I’ve seen they don’t treat themselves very good either.
Be careful of being in the Filipino bubble: The Filipino bubble applies to both foreign and males and Foreigner females dating here. I have met women who have given much of their money and possessions into the relationship only to find the bubble pop. One girl I met literally had the shirt on a back and she was staying with another Filipino lady who had helped her. I’ve met females who have been financially stung by lying and cheating pinoy’s. Much talk is about the males had been burnt in this country by the Filipino bubble but equally applies to a lot of females.
The Filipino bubble just keeps blowing and blowing and blowing and more people keep coming into the bubble each year from overseas to experience what the bubble is like. Some stupidly from overseas think that they will not get affected and that those that have been burnt to date are the result of their own inactions or inabilities. That way of thinking is just fraught with danger, having dozens of family members guilt and shame on your girlfriend and making demand expectations far outweighs your abilities that you have to protect yourself in a foreign land. Many come here and experience the Filipino bubble where more and more demands are made, for monthly rent payments, for electricity, medical costs, for babies upkeep and school fees and university fees.. Until it pops. The Philippine dream is all but over in the foreigner returns to the country with a tail between the legs.
At its peak, the bubble will blow to such a scale that regular demands will be like them receiving a weekly wage. Demands for monthly allowance, food, house repairs, new vehicles, set up a store for mum, provide computers and help for the brothers. I’ve known many foreigners who have been induced in the power of the bubble and purchased the brothers tricycle businesses and blocks of land for other family members. Most my friends including myself have been caught by the shame being heaped by the family that the foreigner is not doing enough for them also. That the girl does not have land in her name or that she does not have a car in her name. Of course a car is wanted because you can then run mum and dad around and big-note yourself amongst your Filipino friends. Of course they want a house and what so the family can come and stay as I’ve experienced a cousin and sister moved in – did not give one cent in contribution yet expected to be fed as well. This is from someone who glowingly says not all Filipinos are like that!
The Filipino bubble gets bigger and bigger, Filipinos will even let their children prostitute themselves in bars. They have to know – they’re some of the most codependent people I have met in large numbers. At the worst level they prostitute the children for money.
I’ve met many girls who send money back to their families, some in the order of 50,000 pesos a month in one case (yes 50,000 pesos a month when most Filipinos and 8000 to 10,000 pesos per month if not a little higher) and yet she was working in a bar receiving regular income from foreigners. You tell me what retired mum and dad in the province will be doing with 50,000 pesos a month? I’ve met Filipinos who in one case a friend of my ex-girlfriend was proposed to buy man from America within eight days of meeting and now she is back in the US. Some of these foreigners that are coming here so stupid as to not understand what Filipino culture and bubble is about.
The problem is you can’t explain the Filipino bubble to Filipinos – Filipinos can’t even understand jokes other than Filipino jokes, irony and sarcasm. The bubble will keep building and building and building and building to a point where it will pop. For situation where it doesn’t pop, a foreigner would have to be extremely patient and happy with the circumstances and surrounds. Many have moved to another island or location in the Philippines just to get away from the family and all take their Filipina overseas with them.
The other problem is that the bubble keeps building and building and building to point it will pop.
And when it pops the foreigners left with nothing but to simply walk away, legally they have little rights in the Philippines and are unsupported by the Philippine National police is to getting the things back. Usually people come in and things turn nasty where the Hawks will swoop and make claim on things.
Sadly Filipinos inherently in their minds want to rip people off.
Sadly Filipinos inherently in their minds want to rip people off. They will do this unknowingly even, they will even say no I am genuine, caring person but deep down culturally there want to rip people off. I say this because most of the people I’ve met have a survival mentality with their heads just above water. They simply want to grab anything and as much of what they can because of scarcity in their minds, or lack, opportunity that is presented before them. The been living with this scarcity mentality and lack for all their life lack of food, lack of jobs, lack of opportunity and when is presented sure that a lot of people off but they also do one of the left with the raw end of the stick – so they will try and get as much as they can and give as little back as possible.
Subconsciously the first people that they are thinking about when they are calculating what’s fair in a negotiation strategy is grandma, grandpa, mum and dad, the brothers and children. As a foreign outsider is simply that an outsider. And many times even referred to as a foreigner or alien and in this country?
And with the bubble goes a great level of ungratefulness, self entitlement to the highest level, lack of appreciation showing appreciation to the provider.
It’s a sad fact that the Catholic Church has engrained what has become a total lack of appreciation for what they are given. They just see it simply airs God provides, the joys and giving, God’s gifts and blessings. There is never any appreciation and linkage between the gifts given by foreigners and a real genuine gratefulness. When you’re in the Filipino bubble it becomes an expectation on norm rather than something that they would feel grateful for. Just think it’s something God is giving them, and foreigners are hanging around every corner lining up to also give to them as well from what I’ve experienced. If they play their cards right there wouldn’t be so aggressive in demanding that they become demanding and more demanding as time goes on and Filipino bubble keeps blowing up.
What is even more disappointing is that over 10 years I’ve given things to Filipinos they are more likely to go to church on the weekend and say thank you to the Lord and posting thanks the Lord on the Facebook page is a gift from God with no acknowledgement to the actual giver.
So always remember where you are in the Filipino bubble sometimes it might be better to just pop move on and walk. CUT YOUR LOSSES. I will never have a relationship with a Filipina after two long relationships over 10 years. There are many other cultures around that have greater levels of respect for “foreigners” as a human being and not treated with a grab mentality as well as bringing more to the table, even just to have a decent conversation and not sit there like a bag of rocks. You gotta remember that this bubble will just keep building and building and the needs and wants of the people in the Filipino bubble will just keep growing and growing, IT DOESN’T REDUCE – just take stock and be careful.Published in