Greetings. My name is Wolfgang. I am a German-American, former Canadian Resident, Japanese Resident, UK Special Resident, French Resident, retired gypsy, and Naturalized Filipino. I have been here 8 years and speak the local language. I have got to the point where some of the crazy makes sense. At least here. Plus, I am no longer a “poriner”. This is my home too. Has been for 7 years(including being an ICR holder). So sometimes if you hear me playing Devil’s Advocate, do not be offended and think I am defending the insanity here. But last time I was in the States, it was pretty crazy too. Just a little cleaner, and with better food. But still nuts over there as well. And do not even get started on the apocalypse that was once Europe…It is great for us to complain. But I hope this site can be a release for us, rather than a place to get riled up.
My first post is about the wife’s family. A familiar topic that afflicts many of us. Mine is not bad. I am young. Especially when I can here. I only had some chump change to live on and no job. I told my wife and her family right off that I cannot help. I mean a little maybe once in a while. But nothing guaranteed. I want my own family. And I need money for that. It is not in our culture to support our extended family that chose not to work when they were younger. Everyone was cool with that. They were just happy a sexy young artista Viking wanted their ugly family member (their views, not mine). I think I have helped maybe 10,000 and a bag of rice in all the time here. But that is not what this is about.
We have gone abroad twice. For 9 months each, so that my wife could avail of US Citizenship. While we have been here, I cannot afford to visit family. It is an hour jeep ride, 4 hour bus, 45 minute jeep, 1 day on the boat, a 45 min trike ride, an 8 hour bus, 3 hour van, 45 min trike, and a 1 hour walk!
As you can see, visiting family with a 6 person family of our own is terribly cumbersome.
So I finally have some money put aside. And I plan a visit to see the family. We text. We call. I send them load, because they do not have it. They agree to the plan to meet. They are ecstatic and happy. I buy plane tickets for the SIX of us, and pregnant wife, because buses and jeeps, and trikes would be way too hard. I buy TWO hotel rooms, because I cannot relax with her family sleeping on our hotel floor. I am going to stay very close to where they live. I will pay their transportation, hotel room, and food they have never eaten before. And give them some cash when we depart. This is the once-in-a-lifetime chance to see the grand children, and have them see their family, before lola and lolo die. Lolo has come close several times.
So they text the night before and say they said they cannot come! Lola needs to go to the palengke to sell their damned shrimp. Might bring in 30 or 40 PESOS!!! Besides, lolo is too old to stay in a hotel with a bed. He needs his SMART tarpaulin and empty rice bags on the floor of his bamboo hut for his health! Also, her brother and sister said service vans make them nauseous!
They have not seen their daughter and son in law in 7 years. Never seen their grand children. Their only grand children. We have twice returned from the other side of the planet. Now they will NEVER see their family. Especially since I am out all that money I wasted on flights and hotel (CP lets you change flights. p19,000 change fee on p20,000 tickets!!!)
As you can see, Ang Pilipenis is famous for its “strong family values” and for having “very close” families. Yeah, I can see that. That is also why my wife’s family never hugs or kisses each other. Must be why people also leave their children and husbands and go abroad to work. So they can be close to their kids. I can’t stand my 30-45 minute commute to work wasting time away from home. I get a lot of things here. At least in the context of the Failapines, a lot makes sense now. But crap like this makes my blood boil. What do you guys think? Thanks for reading! Cheers.