Thought I’d write a quick little bit about my current situation dealing with my beloved filo brained lady who loves to dig herself a ditch and shout “Pinoy Pride!” as she piles the dirt up to her neck. Yes, it’s another one of my vents to share so maybe some other guy (or girl for that matter) who married a Filipino can no longer feel alone and have a laugh, because right now, I’m finally feeling a sense of freedom and release from her stupidity, ungrateful, relentlessly childish and irrational attitude. Yes, you guessed it, that typical Filipino attitude that reveals itself time and time again, no matter how much you try to teach it, it never learns. You try everything to correct them, assist them, help them but through either greed, selfishness, manipulation, they find a way to dismiss all logic and defy you and your rational thinking brain spoiling everything for YOU and THEMSELVES, only to find themselves back where they started- Dumb and useless.
Well, I have to laugh to myself, because for almost 5 years now I have been trying to teach my partner about money and budgeting and she loves to reject it and call it “a stupid budget”. What do numbers matter anyways? Why should we even look at expense and how much anything costs? That’s for stupid people who don’t know how to have fun! Is her attitude, and after getting countless threats of her leaving and taking the kid if she doesn’t get her way with the money I decided, “OK bitch, let’s do things YOUR way” and see how far you get.
So, to my point here. WE both have a joint account because I have to monitor her spending so she doesn’t fuck us over. I went through countless arguments and fights to keep it this way so we could pay off her debt. 2 1/2 years go by with this shit, I manage to pay off $6000 of her debt, but still she’s wanting to split accounts so she can be “Free” and “unlimited”. Those purses and clothes of hers are top priority after all, and she thinks all that hard work being a cleaner deserves lots of money and freedom, but guess what? The world works in rank order and if you have a lower level position and have a kid to take care of, you don’t get the liberty of having the “Freedom” you desire. Didn’t prepare for our kid, didn’t prepare for the costs, didn’t prepare for the money hand outs to the freeloading parents, didn’t prepare financially and didn’t prepare mentally or emotionally. But what do you expect from a Filipino? They fuck breed and freeload and expect rewards for this behavior. That is their specialty and their “culture”! So her threats keep going and going saying “I want my own bank account, I want to split expenses and do it on my own”. I tell her as a couple it is best to work as a team and do things together but to no avail, she persists she will leave if she doesn’t get divided accounts. So, being a numbers guy I decided to divide all her expenses and now she is really fucked! I did her so many favors and helped her so much as well as my parents:
- A: We have a spare parking spot which I rented out for a good $780. $700 of that I paid her debt with and the remaining $80 went to her for her useless items and NOTHING to me.
- B: I spent 2 1/2 years budgeting our money on the joint account, put her debt on my low interest 4.5% credit card and paid $6000 of it.
- C: She owes tax to the government. $800 to be exact. My intention was to use my return which is equal to her debt and pay it off. That was my offer which she obviously depended on and approved.
- D: I only gave her parents money ONCE. They were pulling emotional blackmail on her saying they were going to be kicked out of their house and on the street and needed money to build a home. I knew it was a lie, but she bought every fucking word and was going to get herself back in debt. I prevented that shit fast, pulled my vacation money out, sent it and shut them up.
- E: I drive her everywhere because Filipino’s are lazy as fuck and don’t like to walk anywhere. I can’t even get her to walk a few blocks without complaining. You wouldn’t believe how many extra miles I’ve put on driving her to work and back 5 days a week. It’s hard on the car and hard on my health since I have to stay up late until she is off of work.
The list could go on, but I won’t go any further. SO far I have gotten nothing but grief and upset for all I’ve done and I’ve finally said, “You’re wish is my command. You think your limited and not free now? OK, well how about I give you some freedom then!” So now she gets her own account and I get freedom from her financial mess! $2000 is left on my low interest credit card. Well, guess what? That’s going back on her 20% credit card and now SHE gets to pay for it and she’ll more than likely only have enough for the minimum payments. But do I give a fuck? FUCK NO! You wouldn’t believe the countless times she has shown no appreciation for my help and has told me “I don’t need you and your help, just let us split the accounts or I’ll leave”. OK, well here’s your debt back and your 20% interest. The parking spot will no longer be funding her debt either! Also, my tax return will no longer be paying her tax debt! You sure you want to split accounts? Well, you asked and threatened me enough and you are going to get your wish! So on top of that her income is lower than mine since she doesn’t work as many hours. I work 40 hrs a week while she works roughly 34 hrs. So I divided the expenses up so I would pay a little more and she would pay a little less. Only difference is, I have NO DEBT, I have no freeloading parasitic parents and I’m not a money moron and I have a higher salary. So in other words I can now progress after all of her punishment and finally live free while SHE lives limited without freedom. You gotta love the backwards logic of these people. She cries, “I can’t live like this, I have no freedom, I’m so limited” when all this time she has had all the freedom and help she could ever ask for. And you wouldn’t believe the amount of help she’s gotten from my family. Down payment on a condo and she bitches and complains about it. Help towards her debt and piece of shit family, but all she’s given back is grief and it’s a shame, because I thought I might not have to type cast her as just another ungrateful parasitic Filipino.
Well, after going over her expected payment for mortgage, energy, bills I could see her heart sink. And did I feel sorry for her? Fucking hell, no way! I’ve been feeling sorry for her for years now and all it’s done is caused me pain and suffering. So now I GET FINANCIAL FREEDOM. I GET NO LIMITATIONS. I GET INDEPENDENCE and she get’s what she asked for-debt and very little money! I’ve had enough of her brainless, selfish, bullshit and now she pays her portion of the bills and leave me alone. She can spend all the left over money she wants, but she better spend it wisely because I worked out all her expenses and she doesn’t have much after everything is said and done. But rightfully deserved since she practically BEGGED for this. Maybe if she did calculations and budgeting she wouldn’t have gotten herself in this mess, but it’s her own fault for dismissing this saying “budgeting is stupid”
Well, a good life is coming for me finally after all these years. I can finally plan for MY future and not give a fuck about hers. She doesn’t want to work as a team? So be it. We’ll do things her way! You wouldn’t believe how dumb she feels and looks right now. It’s priceless. So to all you guys who have Filipino partners, never EVER help them because they are never going to be grateful, appreciative, or thankful for your generosity. They are too proud for help because they do not want to appear weak. Being helped makes them feel like they can no longer be superior, so they will go to lengths of digging their own grave to appear to be righteous and dominant! It’s really pathetic to say the least and before I thought of it as really shameful, but now I find it funny has hell! Stupidity like this should only deserve a laugh and nothing more, because trying to correct it and understand it will only make you go insane.