This part of the culture will always defy all reason for me. It drives me mad how much “adults” in the Philippines use their “adult” power to manipulate, overpower and abuse their role as being a guardian. The irresponsible nature of these people show that mental retardation is rampant and will never go away. For a while, I have been able to separate myself from this brainless “culture” but being that I am in a relationship with a Filipino, I am reminded every now and then. You’ve noticed in just about every post I always put “culture” in quotes to show exaggeration. When I think of culture, I think of something to be proud of, something with substance, something deriving from intelligence, ingenuity, and triumph. That is what it means to me. Not cock fights, irresponsible breeding, abusing children for money, poor ethics, money moron tendencies, materialism, childish behavior, narcissism and shitty food. This is really all I’ve come to grasp and understand about their “culture”. The only positive side of the Philippines is the nature, tropical areas for outdoors, but you can’t tie that to culture really.
So, onto the subject of parenting. I’ve had a good long break, not hearing or even seeing my partners parasite pest parents (because they are on the other side of the world) and I gotta tell you, it’s been liberating! But, since Filipino’s have such a devotion and subservient nature to their pimp parents, I get to hear about them every now and then and guess what question arose from my partner? “If my parents ever make it here can they stay with us?”. I just about puked, stress levels peaked, and my anxiety levels hit max. So you want to bring these ungrateful, no good, emotional black mailing scumbags here (with the NO money you have) and have me live with them? What a fucking stupid question. I don’t know why it was asked, and why I would even answer this? But being that Pinoy offspring excuse and love abuse from their superiors, it is inevitable.
I’m baffled the amount of dedication these people have to their parents and how they excuse every single bad action no matter how horrendous it may be. I honestly have come to the conclusion that my wife’s parents could have beaten her daily, raped her every Sunday and she would still put them at the top of her list of importance. In western culture (although not perfect) I see defiance, arguments, discontent and at least a little rebel in teens which I think is a perfectly natural part of growing up. When I was a teen I liked my independence and freedom and felt some of my parents actions were going in the wrong direction, and as an adult I still stand by some of my distaste for their parenting! For Filipino’s, they question NOTHING and allow ANYTHING and EVERYTHING their parent’s do. Even if they discover something disgustingly wrong and call it out, they will soon discard it and pretend they didn’t do anything wrong. For example: Last year I hear that my wife had some money kept with a friend in the Philippines. She wanted it kept there, so when she came to visit she would have some spending money. So somehow her worthless, degenerate father found out about this and went to this friends of hers and said “My daughter said that money you are holding for her is mine! So give it to me” and he went off and bought a little motor bike for himself. My wife never knew about it until some relative told her. Well guess what happened after that? My wife was initially disgusted and angry but soon after that it was erased from her mind. I brought it up one night and her excuse was “That was money he took from my sister, not me. He needed it so he could go to the market and get groceries”. So do you see the weakness of this excuse? Does it make any difference? The bottom line is, he stole money, bought himself a bike and didn’t tell anyone about it until he was caught! It doesn’t matter who it was from, what he was using the money for, it’s the fact he stole from his own blood! This is the kind of people she wants in my home? Fuck that.
The other occasion that puts a nail in the coffin for me, is their blackmailing and constant comparisons they make like “so and so got her parents this, and so and so got that” creating this value on materials and money as their only purpose, like they are only worth what they can give them! It fucking disgusts me. In an earlier post I mentioned, my partner had given them money EVERY GOD DAMN MONTH (even when she didn’t have it) for food and bills since she came in 2008, and one day they Skyped and told her “you gave us nothing!”. This is the kind of disregard these degenerate ingrates have for their offspring. This is not a culture, this is plain and simple, exploitation at it’s finest!!!
You wouldn’t believe this, but after all this abuse, including my wife’s sister crying because shes discovered they were pocketing much of the money she sent (which was meant for land) for themselves, they excused it all and started frantically packing boxes and boxes of goodies to appease their masters! I just couldn’t believe it! Sister comes to visit one day with boxes and fucking duck tape and they spend the whole day packing gifts for their abusers. What the fuck do I do? I try to intervene and ask “what in flying fuck do you girls think you’re doing? These people are ungrateful scum and you’re packing them goodies?” I know any disdain and legit criticism will be swiftly ignored. So it’s come a time where I just have to stand idle and watch the bullshit unfold in disappointment. Both of them are wasting money on these worthless ingrates and getting nothing in return for their efforts but “you don’t give us anything, you owe us more”.
This is a “culture” that claims itself to be based on family values. They scoff at us in the West and our dysfunction. You do the comparison though and the conclusion for better family life would be SUPREMELY Western.
A: You probably won’t have dirt poor, mentally retarded parents
B: You won’t have 6 brothers and 4 sisters and parents that can’t afford them(nothing wrong with that if the parents are middle class/wealthy)
C: You don’t owe your parents SHIT, because that’s part of being a parent! You decided to fuck and have a kid? You owe your child until he grows up! That’s your job! He becomes an adult, you fucking leave him/her alone! No rewards for fucking!
D: You get to visit your parents and enjoy their company without them expecting materials and gifts.
What could be better than that? There is nothing wrong with giving and spoiling once in a while. I do it with my boy, but if you raise your kid’s to do your bidding and base their value on how much they give, you are a disgusting, worthless individual who doesn’t deserve respect.
So, to put a Filipino’s life in perspective, it’s nothing different from being pimped. Most of these hookers here in the west come from broken homes, without a father or mother to raise them. They’ve been tossed around foster homes and then kicked out into the cruel world looking for love and providence, and find their sugar daddy pimp to “save” them from their despair. What happens next-she gets used and abused for money but doesn’t see the wrong in it. Being able to hand 90% of her money over to the pimp and have her pimp take care of her and “love” her, is of the utmost importance. That’s what this Filipino “culture” is truly all about.