Forced Help – Mandatory Tip

I’m certain that most of us can relate to this topic, and I am completely fed up with the numerous times where I have been placed in a situation where these filthy street Filipinos are forcing themselves to give me some unwanted, unnecessary, or unrequested assistance, and then demands you to tip them. If you are new to this country, then be prepared to be placed in this scenario at least once during your stay here.

I don’t mind handing out tips, and I can most certainly afford to give tips when the situation permits it, but it feels like every time I do anything in this country that doesn’t require any help, and help gets forced on me, I am required to tip them, and half the time I don’t carry TIP money on me, in other words: small change.  I get absolutely frustrated when I am already in the process of waiving down my own taxi, and one of these so-called ‘dispatchers,’ (at least that’s what my idiot wife calls them) who are nothing but Filipino street bums wearing raggedy old clothes, takes over what I AM ALREADY DOING (which I am completely capable of doing myself), waves a taxi down for me, opens the door for me as if that takes a lot of effort for me to do myself, then demands a tip.  Sometimes I don’t always have tip money on me, or my tip money has already been consumed by street beggars I was nice enough to donate to, then when I don’t have any money to give as tip, I get that retarded booty-face expression as if I forgot something, or to summarize: Blank Stare.

There was a time I was walking down the street in Malate trying to find a bar to relax and drink at.  This Filipino street bum was trying to advertise some girls and bars to me by saying, “Hey boss, hey boss!  You want girl?  You want beer?”  I clearly told him to “Fuck off” literally, but he didn’t get the hint and continued to stalk me and giving me an unwanted conversation I wasn’t interested in, actually it wasn’t really much of a conversation, it was just him talking and me ignoring him.  To get away from him, I finally stopped at a bar and he followed me in side demanding a tip for showing me the bar I walked into!  WTF!!!  I didn’t go to this bar because of him, I went inside to avoid him!  Prior to asking me for money, he went to the bar owner trying to get his cut for advertising his bar to me, and I guess he was denied it, then tried demanding money from me.  Apparently that is what happened.

I noticed schemes like this when it comes down to transportation services with these PUV (Public Utility Vehicle).  Just like the HyperMarket employees who ignores the shit out of you by saying,”Siiirrrr Socks,” whenever you pass an aisle of socks, these dispatchers plays the same ‘You Are Blind’ game to gain some profit from these poorly paid Jeepney/FX drivers.  I admit, I am guilty of being a passenger in a jeepney, and I feel shameful to even admit that I rode one, but there came times when the distance isn’t far enough which would permit a taxi, and not close enough to be walking distance, so it because my best option depending on the scenario.  OK, back to the story…… These dispatchers, or bums in rags, would signal Filipinos to get inside of a certain jeepney they are advertising, yelling out the location it is going to (which already happens to be posted on the jeepney itself, or on the dashboard/windshield), and after rounding up a few passengers, he gets some type of mandatory tip from the driver.  I really don’t understand this type of Jeepney logic, even without a hobo pointing out what jeepney or FX to take, I still know what ride to catch by reading the destination which is painted on the side of these PUVs.  There are even times when these hobos demands a tip from both, Taxi Driver and passenger when waiving down a taxi for the traveler.

I mentioned this once before on here, and I will mention it again since it relates to this post, but this even occurred at an airport one time when I had my luggage temporarily stolen from me once I pulled up to the airport terminal in Butuan.  These strangers seized my luggage from the tricycle I was riding in as soon as I arrived, and hauls it away from me while I was slowly chasing after them demanding my luggage back.  My idiot wife was telling me they were helping us.  After carrying it a few feet to the check-in, they both demanded a fuckin tip!  I was with my wife, and she ordered me to give them 50 pesos each.  I didn’t feel like arguing at the moment, so I gave into her demands since she is conformed to this type of Filipino behavior, and there is no way she would’ve saw my side of what I had to argue about, so I gave these unhelpful bums the 50 I was told to give.  Can anybody else see the frustration in this?  Fuckin Filipino Failures, why can’t they get a REAL HONEST JOB!!!?

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  1. Profile gravatar of

    if you driving your own car, you get the same problem if you parking.
    this idiots dont know to drive, specialy no idea to park, but standing always in your driving way and give you some curious signals.
    stress you for nothing, then ask for money.

    play the game, give him 1 peso, but let the coin fall like a misstake tell him a nice sorry, and let him search the coin. 🙂

    1. Profile gravatar of Hey Joe
      Hey Joe

      Right on Andy. I arrive at the airport with my one little carry-on bag and this shit for brains starts grabbing at my bag. I tell him many times to go away..but NO, and pulling me towards the exit. That’s NOT where I wanted to go. I needed to use the CR after the flight, but this a-hole keeps pulling me the wrong way.

      So after more or less dragging me to the exit, I give him 1p. LOL, the look on his face !! 🙂 then I still have to go back the way he forced me to get back to the CR. Christ !!! just leave me the fuck alone.

  2. Profile gravatar of Captain PFB
    Captain PFB

    Look at most of these forced help/tip people. How likely are they to get a “real job”? Don’t get me wrong, I’m not justifying their actions. Most of them grew up poor, and when you’re desperate, all principles go out the window, all concern for what people think of you doesn’t exist. Finding any way at all to gather up enough pesos so you can eat again is the absolute only thing on your mind.

    They do view it as “a real job”. I mean, look at them. Do you think Jolibee or McDonalds is going to hire them? So what else do they have to do to scape up enough money for their next meal? I have to say, at least they are trying to DO SOMETHING for the money. They are one level up from the ones that aren’t even willing to do anything but sit and hold their hand out and ask for money for doing nothing.

    I would certainly be more willing to give my 10 peso coin to those who are trying to use more than one hand held out to get money (with the exception of those who are too old or disabled to do much of anything but hold their hand out).

    Nobody can deny the situation for millions of people here is desperate. And unfortunately Philippines as a nation willfully and knowingly chooses to keep things that way. It is completely expected, utterly normal to get elected and have no sense of obligation to serve your constituents, but to use your office mostly for personal gain and try to vindicate yourself by taking about 10% of national funds to build a basketball court so you can put up a sign saying “Project of Senator Bong Gamay Dong” instead of “Project of the people through taxpayer’s money” in order to make yourself look wonderful, then pocket the other 90% that SHOULD be used to build that drainage to fix that flood prone area that devastates business and people’s homes every time it rains more than an inch or two.

    How much fault should be place where? Well who the fuck knows? Because the Filipino’s mind is such that it really doesn’t matter who you elect. They’re going to be as corrupt and dishonest as any average Filipino is. These people are not capable of change. They are too far gone. There is no “big picture view”. There is only the “every man for himself” way of life here. And desperate times call for desperate measures. Therefore you have the people that force their help on your for any amount of chump change.

    I’m sure we all go through this thought process of anger, sympathy, frustration, and confusion. Sometimes I find myself coming to the conclusion that Philippines is the mentally disabled child of the world, incapable of holding their own, and I sometimes feel it’s our place to just feed them, clothe them, and help them survive, because they cannot do it themselves. It’s certainly what I would do if it were my own child, no matter how old he grows, he’s still mentally incapable of standing on his own two feet. These people have proven for decades they are incapable of change. You don’t even see any kind of gradual change. They bite the foreign hands that feed them, they want to rip off any foreign business that wants to invest in their country, they just refuse to change, or are totally incapable of change, not sure which is the truth.

    Yeah, occasionally my humanity comes out. It’s quite an emotional roller coaster to deal with these people. Always will be. One day I will refuse to tip the forced help, the next I’ll feel sympathy and will tip. I can always afford to tip. But some days principle wins over sympathy. Other days, sympathy wins over principle.

    1. Profile gravatar of CebuBear

      Filo, I’m speechless! What a weel thought out response! Now I will have to offer something else as my view. Can’t have the tone of the forum slipping, into understanding and compassion, now, can we? hehehe

      1. Profile gravatar of Captain PFB
        Captain PFB

        You do have a point Bear. But I have to admit, the barbaric part of humanity comes out in me (certainly due to the fact I can and will never be able to fully stand in their shoes (or flip flops in this case)).

        It is an intense struggle for those of us whom which common sense, logic, reason, and a pinch of principle and decency come totally naturally, with little need to really work it out in our brains because it’s just there, and we tend to think that is the way the human mind “just is”, therefore we can seemingly easily conclude that they must not have a human mind.

        Fact of the matter is, we are all products of our environment. We are born with a clean slate, and as we grow, our minds become what goes into them, what our minds have been fed. We truly ARE what we eat.

        And what has been fed to these minds are things like “reject change” (I’m not talking about pocket change! That is the only kind of “change” they accept!) “taking advise means the advise giver is smarter than you, and we just can’t have any of that now can we, so do the complete opposite to prove you’re smarter than them regardless of how wise the advise was”, “ignore anything that has a long term benefit (like establishing trust) and rip off for personal gain whenever possible for today, worry about tomorrow tomorrow” and many more. This is completely the right way in their minds, and that is why you get so much denial and resistance when you try to reason with them.

        Their pride lies completely in their strength to preserve themselves at any cost, even when denying the bloody fucking obvious facts and reality. They have been raised and conditioned to stay completely inside themselves, to feel entitled and justified to be dishonest and corrupt, then blame it on others. And those others will accept it, and admire them for being a strong prideful Filipino.

        What we see as completely ass-backwards, they see as completely normal. And if you try to use logic with them, it makes no sense at all. Really.

        It’s a hard pill to swallow. Doesn’t make them any less stupid though. This is their world. We have to live in it. But thanks to blogs like this, we don’t have to do it silently.

    2. Profile gravatar of FAFI
      FAFI Post author

      I completely understand where you are coming from FiloFail, it is better to give to those who are making an effort to make money. Even I believe that it’s better to give to those who are trying to deserve it, and I stated in this post that there are times I do, but my main argument comes from those times when I don’t have the money, sometimes simply because I have been plundered of all my small change by street beggars by the time I reach a taxi and receive forced help. I highly doubt that their services is worth 50php or 100php, there was a time when my smallest bill was 500php, and I learned the hard way that time to keep at least a few 20s and 50s, because the taxi driver sure did fuck me over by saying that he only had 100php on him, so he got major undeserved tip from me of 400php…… errr, that moment still haunts me! But anyway……

      If I have chunk change, I will tip. And like I said, I even give to beggars if it appears that they really need it, but if they look like they just had a shower an hour ago and properly clothed, then most likely their greedy parents are making them beg for a living, which I don’t condone at all. I mainly like to try to give these beggars a reason to deserve a tip, by requesting them to throw away my empty bottle for me for 5 pesos, usually because I can’t find a trash bin in public (unless I’m near a 7-eleven)…. no wonder why these streets are filled with garbage!

      Overall, about .5% of my earnings do go towards beggars per month, which is still quite a bit. The thing is that I can’t help them all, and I can’t always provide tips when I don’t have tip money, considering all the times I usually do tip, then I end up having an a small argument about not tipping, that’s what I’m really complaining about, and that is the focus point of this article. All-in-all, tips shouldn’t be mandatory anyway, and I know there are many who don’t give them, so in comparison to the many non-tipping Filipinos in this country, I’m not so bad 🙂

  3. Profile gravatar of CebuBear

    You’re missing the point, Fafi. This is not about you, or your needs or capabilities. This is all about them and their needs. The average Filipino accepts this and plays the game for fear one day they will be ‘On Standby’ like these ‘dispatchers’. It gets to the root of the culture and the mindset of the average 86er (a title a friend gave to them reflecting the average IQ is 86, or 10 points lower than in the USA).

    Rethink the situation and ask yourself if you were they, given their upbringing, education (or lack thereof) and career prospects, not to mention the fact you know your (lowly) place in a society that really lets you know you’re shit when you are not one of the lucky few, perhaps then you might see things differently. At the very least you can tell them to fuck off with genuine, Filipino-style insouciance. Just like any rich Pinoy.

    You need to toughen up and learn to exude contempt and arrogance. These are not human beings, fellow countrymen, the victims of an oligarchical society run by the rich and kept in check by the catholic church inc and its particular, and peculiar, brand of myth and superstition. No. They are the ‘massa’. The untermenschen every feudal society needs to do the menial tasks, to kow tow to you to remind you daily of your superiority and of course, to fill in the spaces in the gutter between dead rats, anorexic cats and grubby little brats.

    Always carry a few P5 coins to spread the largesse and prove what a wonderful, christian you are; a true leader of your people and worthy of their attention. Remember, when you ignore a woman and her emaciated child, begging in the filthy streets for what to you is not worth wearing a hole in your pants pocket, ignore them with compassion!

    1. Profile gravatar of FAFI
      FAFI Post author

      I reply to comments as I read them, and I happened to answer your question in Filofail’s comment for you already, but I will reiterate since you are deserving of a well and unique response. I keep a large coin jar in my room which I deposit coins after every run from the SMs, fast food joints, or from any establishment where I would receive change. And what do I do with that change? Well I stuff some of it in my pocket for the next run I make to the store, and expecting many beggars and force-helpers along the way. You say this is about them, OK, lets talk about them.
      Q: Was their help welcomed or requested?
      A: In some cases it’s not. Especially in situations when they are trying to help, but are invoking the complete opposite: destruction. Do you care for an example? I will give you one.

      That time when my luggage was being hauled away at the airport, I forgot to mention that a fragile souvenir was damaged during the careless handling process by this so-called ‘helper.’ Relating to this experience, here is the next question.

      Q: What is the difference between being robbed, compared to a stranger grabbing your bags unwarranted?

      A: Where we grow up, assistance is usually requested by the client, or is verbally offered prior to just grabbing your belongings without permission. So we are already in an alarmed state when these strangers just grabs your bags. But Filipinos don’t have the courtesy to ask you if you need help first. What if a scenario where you are getting robbed actually does happen? Are you going to assume he is helping you, or are you going to be on guard at all times like most people would?

      You see Cebu, this is not only about me, this also relates to Filipino’s lack of courtesy and personal space, and Filipinos seems to be the only nation of people who seems to cross that line, and at the same time be a nation of crooks, thieves, and untrustworthy individuals. If I didn’t get screwed over almost every time by a Filipino, then I wouldn’t automatically assume that every time a Filipino tries to help me that I’m getting robbed. OK, let me move onto the next question…

      Q: Do these force-help Filipinos demands a tip every time?
      A: Most of the time they do, but if you are a foreigner, then they expect it every time. The problem is that I wont have tip money every time. I like to keep my cool and not blow up on people, because that shit wont fly in the states, but there were times when I had to lose my humanity and tell them to ‘Fuck Off!’ I’m generally nice and don’t like raising my voice at people, but Filipinos tends to give me a reason to raise my voice at them almost every time…. must I remind us that too much stress isn’t good your health?

      Another thing I learned in life, and from watching a lot of COURT TV in the past, is that ‘REASON DOESN’T JUSTIFY YOUR ACTIONS.’ Yes, I completely understand that most Filipinos lives in a shit-hole, and money is very scarce in this country, and I see what means they have to resort to in order to place food on their table daily, in actuality, some don’t even have tables. They still don’t have to resort to bad manners in order to get what they want, and if they had the intelligence to realize it, they might be more likely to receive tips, praises, or necessities if they approached their clients with a little bit more respect. Now onto the last question:

      Q: Is it their fault they are in this impoverish and desperate setting?
      A: In most cases, no. It’s their shit-for-brains parents who were so irresponsible to bring a child into this world when they couldn’t even afford to support themselves. Being deprived of adequate education repels their mind away from any advancement, and ability to think for themselves, so they only know the way of the streets.

      I can sit down with you over a cup of Starbucks and talk to you about this all day, but to sum this all up: Filipino behavior from the corrupted politics up at the top, down to the desperate squatters at the bottom is clearly a problem to anybody who comes in close contact with them. No matter how poor, or how rich, the existence of Filipinos has always been problematic, and it wont be long until they are recognized as a global issue since they are liability to the rest of the world. Offering cheap labor isn’t considered as a global asset, anybody can offer that. So what is the Philippines good for again? Enlighten me….

      1. Profile gravatar of CebuBear

        You missed my point re this not being about you and took it as literally as any Pinoy. Methinks you have been there too long, you seem too defensive and no longer able to fathom the subtle variations of sarcasm LOL. Re-read my post and remember it is not an attack on you or your actions, ok na lang? Remember, when you start to use the word ‘Filipino’ as a swear word, it’s time to leave. I did and I confess I am looking forward to going back next month… but only for business and family hook ups. I would never live there longer than 3 months at a stretch ever again.

        1. Profile gravatar of FAFI
          FAFI Post author

          OK, I am already sensing that this conversation/argument isn’t going to get us anywhere. I may not be able to express my views as intelligently as a book writer like yourself, but you have already attempted to degrade me with the whole ‘Methinks’ caveman talk, and the whole ‘ok na lang’ talk as if I’m Fiiipino. Every point I made prior to your comment has been reflected on the obvious Filipino discourtesy and rude mannerism, if your point is to contradict that thought, then be my guest, I have no problem with fellow foreigners who loves this country more than the locals.
          I’m 100% aware of their needs, and I believe we all know that basic needs is a necessity to everyone worldwide, my argument is about the desperate measures they take to obtain those resources. It’s true that they may not know right from wrong, but there was a point in life where I didn’t know right from wrong too, it’s called being ‘YOUNG,’ and eventually after having the right amount of education being applied to me overtime and choosing my role models carefully, I go to be where I am at now.
          I’ve seen Filipinos deny themselves of the education offered to them, and it’s fair to say they don’t idolize the right people and following their example. So what happens? They grow up in poverty, and give birth to poverty stricken children. All of this could’ve been prevented right? But the cycle of ignorance still continues. I do sympathize for the young who were born this way, but I am totally disgusted with the ones who had control to improve their life, and refused to do so.
          Whatever point you are trying to make Cebu that you want me to see isn’t going to be expressed by me in this article. I may have expressed the realization of your point posted or commented somewhere else on this blog, but this article is only meant for one point, and that is about the unpleasant encounter of these street bums. If that is attractive to you, feel free to argue against that too. If like to deliberate more on this, I’m open for discussion. If there is another point you really want to make about this article that is not covered on here, then about YOU post an article about it if you wanna express your grievances on their unfortunate circumstance. I admit that it is truly saddening, but I currently don’t have the heart to tackle that issue in detail for you. I can’t impress everybody in what I say, and I’m sorry if your views and ideas on this article has not been incorporated in what I have said, but then again, this is a blog and everybody is entitled to their own personal opinion, you just happen to be ONE of NINE commenters who doesn’t agree on my subject matter. Since your comment was a follow-up of what FiloFail said, then it’s safe to assume that it’s TWO out of NINE who don’t fully agree with me. 7 out of 9 is still pretty good statistics for me, like I said before, I can’t impress everyone. But I’m not here to impress anyone, just sharing experiences and inputting my 2 cents about them.

          1. Profile gravatar of CebuBear

            Fafi you have completely missed my point. My original response wasn’t an attack on you or your post. Quite the opposite it was a ‘back handed ‘verification. But never mind. There is no argument as we would be on the same side, just expressing the same view in different words.

            I do think you need to get away for a while, the place is obviously wearing you down; been there done that as they say. As for uploading my own post, I have done several times and I accept not everyone will agree with everything I write. As for ‘methinks’ and ‘ok na lang’, if you wish to deconstruct those words that way, er… up to you! Sige na!

          2. Profile gravatar of FAFI
            FAFI Post author

            I just tend to detect sarcasm a mile away, even if a vile message were to present itself to me in a subliminal way, I try decrypt it. Turns out you were not trying to be a pain-in-the-rear by incorporating a small mixture of Tagalog while addressing me. I thought you were doing it out of malice to signify that I’m a Filipino (mentally). But after reading your Shakesphere articles on here, I often misinterpret some of the terminology you use as something else. Sorry in advance if I have taken your comments in the wrong way, it turns out that Filogic is contagious and I really do need a break from this hell-hole, as if my weekly body massages (legit massage, not whore massage), weekly commenting on PFB, and daily alcohol intake isn’t therapeutic enough for me 🙁 Half my problems will finally be gone when summer break comes up later this month, been thinkin about going to Singapore or Thailand.

  4. Profile gravatar of Fr. Bong Bong Jolog Jun III
    Fr. Bong Bong Jolog Jun III

    Lots of great responses here – and a great deal of food for thought. I’ve arrived at a point where I no longer give money to beggars. I in fact arrived at that point a very long time ago, after realizing that if you give to them just once, they never leave you alone thereafter. I walk along the same streets each day, going to the gym, visiting the supermarket, just normal stuff. I’ve ignored the local street scum to the point where I am now just a part of the local vista – and am appropriately ignored. The only time I am ever noticed is when new street scum washes up out of the drains after a storm. The inevitable “Hey Joe” starts falling form their imbecile mouths, followed with requests for money. I don’t even look at them. I keep walking, never altering my (fast) pace, and will literally bump (hard) into these people (I use the word loosely) if they don’t get the fuck out of my way.

    With street scum who try to provide unwanted services I take the tree level approach, designed more than anything to let them know that I’ve been around for a while and am not a tourist.

    1. “Hindi po” (With respect, no) – said gently and with actual respect
    2. “Akoyo ko” (I don’t want) – said more loudly and with impatience
    3. “Buwisit ka! (you’re a nuisance) – said loudly and with very real menace

    Almost all of them (85% +) go away after a simple and polite “Hindi po”. Only once have I ever had one of these imbeciles stay around beyond “Buwsit ka!”. I was in a restaurant he had followed me into. I jumped up from my chair and grabbed him – right at the same time the owner of the restaurant joined me – and we threw him out the door. Fortunately, this clearly doesn’t happen very often.

    I feel sympathy and empathy for the street people in the Philippines. I do not feel an obligation to solve their problems, or feed them. After several attempts at doing business here and trying to create employment, I have simply given up. I’d need to see them trying to help themselves before I’ll ever begin to try again.

    1. Profile gravatar of Captain PFB
      Captain PFB

      Well said and makes perfect sense to me. When I am feeling the urge to toss a coin, it’s for a dirty little obviously hungry child (i can’t blame them at their age, and there’s still some humanity left in me) or for an obviously disabled old man or woman. But then again, for all I know, it wouldn’t shock me if some purposely cut off an arm or hand or leg to increase their chances of handouts. You just can’t trust anyone. So good for them on the days I’m feeling extra sympathetic.

      I wouldn’t call tossing 10 or 20 pesos at an obviously hungry street child or beggar “solving their problem”, I’m just easing their hunger pains for a few hours. I can walk past them and ignore them tomorrow just as easily as I can today. Suffering is suffering no matter who’s fault it is. And at times I just can’t stand to walk past the suffering without doing some little something. Like I said previously, there are some days for me when sympathy wins over principle.

      1. Profile gravatar of FAFI
        FAFI Post author

        You totally raise a point, but the weakness I always had in life is compassion and having the mentality to place myself in the other person’s shoes. If I was a suffering beggar, I would love to be showered with coins daily. I do have to look at it in the other perspective of, “Would they do that for me” kind of mentality. One thing I can’t stand seeing is suffering, but I do utilize my discretion wisely when choosing who is deserving of temporary financial relief. I dictate in who gets coins in the same way as you do Filo, like to the ones who seems to be hanging onto their last thread of life.
        As Catholic driven this country is, I’m surprise that they don’t embrace death instead of trying to avoid it by living off of scraps each day. If they are so positive in their religious ways, and their salvation to a better life, then don’t they just give up on their will to survive right now, considering the fact that they are barely making it, and it’s not exactly suicide either. I don’t mean for this portion of my comment to sound offensive if it did to anybody, but I felt the need to express religious Logic that Filipinos have. They have high claims to love god and follow his religious orders, so why are they so reluctant to meet him? It will subside the curiosity of their inevitable after life, and it will decongest the over-population in the country they are so proud to be a part of.

        Just for the record, this comment does not encourage Filipinos to die, nor does it signify that there will be a better way of life with less Filipinos in the world. This comment only refers to the Filipino’s invisible fear of going to the place and meeting the person they pray to every week. Maybe their faith or their belief in the existence of their god isn’t as doubtless as they made it out to be (Big Grin 😀 )

        1. Profile gravatar of Fr. Bong Bong Jolog Jun III
          Fr. Bong Bong Jolog Jun III

          “As Catholic driven this country is, I’m surprise that they don’t embrace death instead of trying to avoid it by living off of scraps each day.”

          These poor bastards are fed a steady diet of superstitious, idiotic, incoherent bullshit from the day they are born – and know NOTHING else. It’s taught in their homes, in their churches and in their schools. The same imbecilic nonsense pours out of their television sets and radios. Images of their Lord and savior Jesus are pervasive – billboards, jeepneys, taxis, malls, in peoples homes – they’re everywhere. They go to SM and at midday some imbecile recites prayers over the loudspeaker. No alternative world views are EVER presented to them, making alternative belief or non-belief all but impossible for them to even fathom.

          You have to remember FAFI that Catholicism is completely inconsistent with any form of reality. The natural urge of people to survive doesn’t go away, just because they have been indoctrinated to believe in some all-powerful sky fairy. Air, water, food, sex, shelter, love and self-actualization (in that order) is what people seek by default. Listening to some delusional pedophile on a pulpit can’t change that – people will still want to survive – and won’t want to “meet their maker” ant time soon.

          I was king for a day in this country and had only one thing I could do, I’d burn every church to the ground, making sure to load them up first with “holy” texts, religious iconography, and every purveyor of superstition I could capture – priests, nuns, televangelists – all of them. Religion is the greatest spurge of the Philippines. It’s grip on Pinoy society is the one thing which holds the Filipino people back, more than any other factor. That piece of medieval minded garbage they call the Pope has so much to answer for.

          1. Profile gravatar of CebuBear

            Gee CyberGod, why hold back? You’re on a roll, Brother! I have said many of the same things over the years and lost at least two cyber friends voer my views. They thought my view on the institution and the practice was also against them nd their choice of faith. Not at all. If you can believe the dogma and it gives you something positive, go for it. As CyberGod so eloquently puts it, “Catholicism is completely inconsistent with any form of reality.” But then in the Land of Lip Service, very little is as it appears to be.

          2. Profile gravatar of FAFI
            FAFI Post author

            Catholicism and the use of a church can be better viewed as a business than a faith. I took somebody’s test on here and asked Filipino, “Is Catholic your tradition, or is it your faith?” He said tradition. So in other words, he chose that path out of natural conformity to be in sync with the other Filipinos, not just because he naturally believes in it.
            Anyway, I wanna question one thing you mentioned.
            “Air, water, food, sex, shelter, love and self-actualization (in that order)”
            Sex takes priority over shelter? Is that the real order or was there a mistake in this. You did say that these were in order right? LOL…. I just want to re-verify.

          3. Profile gravatar of Fr. Bong Bong Jolog Jun III
            Fr. Bong Bong Jolog Jun III

            FAFI you could Google Abraham Mazlow and his hierarchy of needs. There is volumes of information about this on the web and in other places. The homeless in Philippines provide a group place where you can observe it all first hand. In essence, when people have enough air they seek out water, when they have enough water they seek out food, when they have enough food they seek out sex, etc. The Philippines has many, many homeless people. Does that stop them from having kids? I think Maslow’s point is more than proven!

  5. Profile gravatar of Kiwimuzz

    There is this little girl who walks past my drinking hole every day with a sack collecting recycles. I give her 10 peso every day. The guys I drink with think I am mad (a) because apparently giving money to beggars is illegal, and (b) I could be accused of baiting this young girl for devious purposes. Is it true that it is illegal to give money to beggars?

    1. Profile gravatar of NotMe

      Your drinking buddies are right. Begging is against the law, and so is giving money to them. However, let me point out that the law also states that the government is to provide rehabilitation to these poor people. But because most of the taxpayers’ money goes into politicans’ pockets, this so-called project goes nowhere. I’m not saying that this makes giving money to them okay. I’m saying that the likelihood of actually getting arrested or fined for it is remote. Just look at the sheer number of beggars still roaming the streets.

      BUT, because you’re a foreigner, I advise you to steer clear of anything that might give corrupt law enforcers reason to accuse you of breaking the law. Mind you, 90% of them are corrupt, and I know of foreigners who have been thrown in jail just because they can afford to pay to get out.

      You seem to be a very decent person, as shown by the fact that you would show compassion to this little girl. Just please be careful.

    2. Profile gravatar of CebuBear

      Kiwimuzz, it is illegal to give alms to mendicants, probably why the catholic church incorporated’s kiddie fiddlers do fuck all charitable work. Don’t want to break too many laws at once… You do leave yourself open to being set up as some kind of pedophile ‘grooming’ the child. A long bow to draw but dis is da pilipeens and logic and plausibility are not required to keep you languishing in a cell for 5 years on remand like Brit Kevin Taylor.

      I think the whole question of stand byes gets down to your own concept of compassion and your tolerance levels. They are annoying, they are illogical and useless but yes, at least they are doing something for your largesse. You can despise them or their actions, I prefer to despise the society that has allowed this to become so entrenched everyone simply accepts it. If the catholic church inc. sold off half their property they could build houses and stock farms and solve the problems. Then again, the waste in our western governments could do a lot too and the reality is, the world is an imperfect place and will never be otherwise. Chaos rules eternal.

      So if one chooses to live in the Pinas, I guess you have to go with the flow. I remember I used to care about the pi dogs roaming the streets. After 3 years living there I had to force myself to swerve around the idiot jay walkers, never mind the friggin dogs. It is simply the way it is. As my wife says, if it were the same as back home, you wouldn’t go there.

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      Kiwimuzz, this is what I do. I don’t give them money but, once in a while I buy them street food or something cheap from a local store. It is a bit of hassle but I notice that the decent ones usually accept the food and the shady ones do not accept food. So give it try and see if it works out for you.

    4. Profile gravatar of 30-30

      be very careful,,, you are a good person no doubt. but the local mafia watch this like a hawk,,
      your giving could be twisted into something a whole different if a local police see you.

  6. Profile gravatar of Chicago_IceSkater

    We get this in NAIA every single time after we get through immigration and the baggage claim. Drives me nuts. My hubby (American) is an able bodied man and he can carry his own luggage and place it on the cart. I think just cuz they see a white guy they think it is ok to just go push his cart and let him follow you while expecting a tip in the end? And of course you have to be vigilant and be able to pick out who the real “porters” are that are employed by the airport and who is just an average bum from the street in a fake porter uniform who is trying to make off with your luggage. I have a different opinion regarding street children but since it is widely known (from when I was growing up) that they are probably victimized and employed by criminal syndicates, meaning that any money you give them they probably just get a very small chunk of it, if any at all. the rest they turn over to the criminals. that is why i always preferred to give them food instead. When I was still in the Philippines, I would order a separate meal to go and then hand it out to the kids waiting outside the restaurant. At least I know they definitely benefited from what I gave them. In Chicago, where the average restaurant servings are huge (“American size”), I always take my leftovers in a doggie bag and hand it to a homeless person. Sometimes I get the “oh come on girl i want a dolla” but they still take it. When I turn my head to after I walk away to see if they tossed the food I gave them, they are eating it.

  7. Profile gravatar of Joe

    In my opinion, when I walk from point A to point B, I walk with a purpose-aware of what’s around me, but focused on getting where I need to be. Helping hungry children with their hand out only invites-nore children. They watch for that and will flock to you. If you’re up for that-or in the mood that day, well, I guess go for it. I never am, but that’s not to say I’m without compassion. I did pay a lot out to try to save the life of a filipino gal with cancer by paying her treatments (chemo, radiation, meds). I guess I bought her about 6 extra months of life (pain free with meds) before she died, but there’s a family who will forever be greatful to me for the time I bought extra time with their sister/daughter that otherwise would have been shortened. They ask nothing from me-even though they are poor. So there’s ways of giving that are not always as direct as handing out food or money. Needless to say, I still feel the source of the shortcomings from these desperate people is engrained in the culture, government, and attitude toward life in general. If you think in your lifetime you will see positive change and progress-that’s just pie in the sky.

  8. Profile gravatar of HawkEye

    I’ve been here for a few decades. when I first got here the population was about 65 million people. today its about 95 million, that’s quite a few extra people. Little wonder that poverty continues in this country. when I first arrived here I would tip like an idiot to anything that walked. I realized within a few years that such practice was wrong, you’re only encouraging poverty. I no longer tip for anything most places already have a 10% service charge irrespective of the service being good or bad. I really don’t care for the poor who don’t help themselves; they just keep breeding and breeding and breeding with no thought of the consequences. I don’t see why I should feel responsible. SO nowadays I only look after those who actually do something of value for me, like my housemaid with a 22,000 per month salary live in and all she can eat and like my employees who do quite well relative to others in our industry.

    1. Profile gravatar of Chicago_IceSkater

      i don’t know what it is…I have tanned skin, so I am not a mestiza and you would think I blend well with the crowd there…but i have NO idea how salespersons, or spa girls/stylists/nail technicians can TELL if you are a Filipino visiting from abroad. Here I was, wearing flip-flops (ok they were Juicy Couture, but unless you were specifically staring at my feet then you shouldn’t notice the writing on the side), simple capri pants and a comfy tshirt that has my university’s mascot on it (no school name). Just a comfortable, casual outfit. It’s so HOT in Manila that I was not in the mood to dress in nice jeans, closed shoes, you get my drift. Plus only Filipinos actually dress to the nines when going to the mall, LOL. I don’t do that unless I’m in Michigan Avenue here and I am going to other places aside from Water Tower Place. Anyway…so I thought I looked like the average pinay visiting the mall…I figured I should get my nails done cuz it’s cheaper there than $35 + $10 tip for mani/pedi in my go to downtown Chicago vietnamese nail salon. I go to this cute nail spa (I forgot the name but it was in Robinsons in Marcos Highway). All stations were full and there were two girls waiting. I thought I was gonna have to wait and was ready to take out the magazine in my purse to read. But the lady at the desk took me instead of the two girls (who were obviously customers, not maids waiting for their employers) when the next station opened up. And then these two technicians practically fell over themselves asking what services i wanted. I thought it was so bizarre. Could they tell that the logo on my shirt was from an American university ? Was it my flip-flops or my brand name purse? I didn’t even have makeup on and my hair was just in a messy bun on top of my head. I don’t do that “rebonding” stuff to my hair. I told this later to my aunt and she joked that these people can “smell” or “whiff out” who came from abroad, and want to wait on that person cuz they tip much better. I did give $5 tip for a $15 service (mani/pedi w/ paraffin) which is still way cheaper than what I’m used to. but still I found it nuts. My mom experiences it too when she goes to the RIcky Reyes salon during her visits.

      1. Profile gravatar of Chicago_IceSkater

        and I am also fluent in Tagalog and I don’t speak English in the stores cuz I don’t want them to think they rip me off neither. so it’s not like I was flaunting my “American/Midwestern” accent LOL

      2. Profile gravatar of NotMe

        Maybe the other two in the salon weren’t maids waiting for employers but friends waiting for friends 🙂 Anyway, I wouldn’t say that it was about what you were wearing, but rather how you were carrying yourself. I say this because number 1, I know for a fact that Pinoys are not very good with brands. Sure they know the more popular ones, but most of “us” are easily fooled by knock-offs. Which brings me to my second point – imitation brands abound in this country. Just today, I saw a

        1. Profile gravatar of NotMe

          [cont…] jeepney driver wearing Guess. It’s probably evident from the way you conduct yourself that you’re an educated, well-to-do individual. Now THAT is something Pinoys can smell from a mile away.

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      @Hawkeye 22000 per month? What does she do? Isn’t that kinda high for a housemaid? Reason I ask is because usually housemaids earn on average about 5k per month.

      1. Profile gravatar of HawkEye

        Hello Diesel i only have 1 housemaid (dont like that word. She’s more a household manager). Been with me for 10 years a real workhorse, smart with initiative, who does everything around the house. In her late 40’s and she deserves her income. My wife of course, who does work, is the only one who provides for my sexual needs he he he

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          FAFI Post author

          I simply just give my idiot wife allowance for the housemaid stuff she do, plus she provides my sexual needs. As for work, I’m sure my income is enough to support us (and her useless family). 2 in 1, I think I have the better end of the deal here 😀 , but I’m still the lowest man on the totem pole since I’m married to a Filipina idiot 🙁

          1. Profile gravatar of Chicago_IceSkater

            I hope you don’t think all of us Filipinas are idiots! LOL I know my fair share and yes there are some idiot ones but there are smart ones that take pride in hard work and academic/professional achievement (I like to think I am one of them LOL). But yes I do know what you mean though. Even my own sister who is very successful professionally here still has typical pinot tendencies (showing up 2 hours later when we have plans that I have actually given her an earful about it….now she is only 30 mins late…i always wondered how she she held a job and climbed the ladder 😛 but she and the rest of her department work from home. haha)

          2. Profile gravatar of CantFixStupid

            HUGE difference between Filipinos raised abroad and natives. Just to be clear, some of the smartest and most logical friends i know and still meet up with when i’m in Virginia Beach, VA are Fil-Am. This site specifically targets the native idiot population (not all) here in Pinas.

  9. Profile gravatar of Chicago_IceSkater

    We’ve always had luck with our housemaids as we get hardworking ones from the province and we also treated them fairly, gave them sundays off and they even ate at the same time as us at the same table. On the other hand…RELATIVES…Ugh talk about moochers and entitled a**holes. It wasn’t really until after I moved here and got a part time job shortly after arrival (retail). I started getting letters and emails from my cousins who were older, able bodied who for some reason or other, weren’t working. They would ask for these type of newly released gym shoes, tshirts, etc. etc. Keep in mind I was only 16 and earning minimum wage. Sure, what i was making at the mall was really high in a day compared to what mall workers in the Philippines do in a day, but still I was 16! My mom put me to work so she wouldn’t have to give me an allowance and to properly introduce me to life in America. I was glad she did. And these cousins of mine just asked for this and that. I guess I never appreciated the value of money until I was making it myself and I found myself asking, wtf are they bothering their teenage cousin who stands on her feet for 7-8 hours every Saturday/Sunday for money or new clothes?? I even cleaned the restroom at our store after we close. Why can’t they find their OWN job? Grrr. They saw that I was sending stuff to my sister (who was in college in the Philippines then–she had to return to finish it up before moving back to the US and as many middle class Filipinos there who are full time students, didn’t work part time) like some makeup, Nine West purses, some new tops…stuff I got on sale here but i still used my own money. I was ok w/ buying my sister stuff but not my freakin cousins who picked on me when I was younger or never paid attention to me until now that I was in the US making some almighty dollars >:(

  10. Profile gravatar of CantFixStupid

    Getting a yaya in Davao primarily to clean. I don’t like the constant holding and carrying of babies here, i just think it makes babies more whiny. So yea gonna let yaya know to help with cleaning primarily, i’ll find out on my own how it goes… I figure a decent salary to start would be 4000P, with increases as i see how well she works for us. I’ll look up labor laws cause i know SSS and PhilHealth needs to get paid.

  11. Profile gravatar of heyjoe

    We have had many maids thru out the years. It can be a problem finding good help. If you have provincial connections that can be a place to find someone. When we have had younger maids the problem seems to be they fall in love and leave to be with their boyfriend. If you get a married lady then you have the baggage of their husband and kids. Many times the husband is a bum just living off his wife and when their kids have problems it becomes your problem also. Seems like they always want advances on their salaries. If we are lucky to find a
    hard working ,honest and loyal maid I try to do my best to do everything to treat her right but many times that just spoils them. We live on Luzon. Right now we have two maids that are from Negros. At least their families are to far away to cause us any problems.

  12. Profile gravatar of heyjoe

    I agree with FAFI 100% on the unsolicited help that beg for tips. They are everywhere. Every single parking lot has a guy directing traffic. I usually don’t need his help but sometimes they do help stop traffic so you can get out easier. I always tip these guys. They also have wannabe security guards that watch your vehicle while it’s parked. I usually tip these guys also. If you fail to tip them the next time you park there you may find scratch marks or other damage on your vehicle when you leave. It’s always a pain when leaving the airport dealing with the baggage carriers. I also find it quite amusing to find people inside the men’s room wanting tips for assistance. I’m sorry but I’m very capable of holding my own dick while I piss. I never give kids in the street money. I think it just encourages them to make begging a career. It’s always the same kids in the same places. Also when I’m walking down the street I am concentrating on my surroundings trying to be aware of pickpockets and snatchers. I don’t need to be distracted by a beggar.

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      FAFI Post author

      That aint nothing, I did shopping today, and some Filipino was trying to help me to a taxi that was already there waiting in life for me to get inside. I declined his help, when the taxi driver popped open the trunk, the Forced-helping Filipino tried to hold the trunk open for me so I can put my groceries inside. I knew what he was doing, so I told him to fuckin stop (on the account that I didn’t have any coins on me, or small bills, and he was gonna demand a mandatory tip). Yeah, I had small bills made, but it was specifically for the taxi in case he decides to rip me off, because you know as soon as you give them that large bill, don’t expect any change back. Hahaha, I learned that the hard way a few times here.