I think everyone here will understand this. After 20+ years of visiting the Philippines, I have never had a friend. Of course, my wife is Filipina and we have two kids. I love my wife, and enjoy my kids.We live in the Midwest USA. My family members don’t like me because I’m kuripot. I have “borrowed”, money to my wife’s family. They have never paid it back.That doesn’t bother me so much because the first thing you learn in the Philippines is that borrow means give or charity.
What gets me madder than a cowboy with a blister on his ass,is when they get money, they purchase an I-phone, singing lessons, shopping spree at the mall etc.Then some emergency comes up, and we get hit up for money. By my instructions, we send money sporadically so they are not too comfortable, and can’t buy stuff on credit. My wife strayed from that rule once and they quit cooking and began eating fast food everyday. Mom, a sister and some kids need ,”support”. Now the interpretation of support in the Philippines means you send money every month forever. I won’t accept that, and they don’t really like me much.
You might think you made a friend in the Philippines. The sad part is they will hit you up to borrow money.The good news is they won’t wait long to do it. I once had a buddy for a week, and guess what? I actually think that might be a bonafide miracle on par with Jesus turning water into wine that a filipino went an entire week without asking the kano for kwarta. It’s hard to explain, but there is a sixth sense I’ve developed. A squint of the eyes and a certain body movement, and you know it’s coming.” Life is hard in the Philippines”, “my mom died”, or just some sort of emergency they lay on you that is urgent. Same old shit, makes me tired.
I’m actually very generous. I’ve sent three family members through these private colleges. None of those careers ever amounted to anything. The rule now is university only. The Philippines is full of school scams/bogus schools. People say the Philippines is the land of smiles.Well, for me it is the land of long faces because I am kuripot. You should see those somber faces when I come around.Published in