Live In the Philippines (LIP)

Well I was in the hospital watching son for a few days and was awake most nights every night. Why? Because the sign taped to the inside door warned of thieves and not to trust strangers, nothing new there. So I had my tab and was surfing the web when I came across a web site called Live In The Philippines and clicked on an article and started to read it and then read the comments when a few comments stood out from all the rest and caught my attention. I wish I could put the article and comments in this one but I am not that tech savoy, sorry. But I will provide a link to the article at the end of this one.

In the article the author Jason Weiland talks about how wonderful the Philippines and Filipinos are. He then basiclly goes on to say the expats who complain or point out problems are bad apples and losers that are ruining it for expats like him. So the exchange I read involved a Mike, a Mick and Jason, the author of said article. I will tell the comments I read accuratly as best I can.

Mike (no, not me) put up a comment that said people have a right and duty to complain about the corruption, idiocy that goes on in this country. Mick then commented that he agreed with Mike. Jason replied to Mike but never said a word to Mick who did point out a few things extra to back what Mike had said.  Then Jason mentioned oppertunist in the country and the comments went like:

Mick: Is an oppertunist for example an expat in the Philippines who sells products and information at U.S prices to people thinking about visiting or moving to the Philippines an oppertunist?

When Jason did reply his reply to Mick was: “I don’t think anyone is saying that Mick. I certainly wasn’t.”

To which Mick replied: “Either you did not understand the question or dodged it. Websters defines an oppertunist as someone who takes advantage of a wonderful situation. This situation can be good but it can also be someone who makes something bad look better than it really is.” Mick went on to repeat the question about selling info at U.S prices and got this reply from Jason.

“Hey Mick,

I don’t think Anton was talking about other expats at all. I wasn’t. I was talking about oppertunist among the Filipino people, but like Bob said in a recent article, foreigners must be careful what they say if they want to stay continue staying here.

I don’t think a person is being an oppertunist if he/she sell information to other expats and people at US prices. Our friend Bob sells valuable information to people of other countries, and I do it too. I think it depends on the situation.

Anyway, I am just trying to keep things civil. No need to get upset over something that wasn’t said or implied.”

So Mick replied:

So in other words you and Bob are selling the Philippines to naive people, leaving out anything that is negative and charging US rates selling a paradise that does not exist. Don’t you think it might be important to let them know that if they are seriously hurt a hospital will not treat them until they have cash in hand?”

Then Mick replied to a comment from another member.

Member: I have owned a bar in the Philippines for the last 3 years and I am tired of the fat, drunk pervert expats not respecting my female wait staff.

Mick: I noticed you did not say if you have GROs working in your bar. If you do then that is like a pimp calling his customers perverts or the kettle calling the pot black.

Now here is the kicker. I watched live when Mick said the “either you misunderstood the question or you dodged it” all the way to his question to the bar owner. Guess what? After Mick done his last reply to jason, all of Micks comments and questions were removed from the site within 3 minutes. I can only assume that he was banned from the site.

So Ladies and Gentlemen what did we learn?

1.) Both Jason Weiland and Bob Martin sell false information about the Philippines to people in other countries. This they basiclly admitted when they both said “We have to be careful if we want to stay here.”

2.) Jason Weiland and Bob Martin are two of the bad apples and oppertunist that Jason condemns in his article. Yet they find an excuse why the label they apply freely to others does not apply to them.

3.) Jason Weiland and Bob Martin know the truth but instead sell lies to gullible people.

I have a suggestion for both Bob Martin and Jason Weiland. Be truthful and honest for at least one time and change the name of Live In the Philippines to Liars In the Philippines.

As Winston Churhill once said and I quote “Criticism may not be agreeable, but it is necessary. It fulfills the same function as pain in the human body. It calls attention to an unhealthy state of things.”


You can find Jason’s article at


Published in Expats


  1. Profile gravatar of Random Numbers
    Random Numbers

    He obviously lives by the age-old adage “The quiet wheel gets the grease”

    I put his integrity on a par with the accuracy of the adage I just posted

    Is that snarky enough?

    1. Profile gravatar of pulubi

      Everyone here is doing the right thing and keep spreading the word. I left the philippines the same reason I read on this blog. All this complaints is not new to me. I am just surprised its still the same after all this years. Pinoy pride = magnanakaw.

  2. Profile gravatar of Esteban Magtaka III Jr
    Esteban Magtaka III Jr

    “The people who come here and enjoy their lives, whether they came to escape something or for love, far outweigh the bad ones.”
    Presumably the “far outweigh” comment refers to the combined weight of the 400lb pussy-whipped men whose entire life in the Failippines consists of waddling around shopping malls in a vest pushing anchor babies in pushchairs, with ageing ex-hooker Filipina on his arm, and convoy of leaches in tow. The ones that have been bled dry of cash , have gone completely native , and are now following the Pinoy Prime Directive of “con money from foreigners by whatever means possible” by peddling bullshit online in order to replenish their near-empty wallets.

    I have a big problem with the sheer hypocrisy and retardation in his piece:-
    1. People who go to the Phils to “escape something”- inclusive of crime, – are apparently “good”
    2. People who go to the Phils to “enjoy their lives” are “good”
    3. People who go to the Phils “for love and marriage” are “good”
    3. However, people who go to the Phils to fuck women are “bad”
    4. The author completely disassociates “having sex with women” from “enjoying life”. Indeed, the idea of sex with multiple attractive women is repugnant to the author.
    5. The author equates “marriage” with “decency”

    The author’s concept of enjoying life seems to stop and start with getting married and having kids and a house. I initially envisaged the author is either a devout member of the Church of Christ, a borderline homosexual, a momma’s boy, or a sociopath who has been pussy-whipped and divorced in the US and couldn’t find a second wife at home.
    Then I saw this and it all became clear: “Life in the United States had not been kind to me. I had been through a divorce, layoffs, bankruptcy, difficulties with mental illness and quickly deteriorating health” (From ……. All together now everybody – “Pity me” !!!

    1. Profile gravatar of Esteban Magtaka III Jr
      Esteban Magtaka III Jr

      Just noticed that I had a dumbass moment and have two “number 3’s”… I guess that is better than having two “number 2’s” in a country where someone steals the Charmin.

    2. Profile gravatar of Random Numbers
      Random Numbers

      I love the “The fact that she lived 8500 miles away meant little to me, because after a few weeks, I knew I loved her. The funny thing was, I knew she loved me too.” part. Yeah, online chat, where everyone is exactly who and what they appear to be – like former members of IQ 196 – and there are no lies or insincerity! Funny, I learned early on that many filipinas say “I love you” almost like we say hello or goodbye. On one site (which shall remain nameless) a filipina chatted with me for about 5 minutes, then said “I love you”, gave me her phone number, and asked me to call her. Funny thing is, a few days later, she did EXACTLY the same thing! Oh, the funny (pathetic) stories I could tell you of many online relationships from that “respectable” site…

      1. Profile gravatar of Mike
        Mike Post author

        Funny is it not? Notice Jason never says a thing about always being hit up for money, payi8ng for everything by the tribe and so forth? I did have a profile up on a site and it was quite entertaining to say the least. These were within a week of starting a chat with them:
        1.) “Granny in hospital and I don’t have meds” and all the other reasons they come up with to beg money.
        2.) “Want web sex?”
        3.) “I love you no shit, come here to visit and let’s get married.”
        4.) “I’m a virgin.”
        5.) “I’m not like other filipinos.”

        Had one tell me her dad was a fisherman and they wanted kano apos . She went on to say that she wants to marry me (no shit) and that she can have all the paperwork done before I get there so we can marry as soon as I land. We had been chatting for less than a week. What made me different from Jason? Simple:
        1.) I had been to the philippines several times.
        2.) I was married to a pinay for 22 years.
        3.) I knew a lot about the culture and customs.

        Jason had none of that experience and simply followed his dick and most likely wound up with a pinay who has at least one kid with the pinoy husband who is somewhere else. Or maybe he met a bar girl.

        1. Profile gravatar of Sarah

          “A few weeks later we were married. The funny thing was the whole ceremony was in Tagalog, so Flora had to translate the entire time for me.” (Jason – 02/17/16).

          uhhmmm!! So he did not understand the ceremony? Lucky for him, it was not his funeral ceremony he was attending. But then, at that point, they have not secured their walking ATM yet. 🙂

          “Life was hard, and Flora and I had our problems, as most people in their first years of marriage do.” (Jason – 17/02/16)

          Translation: She’s throwing tampos around…

      2. Profile gravatar of Esteban Magtaka III Jr
        Esteban Magtaka III Jr

        How many men above the age of 10 years old speak in this way anyway “I love her… she loves me” ( I picture little animated Disney birds circling around the guy’s head). What a dick.

        1. Profile gravatar of Sarah

          “My experience just has been that the people in the Philippines seem more genuine, care for their families and know the value of money. ” (Jason-02/17/16).

          Ha! genuine??? Care for their families??? Know the value of money??? Oh, of course, now I know what Jason’s mental health issue is…. It’s Delusional Ideation!

          “The difference in how you are treated in the hospital in the Philippines was startling. Another nice thing was that most of her family stayed with me 24/7 which never would happen in a hospital in the States.” (Jason-02/17/16).

          Of course they stayed with him 24/7!! They don’t want their prey — errr- walking ATM to fly the coop!!

          1. Profile gravatar of Mike
            Mike Post author

            He only said the difference in how you are treated in a philippines hospital was startling. Another give away. Notice he did not say the treatment, building and care were better? He just said the difference was “startling” , if it was better why didn’t he say so?

            Her family stayed with him 24/7. Correct Jason, they are called watchers and all hospitals REQUIRE a family member to stay with the patient 24/7.

          2. Profile gravatar of BLX2

            “more genuine, care for their families and know the value of money, ” OMG, Delusional isn’t enough, need a new word added to the dictionary for that.

            “The difference in how you are treated in the hospital “, Guard at the door to keep you locked in? I watched them one night in the ER, along with about 15-20 others, practicing CPR for around an hour on some guy who died.

      3. Profile gravatar of Sarah

        “When I really sat down and thought about what I planned to do, I EVEN THOUGHT I MIGHT BE A BRICK SHY OF A FULL LOAD. I was going to move to the other side of the world, to a place that everyone said was a “third-world” country that wasn’t safe and marry a woman 18 years my junior that I had never met in person. Jason”

        Well, at least he’s admitting it…. a brick shy of a full load. More like he’s shy of a full load. Period! Not just a brick, a fucking full load! 🙂

        1. Profile gravatar of Mike
          Mike Post author

          A brick shy of a full load huh? Why did the movies “I am Sam” and “One flew Over The Cockoos Nest” come to mind when you said that?

          1. Profile gravatar of Sarah

            Haven’t seem I am Sam, but seen a rerun of “One flewy over the cuckoo’s nest”. Jack Nicholson was brilliant, simply brilliant in it!! 🙂 And might I add, Jason could easily imitate Jack Nicholson’s facial expressions in the height of madness 🙂 They kinda have that facial shape. Which reminds me, is Jason Bob’s long lost younger brother? 🙂

    3. Profile gravatar of Random Numbers
      Random Numbers

      He goes on to say : “I knew nothing about traveling abroad. In my defense, I had done a bit of research so I was somewhat prepared, but I knew nothing about dealing with immigration or customs. Thankfully, when I arrived in Manila there were plenty of friendly people willing to help me for a small fee. I must have looked lost and stupid because so many people were helpful, and I didn’t mind giving them some money for their help. I just figured that was how it was done.:

      It wasn’t just a look…

      Paying fees to get through customs and out of the airport? How effing clueless do you have to be to need to pay to get OUT of the airport?!!!

      My first trip I took a set-rate taxi for 500 pesos. I didn’t know how little the regular taxis charged (the yellow airport taxis had not appeared yet, all were the cheap white variety). And I tipped the driver 100 pesos, way too much, especially for an over-charged taxi! But I have never paid anything to get through customs to enter a country that gives a free arrival stamp!

      1. Profile gravatar of BLX2

        “How effing clueless “, How do these guys survive at all? I know I’m a dumb ass, but they’re unbelievable. No brain, no pain? The girls believe their pussy’s cover everything, and these guys must believe it too. Dogs on a leash? Once they start on their narcissistic, psychopathic drama my sex drive is gone. They hate that, must be another woman, no asshole, the problem is you and your behavior, not another woman.

      2. Profile gravatar of Esteban Magtaka III Jr
        Esteban Magtaka III Jr

        Yeah. Kind of ridiculous that a grown man couldn’t even make it out of the airport on his own. I wonder if he has learned to put on his own underwear, tie his own shoes, and wipe his own ass, yet?

        1. Profile gravatar of Mike
          Mike Post author

          Jason says they chatted online for a few weeks and he knew he loved her. Damn, did not take her long to lead him around by the dick without even meeting her. Jason don’t say it but I’ll bet she sent nudes to his email or on web cam.

      3. Profile gravatar of Sarah

        ” knew nothing about traveling abroad. In my defense, I had done a bit of research so I was somewhat prepared, but I knew nothing about dealing with immigration or customs. Thankfully, when I arrived in Manila there were plenty of friendly people willing to help me for a small fee. I must have looked lost and stupid because so many people were helpful, and I didn’t mind giving them some money for their help. ”

        He obviously has not done his research, or else he would have known how awful NAIA is, how people would offer their services for a fee!! At least he acknowledged it…. he looked downright stupid!! So he did not mind giving them some money, huh? I wonder if he is still giving money away!

    4. Profile gravatar of loco_loco

      I ve seen this guy with his family a few times in our malls at the sm supermarket. His honey, gives him the commandos…more i dont need to say or ? He is a poor creature of a man ( for me) in this country you have to be the man without any doubts otherwise the pinay will take advantage . Guys who believe after an online chat and i typical I love u , my love balblalba…are just the problem…because they support these freeloaders with their cash.

    5. Profile gravatar of Sarah

      “with ageing ex-hooker Filipina on his arm, and convoy of leaches in tow. ”

      Ever noticed Kanos going for lunch/dinner with the Pinay’s tribe? The Kano sucker ALWAYS looked confused. Well, I don’t blame him. Chances are the tribe would have been chattering in their dialect, totally excluding him from the conversation, and planning how many take outs they’re gonna order — paid for by HIM!

      1. Profile gravatar of loco_loco

        Of course Sarah…they are the poor guys..nothing to blame …they dont know how to handle this shit freeloaders …I did 1 time the same ( to be not rude) after the 2nd time they wanted a freeload, I ve left the restaurant before the final bill…hehe..Paid my shit and the stuff for my GF and my Dad and thats it. Later on the expected anger started with my Ex GF…How I dare to leave there simply and pay not the bill ..such a shame…U can forget it to explain them…that they are the freeloaders here, that they even did not ask me one time if its ok for me that i have to “invite” them…

  3. Profile gravatar of Phil Doh
    Phil Doh

    I see a lot of this crap on some expat groups I’m in on FB. Anybody dares to criticize the tiniest thing and they get shot down for being a moaner and if they carry on they get banned. These living in paradise idiots do as much harm to the country as the natives. The philippines needs more complainers to improve, not more bullshitters telling the world it’s perfect.

  4. Profile gravatar of FHPS

    He then basiclly goes on to say the expats who complain or point out problems are bad apples and losers that are ruining it for expats like him.

    We all have a dream and people that complain are ruining it for the dreamers who haven’t been, tried and got burnt thats all.

    I saw a guy the other day who had a dream of opening a bar/resto in the Philippines. Do you think he wasnt told by a million people not to open it?
    Yes, he ignored advice and he even says, thanks, I took on board what you guys were saying but went ahead and hopened up a bar.

    Its living the dream and thats what people focus on and no amount of talking will stop someone from living the dream.

  5. Profile gravatar of FHPS

    Funny, when i was in hospital a filipino guy was asking to borrow 20,000 off my girlfriend and constantly ringing her as he knew she had a foreigner boyfriend. I mean, wtf, he only met her in the hospital and within 2 days started asking for money. They cannot help themselves and if you said someone asked me at church to borrow money or at a funeral standing over a dead body if they could borrow money for a financial problem – I would say “why am i not fucking surprised”

  6. Profile gravatar of Mike
    Mike Post author

    I was just thinking. Jason said he did a little research on the philippines. I’m just wondering if he is one of the suckers that bought Mindanao Bobs bullshit.

  7. Profile gravatar of Johnny

    I think those guys found their niche and way to make USD in the Philippines. Operate a website, sell advertising, sell books, and get stuff/ applause from local Filipino gov’t. I have only come across that site a couple of times. They do a huge disservice to anyone who reads their stuff and moves to the Ph. It is not safe to do that.

    1. Profile gravatar of Mike
      Mike Post author

      I’m just waiting for it. They will sell the lies to someone, he will move here and see the bullshit they sold him. He will then kick their ass and what will happen? Both Jason and Bob will go crying to the filipinos to protect them.
      I still think Bob looks like the triangle love child of Shrek, Mrs. Potato Head and Golem. As for Jason, he looks like some fucking little elf out of a fairy tale.

    2. Profile gravatar of Johnny

      I really wanted to comment on their page, but I just didn’t have it in me. Bottom line, the Philippines is a cheap 3rd world country for a reason. The reason is because the decietfulness of the culture. Plain and simple, not to mention the garbage and pollution.

      For those guys to lure expats here with only great stories of women, love, paradise, and happiness is wrong. Maybe that is why his article is purely about negative foreigners cause they are covering their bases for the inevitable customer complaints.

    3. Profile gravatar of Sarah

      “I am healthier, I dropped 140 pounds,”

      He obviously did not make enough pesos Johnny, he had to live on dried fish and rice. Yep. dried fish and rice… beats all the diet gurus around the world.

      Look at that Aussie Warren Rodwell, kidnapped by Muslims in the Philippines in 2011. He was “heavy” when he disappeared, but looked emaciated when he was released in 2014. Maybe the Muslim rebels might have found a new money making scheme. Wanna lose weight? We’ll kidnap you and make you run through the jungle for a year! 🙂

    4. Profile gravatar of Johnny

      I also saw they do real estate sales, consulting, etc. They are probably doing ok money wise, but selling a fantasy to unsuspecting foreigners, especially those looking for love is not right. I’m not sure if they even have a warning page.

      1. Profile gravatar of BLX2

        It’s horrible. It may be legal, but it is CRIMINAL. The time, the money, the emotions, the life changing decisions that can not be undone. Changing the very course of someone’s life, sending them into a PD hell so you can make money or misery loves company. Shameful, it makes me wish there was a hell. There’s no karma that could ever pay back MB and the harm he had done to lives. Worse, some of these girls could be saved, specially the ones under 25, the younger, actually the better. Before the brain is fully developed. Before the pathology is fully set. They do need help, but not money for the pamily, therapy to reverse the pathology before it’s set. And it needs to be done right from the beginning. If they chose to drink you can support them through it, if not you need to run, no and’s, if’s or but’s. You need to be cruel to be kind, it’s also their only chance. Without it they’re also really lost, suffering from the pathology themselves, spreading the pathology and mental illness, damaging their own, yet to be generations.

        MB doesn’t care about foreigners, MB doesn’t care about Filipinos, MB just cares about his fat ass egotistical psychopathic self. The saddest thing is I believe X2 could of been saved if I knew in the beginning what I know now. If I could of found the right help in time. It’s not always about money, but with PD it is ALWAYS about CONTROL (in the end control ends up being a financial disaster anyways).

        This is NOT a place for those with weak boundaries. Most of these girls looking for foreigners do have the pathology (I only know one for sure who doesn’t have it).

  8. Profile gravatar of Joe Smith
    Joe Smith

    I used to follow Bobs site but after a while something didn’t seem quite right about him. I still look at the site from time to time just to get a laugh at these douchebags who are promoting this hellhole as a solution to all of lifes problems, big or small. Bob claims not to pay his writers but I’m gonna call bullshit on that because he has them on a schedule. Why let this dickhead set a deadline for you if you’re not getting paid for it? This Jason Weiland guy seems to be a real asshole too. I looked at his site and I saw a tab there where you can hire him as a writer, lol. Jason complains about not having enough money in one reply and in the next he says he likes living simple and doesn’t need much. The look on his face says it all and it says ” I made a huge fucking mistake in coming here” or maybe he just has the perpetual Montezumas revenge.

    1. Profile gravatar of Hey Joe
      Hey Joe

      Joe Smith;
      I can assure he does in fact pay his writers. I happen to know one of them as he is married to one of my wife’s relatives. He was suckered in hook-line and sinker by Mayor Bob.

      The “mark” came here with a inheritance of 40k usd in his pocket. He was told, SURE that’s plenty of money to get married and start a business.. you will live like a king!!!
      Needless to say after a wedding that make a prince proud, gambling trips to Cebu and Manila, motorcycles .. and the building of a little store just like ALL the other little stores (built by the inlaws) who screwed him big time (shocking)
      Same inlaws “barrow” food/cigs/booze from his store.
      As our mark is slowly being bleed dry by the leaches he reaches out to his good buddy Bob for a writing job. Sure!!… pays a few hundred PESOS. All the while charging USD to the next mark.
      Less than 2yrs later.. dead-ass broke, leaving his wife behind to try to save the store, he goes back to Florida to get a job in a local green market. 2 yrs later he saves up the cash to bring the wife back to the states.
      To this day they still live with the marks father, using his car. Wife works part time at the local “quickie mart”
      The store sits empty. I shake my head each time I look at it as it is right next to my sister inlaws little shack of a house.
      Bob…. karma is a BITCH. It will catch up to you some day

  9. Profile gravatar of Mike
    Mike Post author

    Some reason when I look at his pic he looks like he still lives at home with mommy and daddy in the basement.
    Mom: “Jason.”
    Jason: “Yes mommy?”
    Mom: ” Where are you?”
    Jason: “I’m in the den playing games on the desktop.”
    Mom: “Well be a good boy ok?”
    Jason: “Yes mommy.”

    A “few” hours later,,,,,,,
    Mom: “Jason.”
    Jason: “Yes mommy”
    Mom: “Why is the keyboard on the desktop sticky?”
    Jason: “I don’t know mommy.”
    Mom: “Jason, don’t you lie to me.”
    Jason: “But mommy I really don’t know.”
    Mom: “Come here and clean it up.”
    Jason: “Yes mommy.”
    Mom: “Jason, look at the keyboard. Feel how sticky the keyboard is.”
    Jason: “Yes mommy, it’s sticky.”
    Mom: “Jason, I’m going to ask you a question and don’t you dare lie to me.”
    Jason: “ok mommy.”
    Mom: “Have you been jacking off to that filipino girl again? How many times have I told you don’t squirt on the keyboard?”
    Jason: “But mommy, I could not help it. I have a mental illness.”

    1. Profile gravatar of John

      As old saying: If a dick gets hard enough, it will take all the responsibilities!
      This is the story of Jason & alike who let their dicks do all the thinking…

  10. Profile gravatar of Mike
    Mike Post author

    This was passed to me by another member:

    Jason says why the site has not been updated is because of unstable ineternet in the philippines and “a worsening struggle with my own mental issues.” I think these two items are quite revealing myself, but there is more.

    Jason: ” During this time I made the difficult decision to not continue my studies to become a life coach. I felt if I didn’t have my own life in control, I really couldn’t helpreally help others with their own struggles. I was just trying to be realistic and I wanted to be transparent with the people I was trying to help.”

    So here we have a “man” who admits he cannot manage his own life yet advises through sells of books others how to live in the Philippines. Of course Jason does leave out a lot of information in the advise and books. I cannot help but to wonder what happened to “I wanted to be transparent with the people I was trying to help.” Damn, this just keeps getting better and better. I mean here we have an escapee from the states with mental issues selling bad info to people (scamming) and then calls others bad apples. He also says he is doing some freelance writing so I assume that that inbreed looking Mindanao Bob and Jason are butt buddies.

      1. Profile gravatar of Joe Smith
        Joe Smith

        I love how Jason constantly contradicts himself and also how he seems to be genuinely offended when someone checks him on something he said. He’s gone full Flipmode, mental illness indeed. I love the pic of him standing there surrounded by all those grinning monkies while he has an expression on his face as though someone ripped a really nasty fart but he secretly loves it and wants more.

    1. Profile gravatar of BLX2

      Well he can’t be a narcissist because there is never anything wrong with them. A narcissist would never admit (especially publicly) there’s something mentally wrong with them. That leaves the other side of the coin, NAS (more commonly known as NVS but I hate the Victim word)/PTSD/C-PTSD from narcissistic abuse.

      “in the philippines and “a worsening struggle with my own mental issues.””, Well yeah, once you develop emotional problems from narcissistic abuse you become even more vulnerable to narcissistic abuse by another, it is a downward spiral. Those with high empathy are most exploitable by those with NO empathy. The narcissist instinctively know they are juicy prey. Just because you know how to spot one NPD doesn’t mean you can spot them all unless you have learned the spectrum of Cluster B.

      MB is a narcissist and Jason is a vulnerable. An extreme vulnerable. He’s completely broken down.

      Sufferers from narcissistic abuse often get misdiagnosed as BPD, different forms of depression, schizoid pd, bipolar….

      I have to admit something, I’ve been through the process (like you couldn’t tell I have a screw loose 🙂 ), diagnosed with a variety of things, med up’d with no relief and often (almost always) made physically sick by the medication.

      13 years diagnosed with situational depression (The situation the doctors referred to was dealing with my kids mother. I now know she was HPD . My youngest daughter puts up strong boundaries with the ex and has to supervise her mother around my grandson). What I didn’t know then was situational depression is only a temporary issue, why the doctors kept that diagnosis I’ll never know.
      Of course the Paxil’s I was on and off of never worked but they sure did make me sick. And about a decade of serious insomnia.
      At the end of the 13 years I was a complete loss, totally useless, failed a logic test that 13 years earlier I aced. Lost business, lost career, lost sanity.

      I was then diagnosed with Major Depression and put on disability.

      After about 5 years and put on just about every anti depressant and mood stabilizer out there a doctor said it must be bipolar because of my reaction to the anti depressants. This was even though I had NEVER experienced a manic episode, a hypomanic episode, (although after bringing X1 to the USA I was diagnosed as having a mixed episode, it was not), only a deep profound completely dysfunctional depression.
      So started the treatment med’s for bipolar, again, didn’t help but definitely made me sick, luckily one was finally found that didn’t make me sick, didn’t help symptoms, but at least it didn’t make me sick.

      Fast forward to X2, now I had figured out that X1 was a classic NPD without a doubt, but X2 didn’t fit the classic description. After about 2 1/2 years I finally found a good psychologist here to try to help X2 (I was at the end of my rope and now realize how much out there I myself was at the time).

      That is when I found out about Histrionics (HPD) and the Cluster B spectrum. X2 went a few sessions with the doctor before I myself met the doctor. She told the doctor that I was bipolar, as that is what I thought I had. I do have an expat friend that was a psychiatric nurse that I’ve known for about 9 years. He had told me numerous times that he didn’t think I was bipolar, he had seen me emotional (crying uncontrollably, sad state), but never manic. I thought he must be wrong. I also have a close relative who’s an RN that repeatedly told me that it wasn’t bipolar, that I had to love myself first and stay away from “toxic woman”. She had told me that my kids mother was an “emotional cripple” and I had to get away from her. But I didn’t listen, the blame was mine for not handling their issues properly, everyone has their strengths and weaknesses, right? I knew I had mine. Then came our first meeting with the doctor together, I’m hanging by a thread. My anger at the max. What I didn’t know was that the next time X2 met with the doctor, the doctor told her I wasn’t bipolar, the diagnosis was wrong. She had watched me lose my temper, yet remain coherent and calm right back down. X2 never told me this, and neither did the doctor (as a matter of fact, X2 kept pointing to bipolar and trying to tell me she was trying to help me, yeah right). We then had intense intervention with the doctor, both separately and together. I had told the doctor how she seemed to change into another person and/or “lock up”. The second or third meeting together X2 snapped and morphed into what resembled a 12 year old. The doctor actually said, “Look, it’s like she’s 12 years old”. Believe it or not she even looked 12 years old, it is eerie to witness. It was a relief to have someone else actually see a little of what I had witnessed. The doctor watched her berate me without allowing me to respond to anything. The doctor pointed out a total lack of empathy. I had mentioned that X1 was NPD but X2 was not like X1. While X2 went through her hysterics in front of the doctor, the doctor looked at me and said Histrionics, it’s part of the spectrum.

      That started my year and a half research on Cluster B. They are literally real life Emotional Vampires and tend to seek out those with weak boundaries and/or over empathetic. Just getting away from them isn’t good enough, you are actually more vulnerable to the next unless you know what’s going on and get help yourself.

      I’ve tipped my hand completely now. I hope someone going through hell will research Cluster B’s and get help themselves and restore their boundaries and sanity.

      I will have to say it was a Filipino doctor at a very affordable price and a relatively short time that helped me, that pointed me towards Cluster B and their abuse. Decades and a fortune (insured) were spent with US doctors to just keep misdiagnosing. The doctor asked me a couple of times if the med’s I took helped. I said it was hard to tell since the symptoms came and went along with the tirades of my significant others. That their behavior is what seemed to trigger the bipolar symptoms. And at those times NOTHING helped. The doctor wasn’t the one who told me I wasn’t bipolar. It was after the year and a half of research I realized it. When I told the doctor I knew I wasn’t bipolar the doctor then told me they had told X2 that a year and a half earlier. “Was that why you asked about the med’s helping?”. “Yes”, was the Doc’s reply. The doctor had spoon fed me the supporting information, I researched much more on my own. I no longer waste money on med’s that don’t work. Working very hard on boundaries is now my task.

      This is not a good place for those with weak boundaries or high empathy.

      1. Profile gravatar of Catabisis

        This is very interesting. Although I didn’t walk to the edge of the abyss, I can certainly see how an insane partner can give us symptoms.
        You are correct, this place is not for people with high empathy. In fact, the first thing one of my closest friends told me was that I need to leave my Western sympathies, empathizes, and logic back home. It has served me well.

  11. Profile gravatar of Sarah

    “I will never forget the look on her face when she finally saw me in all my 6-foot, 340-pound glory. I knew for a moment she was having second thoughts, but when I hugged her, nothing else mattered”. (Jason – 02/17/16).

    Of course!! After seeing him in person, she probably thought to herself “aww shit! what have I done?”

    Of course nothing else mattered when he hugged her! He could not even hear her scream “I can’t fucking breath!”. 🙂

    1. Profile gravatar of Mike
      Mike Post author

      I disagree. When she and the family saw the fat man they were very happy. First thought thought their mind MMMM. Second thought “This will be easier and faster than we thought.”

    2. Profile gravatar of Mike
      Mike Post author

      The look on her face. She might have thought the bigger and fatter the man the bigger and fatter his wallet. So, 340 pounds means he most likely had to buy two seats on the plane over here. Then with all the mental illnesses he has I’ll bet he’s drawing social security disability. Which begs the question since he is so honest and law abiding according to him. Does he pay taxes to the U.S as required by law? Does he report his earnings to social security? I doubt it very much and here’s why. Let’s say he is gettin $1,000 a month from social security for his disabilities. He can only make so much before social security starts docking out of the check they give him.

      So let’s take the $1,000 a month from social security ok. Let’s say he can make $200 a month without losing money from social security. But if he makes $300 then social security will deduct $100 from the check they send him. If he makes $400 then they deduct $200 from his check. Am I the only one that smells something fishy about Jason?

    3. Profile gravatar of loco_loco

      haha … she thought maybe ” fat guy..means we can put him in emergency case ( happens daily) onto the grill ( the grill we will “barrow” before from somewhere ) if he gives me no money. Lechon gets also more and more expensive..
      Nothing against fatty people….but you dont know from which “tribe” she is 😀

    1. Profile gravatar of Sarah

      He must be talking about that Reekay Velez who’s got a whole lot of videos and e-books for sale. Another American (but Hispanic descent) trying to make a living in the Failippines. He’s known for his videos called “Life beyond the seas”. Nothing new in his videos, just rehash of what the others have said over the years, but of course most of the contents are “sugar coated”.

      1. Profile gravatar of dpjb2923

        I met Rekaay in Dumbagute a couple years ago. He now lives south of there a bit with a young filipina and trying to figure out if he wants to get married. From the video he has a nice place and does his thing. I do not know Mindenao Bob nor do I know much about him, but I felt Rekaay was very objective about the life in the Phils, He will state the good and the bad.

  12. Profile gravatar of Mike
    Mike Post author

    So here we have Jason who admits on several websites that he suffers from delusions and other mental illnesses and can’t basiclly care for himself. Then here he is selling info that tells others how to live in the philippines? I wonder how many people have seen his other websites or comments where he admits he’s fucking nuts yet still buy his and Bob’s load of bullshit.

  13. Profile gravatar of Mike
    Mike Post author

    Does anyone know if Mindanao Bob is married or has a girlfriend? If so does anyone know her age? I’m just wondering how much younger she is than Bob and if maybe he robbed the cradle. He does look like a child molester.

    1. Profile gravatar of Angeleyes

      He is married and has 3 kids and one he adopted. No his wife is not a hell of a lot younger than him. I don’t know her age but she does not look much younger than him. You can see all this if you google him.

      1. Profile gravatar of Mike
        Mike Post author

        Thanks for the reply. But I’m still suspicious about her age. Let’s take our beloved Sarah there who I think is in her mid 20’s right. Now if she was married to Bob I suspect she would look a lot older too.

    2. Profile gravatar of Sarah

      ” I’m just wondering how much younger she is than Bob and if maybe he robbed the cradle. He does look like a child molester.”

      So is that why MB has got that perpetual smarmy, smirk on his face?

  14. Profile gravatar of Mike
    Mike Post author

    I have found the PERFECT no fail business to start. I’m going to import hip waders from the states and open a store next to the houses of the expats like Bob, Jason, Travis and the rest. Why hipwaders? Well I figure with all the bullshit they put out I’ll be super rich in no time.

    1. Profile gravatar of Esteban Magtaka III Jr
      Esteban Magtaka III Jr

      I notice that Sideshow Bob offers a 100% money-back guarantee if the purchaser is not satisfied with his e-books.
      So I am thinking to buy all of them,; either request my money back, or do a paypal chargeback….and then publish them all on one website for free – All in the spirit of entrepreneurship of course.

      1. Profile gravatar of BLX2

        Now that would be a wonderful public service as long as you post a warning that much of it is bull shit and they should also visit PFB for the real inside scoop.

      2. Profile gravatar of Angeleyes

        I bought one of Bobs books “49 ways to make a living in the Philippines”. What a load of garbage that is. His best idea is to drop ship items off Amazon onto E bay. He says you can send the items as gifts with Prime so the people who recieve it do not realise it is from Amazon as it is in plain packaging and has no reciepts. Trouble is you can only do that a couple of times, not thousands. That is his best idea. All the rest are just dribble and not worth the time and effort. All his ideas are online stuff, nothing to do with actual business in the Philippines and could be done anywhere in the world. At the end of the book he goes through all his ideas and experiences with each. His first 3 ideas he tried and the rest are just second hand info he heard from other people. One of his ideas is to write e books and sell them to suckers like me, probably his best idea though I can not see a huge market for it as it is not like people are lining up to move to the Phils. I once read the census data for foreigners living in the Phils. The Chinese top the list and at the bottom is white people, a whopping 12000 living in the Phils. Not much of a market really.

        1. Profile gravatar of John

          Besides what he is or what he does, Mindanao Bob is a business model. All he’s doing is to introduce himself as a source for migrating the expats to the Philippines; and his kinda successful at it.
          I don’t see him as a stupid kind of guy; as a matter of fact, he is a crooked charlatan with certain vision and game plan. His targets: fatty divorced problematic single men who can’t afford their expenses anymore in their homeland, and seeking for solution & second option. Pinays and their country mighty PinoyLand are the second option for that type of crowd.
          Bob gives these people exactly what they are looking for: he himself looks like a overweight ordinary family man with bunch of kids around, a house, wife and life (a dream model for most losers who aim too low and already don’t have these). He portraits PinoyLand as a land of dream and opportunity and makes everyone sure they can start over overthere. Well, who says no to this colorful dream?
          Hopeless people love to hear optimistic lies! Bob gives them the delusion they need.

  15. Profile gravatar of FHPS

    I think there is a market for products here.
    Here is a snippet of people asking questions on the FB forums:

    1. Does anyone know where to buy coke (yes, coca cola) in xxx (was in Pampanga) as there hasnt been a shipment for weeks.
    2. I want to buy a 500ml kettle, does anyone know where to buy one so i can use it for travelling.
    3. does anyone know where to get windshield cleaning fluid as the people at the gas station are clueless.
    4. my girlfriend wants to go to church this weekend, does anyone know a foreigner friendly church in xxxx (the location)
    5. where can i buy a motor bike helmet in xxxx

    i mean …WTF?!!!


    1. Profile gravatar of FHPS

      Oh i forgot

      6. where can i get mosquito repellant from
      7 where is the immigration office in cebu
      8. where can i buy a cheap cell phone in xx

      ok, i have one –
      i want to buy cheap pirated DVD’s anyone know where they are being sold in –
      I want to buy a NOKIA GSM phone (the ones that have the old keypaid) that they made 10 years ago, anyone with clues where i can get one?
      need to give to a girl i met at a bar so she can phone her dying mom and brother who had a motor bike accident

      1. Profile gravatar of FHPS

        @biggestloserx2 I am going to post an article about these people.
        Im writing up a clanger at the moment about a guy that went to hospital and had his legs AMPUTATED!

        But those are REAL … real questions from real people.

  16. Profile gravatar of John

    From the video:
    “Why would you pay this guy $10 for his e-books, but all you have to do is go to immigration website and read it!”
    Well, the same reason people keep listening to Priests and Mullas for thousand of years and seems like they never lose motivation for coming back for more!

  17. Profile gravatar of chloroform

    Have you noticed that almost everyone commenting on that post with similar stories are all foreigners with filipino wives 10-20 years younger than them?

    “but they do have some lovely traits whereby the man, assuming he is the bread winner, goes to work with a breakfast inside him and has a dinner prepared for when he gets home.” Well, duh, of course, as that’s the only thing your wife is good at preparing meals for you as they don’t have the brains to get a decent job and maybe share household expenses with you!…

    1. Profile gravatar of BLX2

      IF they can cook more than rice. Have you ever tried to teach them a new skill? Like cooking? Like how to use an automatic washing machine? How to notice cobwebs are hanging from the ceilings? How to LISTEN?

    2. Profile gravatar of Sarah

      Breakfast inside him? Dinner prepared when you get home? DUH! What are these guys smoking??

      “Well, duh, of course, as that’s the only thing your wife is good at preparing meals for you as they don’t have the brains to get a decent job and maybe share household expenses with you!…”

      Chloro, you are being generous there, very generous! 🙂 If and when they do get a job, any job, their wages gets sent home to the Failippines anyway, so her household and family in her husband’s country aren’t any better even with the extra income, because she does not spend it at home!

      1. Profile gravatar of Angeleyes

        So true Sarah. When a flip thinks she is a independent women that is when she does not ask her husband for money anymore, she keeps her wages and spends it on herself and her family and does not contribute one cent to the household budget. My wifes wages would not even cover half of the household expenses.

        1. Profile gravatar of BLX2

          But now that they are working, regardless of the fact they WILL NOT help with household bills, they now expect that you will do all the household chores, always pay for going out, wait on them and tell you how bad you are if you refuse.

          X1 had a son who I supported for several years when she wasn’t able to. After she started working not only did she not help with bills (my fault housing was so expensive in the US, it was my country), stick me with transportation costs for her employment (my fault transportation was so expensive in the US, it was my country), but actually believed that I should still be Giving Her money to support her son from a Pinoy who ran.

          No good deed goes unpunished…

          1. Profile gravatar of Angeleyes

            We have something in common BLX2, my wife has a daughter from a Pinoy who ran too (dont blame him to be honest). Until I bought a house and settled down we left her daughter in the Phils and I was sending money back to support her daughter. Well when my wife started working guess what? I was still sending money for this kid as wife felt her money was hers. Made me really mad especially when I found out her Mum, who was looking after the daughter, was going to the casino every week with my hard earned. They are so freaking poor they could not afford a bowl of rice but as soon as I start sending money, Gamble time. I swear I could put wife through a blender and flush her down the toilet. I so hate their culture and I mean HATE, more than anything I have ever hated before.

          2. Profile gravatar of Esteban Magtaka III Jr
            Esteban Magtaka III Jr

            Me Three….My Filipina also has a daughter by a (married) runaway Pinoy .
            As I was not present at the ‘blessed’ moment of conception, I steadfastly refuse to support the consequences …. She can (and frequently does) blame me for a lot of things; but expecting me to take retrospective responsibility for kuya romeo bongbong III being too dumb to use a condom or pull out his little brown Pinoy pecker is not one of them !

            During the bi-weekly Tampo-fest, she often ‘threatens’ to go to work (this in itself is funny – ie: that somehow telling the husband that they are taking a 9-5 job like the rest of us is a threat ! ) …Whenever I agree that it would be a great idea – because it would free up some of my income that I would usually give her as an allowance and allow me to pay off my credit cards and increase my retirement savings – she gets all butthurt . These women simply do not grasp that concept of marriage as a ‘partnership’. Their mindset is “what’s yours is mine, and what’s mine is mine; Yet these same people are quite willing to support workshy Pinoy husbands/boyfriends, and they see no shame in allow themselves to get impregnated by Pinoys who are already married to someone else, and no shame in asking a Kano to pay for their mistake… Strange fucked-up people!

          3. Profile gravatar of Angeleyes

            @estebanmagtakaiiijr your so right that they fail to see a marriage as a partnership and just see it as what they can get. It must be something they just do to Kanos; my wifes cousin split with her ex about 2 years ago. He ran off on the Shabu and has two more kids now and yet wifes cousin still gives him most of her wages (she actually works) and then goes off round the Baranguay begging for money for milk for her kid. She still has a candle for him even though he is a Shabu addict total loser. It is like she worships him. I just dont get it.
            Also is it not amazing how Pinay girls will get pregnant to anyone. A 17 year old girl I know (from a wealthy family too) telling me she regrets getting pregnant as she can not enjoy her youth and her boyfriend is a dead beat Jeepny conductor on 400 peso a day. I asked her if she thought about it before getting pregnant and just got the blank stare. Some of the men these women get pregnant to over there; those guys would be life long virgins in the West as no woman would even spit on them. Everything about their culture is just so backwards. Oh the stories I could tell.

          4. Profile gravatar of Angeleyes

            The way their culture is so backwards it is like they do everything opposite to the civilised world. Maybe God is real and the Bible is true, it is like the book of Revalations is playing out in the Phils. In the end times “What is right will be wrong and what is wrong will be right” and “People will become lovers of self”, just two off the top of my head I see in the Phils every minute I am there.

          5. Profile gravatar of Sarah

            “She can (and frequently does) blame me for a lot of things; but expecting me to take retrospective responsibility for kuya romeo bongbong III being too dumb to use a condom or pull out his little brown Pinoy pecker is not one of them !”

            Steve. you just made me laughed so hard, I splattered my coffee in front of my computer! 🙂 Guys, you are so funny! 🙂

            Anyway, I just wanna say that those of you who took on single mums are very noble. But it’s a shame that these ungrateful bitches don’t appreciate it. The word parasite and piranhas comes to mind again. I am sure that you guys are aware that in the RP, a single mum is considered “damaged goods?”. They are not usually welcome in middle and upper class families, especially so because it complicates the inheritance issues after the mother dies even though the child is not biological heir.

            And that is why you, foreign men are also highly sought after because some of you don’t care about a woman’s past or any baggage (read child/children).she may have from another man. But considering the number of young, single Filipinas vying for the Kano’s wallet , errr, “heart” 🙂 these single mums should be grateful that you even took them on, including their children, that should you even tell them to jump, their response should be “how high” Honeyko?

            But of course, like most things in the Failippines, they’re just dreams and fantasies and smokes and mirrors. In short, nothing but BS!

          6. Profile gravatar of Sarah

            Well Biggie, it’s coz she’s too tired after working all day! Never mind that you worked all day too, and that your job was probably more stressful and physically backbreaking. “And oh, don’t forget to pick up the baby from the nursery, and don’t forget to pick up the laundry on your way home. And I want Adobo for dinner, and don’t you dare be late!” 🙂 Does that ring a bell, guys? 🙂

          7. Profile gravatar of Esteban Magtaka III Jr
            Esteban Magtaka III Jr

            Thankyou @sarahfin,… I’m here all week..!
            Have you also noticed that these same ‘responsible’ single moms are very quick to put excessive make-up, bright red lipstick, sexy clothes and hooker heels on their kids once they stop being a babe in arms? … It is sickening and very disturbing to see so many six-year-olds in the Phils dressed up like Pattaya ladyboys

      2. Profile gravatar of chloroform

        lol good point sarah, and so true. A co worker of mine married a filipina… but instead of him trying to cut his hours with the company he’s still working double, because his wife doesn’t still share any household or ANY expenses AT ALL despite of her waitressing part time, as her wages all go directly to her family in the phil, always saying the lame “father is sick” excuses. It’s hilarious when they call themselves “independent” …. it really is!

  18. Profile gravatar of Sarah

    “Have you also noticed that these same ‘responsible’ single moms are very quick to put excessive make-up, bright red lipstick, sexy clothes and hooker heels on their kids once they stop being a babe in arms? ”

    Not just single mums – everyone does it!! Ever noticed the other Pinoy favorite pastime are beauty pageants! I’ve seen girls as young as 5, 6, 7, and upwards getting tarted up in the name of “Beauty Queen!”, some complete with false eyelashes, the poor kid was barely recognizable!! And even the ladyboys have their own beauty pageants!! Lots of money and effort are put into organizing an event like a beauty pageant. But they never think of including in the plans where and how to dispose of the post event garbage!!

    1. Profile gravatar of BLX2

      We teach our children to read, they teach their children to shake their ass. We want our children to succeed based on expanding their minds. They want their children to send money home based on expanding their holes. Foreigner = big hole = big money. Basic algebra using the Common Whore curriculum I guess.

    2. Profile gravatar of Random Numbers
      Random Numbers

      And they pierce the ears of the young girls, about age 1 I think. In the west a girl getting her ears pierced is a rite of passage, in the PI it’s just what they do to young girls. My favorite is how they don’t circumsise them shortly after birth, they wait until they are like 7 years old so they can get the full “enjoyment” of having part of their penis removed!

    1. Profile gravatar of Phil Doh
      Phil Doh

      To be fair to Travis he does sometimes speak about the negative things. Take this video how he talks about the trash

      The comments are just so typical:

      dont be so mean…. you racist

      u have to respect everybody dont judge them youre so mean if u will only make videos to judge people better dont

      As a Filipino, I’m very offended by this video. Don’t americans understand there have been many wars in the past? The Philippines doesn’t really have much opportunities as the US. Not everyone can get a job there and earn money, but in the US you can earn really well. If you really loved the country, don’t talk crap about it.

      Hey we have a rich history that’s why it’s corrupted


      Always shooting the messenger. Just totally incapable of processing the message.

      1. Profile gravatar of BLX2

        So people in the US have jobs and work all the time, that means in their spare time they are able to pick up their trash. Since they can’t get jobs in the Phils there is no spare time after work to pick up their trash.

        They really do not know the meaning of the word respect. They want to be humored, not respected. The exact opposite. Of course humoring is lying to someone because you think they are incapable of dealing with or understanding the truth. Maybe that’s why they think THEY are so respectful, they lie because they are so special they deserve everything they want from you, but don’t want to burden you with the truth they are better than you and you owe it to them to be so graced by their presence. They just don’t want to hurt your feelings telling you so.

        Bless their little black hearts.

      2. Profile gravatar of Rice Ganda
        Rice Ganda

        Can you imagine the jealous Tampos that Travis must have to put up with, with all the adoring female attention, and with his Pinay being very much a ‘plain Jane’? …….I imagine he enjoys every minute of it though.