For a long time I thought that there was something wrong with me. I knew that the frustrations I had daily here in The Philippines had something to do with the country and its native population, in particular their ways of reasoning. But still being raised in a country like Denmark I kept looking at myself and asking what was wrong with me, where did I fail? I have met foreigners here occasionally in immigration offices and heard them being frustrated too. Still I wasn’t sure if I was the one who was wrong.
I believe that nobody is always right all the time and nobody is all wrong all the time, but in the case of the Pinoys then they are almost wrong ALL the time.
I had some good laughs reading the posts here and the comments on this blog and I am grateful for its creation and continued existance. I know for sure it helps anyone feeling frustration, despair, confusion and irritation with these pinoys to get some distance and perspective as well as relief knowing that the foreigner feeling this is not alone in his or her observations and conclusions.
They do have the mindset of kids. And I have been thinking, how do you change the mind of a kid? My answer is you dont because the kid will need to grow up and in the process of growing up the mind will get mature. That raises another question, what if the kid never grows up?
One of the first things I noticed when I was in The Philippines was that ANYTHING that is easy to do will be made difficult or impossible. Already there are many examples of this posted by other members and some of those stories are EXACTLY the same as my personal experiences.
In my country we find it cute and amusing to ask a kid questions like, “Which car is the fastest, the one who makes alot of noise or the one who is almost silent?” “If a man digs a hole in 2 hours then how long does it take the man to dig half a hole?” “What is the heaviest 1 kg metal or 1 kg air?” We know the kid will get the answer wrong so we have a small laugh and then tell the kid the right answer followed up with an explanation. But on the other hand if you ask a grown person in my country the same questions and they get the answers wrong then thats very disturbing, because ignorance and stupidity is considered dangerous. Here in The Philippines almost everything is reversed. Up is down, right is wrong and there is an excuse for everything followed up with an illogical explanation.
Let me tell you a story I was told one of the many times I was here…..
God had put all people in the world to sleep and the people had no noses. The first people to wake up was the white people and they walked around looking for the best noses and while doing so they stepped on all the other noses. then the asian people woke up and there was only flat noses for them cause the white people had stepped on all the other noses.
At first I laughed at this story but the reaction from the pinoy telling me it was disturbing, it was as if he felt he had just educated me. These people dont want to know, because seeking knowledge means you have to work and that you will also fail in your search from time to time, so its much more convienient to make up stuff and live in a fantasy world of your own.
Its like building a house of clay and then comes the rain and the house is destroyed. Its not the house thats the problem, its the rain. So lets build another house of clay and hope it wont rain again. Then when the rain comes again and the 2nd house is destroyed, we can once again say…Oh that damn rain, its a big problem!
If a patient who needs treatment is going to have even 1% chance of getting well then the first step is to recognize that the patient is sick and NEEDS treatment. Without that acknowledgement there can be no treatment and no cure….
Thanks for all the posts and comments. Much thanks for the blogs creation and I will post more as more comes to mind and as I need to vent more frustrations and I have NO DOUBT that this will be happening. I am currently living Mindanao. I started in Manila where I had a condo, and can tell many fun stories from that time. Fun because they are past now, when they were present, my blood was boiling 24/7Published in