I’m a 1st world citizen who is common-law with my wonderful Filipina significant other. I know this site is mainly centered on the stupidity and parasitic tendencies of the Philippines country, but I thought I’d share my equal frustration with Off Shore Filipino people here in my country and in particular, my wife. I need some venting!
It is beyond me how these people think and reason and incredibly frustrating to even have a logical and concise conversation with my wife without her either:
A: Giving me Tampot (silent treatment) where she sulks and feels sorry for herself
B: Starting the conversation with an underlining threat and if her threat is not received acceptingly she will revert back to her Tampot (silent treatment)
C: Starting the conversation with how she wants to spend money she doesn’t have.
D: Bringing up her daily sorrows and how life is so hard for her because of our new son which I think is just a subtle “feel sorry for me” tactic so she can bring one of her parasitic parents here to Nanny our son.
E: Wanting freedom to spend money and forget about the debt!
Well in relation to point E, I gave her all the financial freedom she ever wanted in the first few years of our relationship and she managed to rack up $7000 on her credit card within that time! And what does she have to show for it? Well she was able to pay her sisters way here from the Philippines to pursue a nanny job which probably put her back around $1300 for the plane flight, other than that, NO EXPLANATION! So without that explanation it obviously developed a HUGE concern for me, considering she is responsible for taking care of her leeching parents and helping raise our boy.
I’m sure many of you have experienced similar situations with your Filipina/Filipino partners where explaining money and how it works is like explaining Einsteins relativity theory to a 2 year old. Through countless times of explaining and trying to teach her that money should be used only when you have it, she still astounds me and insults herself by arguing against this very simple principle to life. For instance, just today we were arguing about her gift shopping for Christmas. She’s gotta get gifts for just about everybody and their dog and spend a SH#@ load per person. Sure, if you have lots of left over money and no debt I’m fully open to that idea of spending a little more but that is not the case with her, she has a debt to pay and until that is paid off, she doesn’t deserve those luxuries.
Now, the difference between a Off Shore Filipino and a Filipino native is that in the Philippines they want to GET and will stop at nothing to GET even if it makes them look dumb, disrespectful, parasitic and useless, they will GET, GET, GET not matter what. Now, for an OFW it is a combination of BOTH, They have the same dumb, useless tendencies but they GIVE, GIVE, GIVE, and GET, GET, GET and completely disrespect themselves doing so. How do they disrespect themselves you ask?
A: They give whatever they have left over thinking it would be selfish otherwise (depleting any savings or possible future for themselves)
B: They contribute to leeching and freeloading tendencies by giving money hand outs every month to their useless parasitic family (which is similar to a welfare state).
C: To appear “successful” or to simply fulfill their impulsive desires they will spend money they do not have, racking up their credit card and pretend as though they have it all!
D: They compare themselves to other boastful Pinoy idiots (who racked up debt to massage their status and ego) and rack up their own debt to try and out do them!
In the end, usually the one who appears to be the most successful is actually the most STUPID because they have the MOST DEBT! LOL!!!! And the prize to being a stupid money moron goes to! It’s funny how much they pride themselves on their country (an economically dis-functional waste hole), yet when they come to a 1st world, they completely banish the image that they were poor and play “make believe” to appear rich and successful! A desperate attempt to please their superficial family and friends back at home who will shun you if you don’t play that role! (talk about a shallow culture).
The money handling of these people is the worst I’ve EVER seen. American spending and racking debt does not compare to these people. The meaning of savings does not equate to them, it is probably not in their Tagalag dictionary.
For instance, my wife told me the other day that she knows this Filipino couple who really want to buy a house. They don’t make a hell of a lot and they have a kid which costs lots of money, but what the heck, they think they deserve a house for all their hard work! How are they going to buy this house you ask? Well you need savings and a deposit! and guess what! They don’t have a deposit, so their plan is to get a loan for a deposit! No savings, no nothing. Imagine the interest they would be with $0 down? I don’t think the word “planning” or “savings” is in the Tagalag dictionary either, nor “future” or “past”, since they think in the present and don’t seem to learn from the past nor plan for the future!!
Another thing which makes me laugh is the funny money handling and beliefs these people have when it comes to debt and savings. For instance, my wife’s friends had about $6000 saved up to go on a vacation to the Philippines but they also had about $6000 in credit card debt. See, in their mind you could have -$1000000 in debt but you can still save! I was trying to make this point to my wife that they should have paid their debt first and then saved for a vacation but she couldn’t figure out the difference! Really?! Come on (head in palm)
Another example: My wife was pregnant with my son and she was living off a government maternity social cheque every month which was HALF of her actual salary. Any logical person would say to themselves “well, better tighten up on the spending and be extra frugal until I’m back to work since I’m getting paid half”. But no, she used her credit card for that year and “saved” money from her social cheque! WTF kind of delusional person thinks this sh*&$ up? Now through her ignorance and money moron tendencies, I’ve taken the liberty of monitoring her spending, puting her debt on my low interest credit card and DAILY and I mean DAILY reminding her of the budget we must stick to. She is so frustratingly absent minded and easily buys a bunch of sh$& she doesn’t need and goes over budget if I am NOT there to monitor her.
I could bring up more examples but I don’t want to spend hours here explaining them all. Anyways, the money handling of these people is disgusting. They come here and they either spend all their money on crap merchandise and clothes they don’t need or send it all to family back at home. Now, I don’t have anything against helping out a little for bills but the parents back at home want it all. They treat their kids like nothing more than ATM machines and demand everything, from a house, to land, to car, business, you name it and they are equally as STUPID with money. Many of them lying and cheating their kids to get their way. I often wondered do they procreate all these kids to use them as money machine later in life? And I’ve unfortunately have come to the conclusion that this is their intent. I’ve got nothing against helping family, but these people show total disrespectful parasitic tendencies that portray them as nothing more than useless annoying ticks that won’t let go. You try flicking them off and they won’t leave and if the parents have to go to lows and shame, guilt trip, shun, banish, insult, manipulate their children to get what they want, they WILL with no regard to their financial situation. IF they can get them into eternal debt, they will, with no shame! How do I know this? When my wife was pregnant and we were financially struggling, ALL HER PARENTS DID WAS BEG AND PUSH FOR MONEY and when they didn’t get it they clearly stated they would DISOWN HER. Who the fu$* does that to their child? When I went out of my way to save her from debt her parents passed on a little message to me, “DON’T WORRY ABOUT HER DEBT!” I translated that message as “we don’t give a rats ass how much debt she’s in, we want more money and we don’t want to work for it”. It’s interesting how her parents were able to survive ALL THIS TIME without money hand outs, but as soon as their children go abroad they suddenly broke and helpless! The adults of the Philippines seem to have minds of small selfish children who want to be showered with gifts and rewarded for parenting. I hate to break it to you Filipino Parents! But there is no reward for being a parent other than taking the responsibility and BEING a parent instead of a parasitic pest, leeching every dollar and resource you children have. Time to show some adult like mentality!
Well, I hope there are others here that can share a similar story. I’m sure there are many of you who have experienced this and I would be greatful to here what you have to say!Published in