OK so I am an Aussie expat who has a Filipina GF and looking to take it to the next level with her, starting a family and finding a home here in Philippines. But then disaster struck!
Ok so the relationship was going well and starting to think this was the woman for me. Our relationship was good for about one year no real problems aside from communication of which I find can be challenging at times. Mainly because I found she does not say much when I talk but more on that later.
Ok so she decided wants to get off the pill because she does not like it and its a hassle for her to take it. Even when she took it, hardly remembers to take it and then we always worry at the end of the month; is she pregnant? Happened more than once.
I started to think ok I dont want to be an idiot and get her pregnant living in a tiny studio condo in Manila. Because lets face it life is gonna suck and I would probably be better off going home. Then I thought, ok how about look outside manila to find some land and build a house. Then when I was looking got excited because I realized we could find beach side land cheap and build a nice home.
Even better is the fact I can work from home and we can escape the Manila rat race as my employer agreed to do so and support me. As long as the place I find has strong internet i am able to do it. The major challenge is my now fiancee would need to be on title. So of course I want to make sure that this is something both of us want to do and find a place where we would both be happy.
We found the dream home. No need to build nothing it was amazing three storey villa close to beautiful beach thats famous in Philippines. Heck I could even develop it into condos and rent them out!
The problem is she lied about wanting to do it and it turns out its my dream not hers. So when its time to sign the papers etc she back outs and even goes as far as sabotaging my agreement with my employer by making up some bullshit story of which makes them back out. Oh and by the way as I am young and dont have all the cash my employer was going to front 50% of the money for me as a loan, what a sweet deal!!!
The only problem is of course her. So when that failed we almost broke up and somehow a year later we are still in Manila as thats what SHE wanted. Ok so let me clarify and explain I pay all the bills she does not contribute shit because 100% of her pay cheque goes to her parents and her basic needs. Of which her parents are ungrateful and want more.
Ok so now our relationship has not progressed and starting become sour. I try push her to go elsewhere and start a life for ourself but really she has no goals or dreams and is really dragging me down into enslavement by society so we are able to afford to live in the big city of which costs only keep rising. Like for example supermarket shopping costs me 2X what it does back home.
I am eager to break free from having what i had in Australia 30 year mortgage whereby I can only afford to pay the mortgage. The issue is I now dont know whether to leave her or keep trying because she has made no attempt to work with me to try and build something of ourselves. Starting to feel my time is wasted on her and she is dragging me down in life. Wanting to break free from this hell hole called Manila.
Looking for advice from other expats married with Filipina. Is it just me and my girl? Or are all Filipina this dumb to throw away good opportunity and dont know what a great opportunity it is when they see it? Is this why so many filipinos are poor and think so poor mindedly? I cane here to escape from western world which is obsessed with debt, I am looking to break free from it not into it! In Manila I would get a shit studio condo or maybe if I am lucky a 1 bedder for the same money can get a home outside near the beach! So yeah like is she really even thinking about anyone but herself? What about this poor child having to live and grow up in a small condo thats no bigger than many western sized prison cells. Please help.
Oh yeah and PS. When I ask her why she does not like places like Boracay or Palawan to move she gives me dumb answers like its too crowded or its to far to travel back to Manila. Crowded are you joking!? Manila is crowded not these places like Subic for example OMG! Then with communication I seem to do all the talking she never says much and when she does its often non-sensical or illogical.Published in