I dont know if this applys to most Pinoy women but if it does please share you equal frustration.
I deal with this tampo (silent treatment) just about every day. My wifes secret mission from day one is to bring her freeloading, parasite pimps (parents) here to the 1st world. Initially when we first met I was compelled and felt sorry for them but boy, was i a sucker! As i’ve posted before, these parents of hers are the typical pimps demanding their slave children for everything. This attitude is unfortunately passed on to the children like my wife. What kind of attitude you ask? MANIPULATION!!!! THREATS and playing victim like a child is the shit i have to endure daily.
When I first started dating her she was a sweet kind person. Part of that is still there but her parents can transform that sweet girl into that over worked pimped out girl in a split second. I started seein the signs when she was pregnant with our child. They were jumping up an down with excitement like they just won the lottery. And you know what? That’s exactly what they were feeling. Soon after discovering this news it was non stop questions about sponsorship and bringing the father here. There was also non stop questions from my wife that was obviously implanted sayin “you have to learn to embrace our culture”. I translated that to “adopt and embrace my parasites pimps”. Things got worse and worse with her pimps. They thought they would get a green card and i had shit loads of cash but the fact was, i was prettty broke and my wife was far worse.
My plan then, was to team up with my wifes sister and save money to buy a jeepney so her father could make a decent living and not leech off of us. Keep in mind i had a baby on the way, was practically broke and really what i should have been doing is saving for my own families future. Anyway, long story short, i denied sponsoring him and decided to not invest in a jeepney because he made all these bullshit excuses “theres too much competition, the jeepney is to expensive to run”. Yada yada. Last i talked to him was on Skype. He knew i was catching on to the manipulation and corruption of what they call their “culture”. It was becoming clear that all they wanted was money. So what does he do to “make light” of the situation? He gets his little 7 yr old to tell me “givee your money” and has a laugh. That was the day I decided not to engage with them anymore. That was the day i felt insulted and lost all respect. Here i was struggling with a new diagnosed disease, expecting a child on the way, monitoring and trying to stop my money moron wife from racking up debt and this fucker has the nerve to joke with me?
That day was the day i realized most off shore filipinos are after just one thing. To obey and accept all wishes of the parents and get them to a 1st world and stop at nothing to get them here.
Now onto the manipulation. Why does my Filipina wife threaten and manipulate me? Ive asked this question and wondered how she could be so sweet and then suddenly turn into this manipulative, passive aggressive beast. My answer is that Its engrained into her and has been passed on by those useless parasites. Thats what they have done to her since she was born. Theyve beat her into submission all the years until now. How the hell they dont break out of their spell and see the truth is beyond me. I was a rebel for independence when i was young and i think thats a healthy thing for a kid to do, especially if he/she feels he/shes manipulated. This pinoy culture is so the opposite. Never have i seen a culture where kids obey parents without question. My wife has seen their cold manipulative ways but literally a couple days go by and its as though her mind was erased and suddenly shes worshipping them like Gods again.
So what does all this “culture” of bullshit do to a marriage? It fucking destoys it. My wife becomes manipulative, threatening and constantly wanting to go on her planned mission to suite her pimps needs and the reality is that she cant afford it and she has her sons future and our future to worry about, not theirs. You can try and rattle their brains to your hearts content. This is a spell that you cant break. Theyve been pimped to perfection to serve their masters and never question them. Part of the “culture” is to openly accept the family without question and that i find sickening and ignorant. If they havent earned my respect than they have to change their ways and earn it. Otherwise im not going to engage them. Simple as that.
So a warning to foreigners who have married a Filipina. You will never see the marriage get better until you openly accept these parasites , whether their ruthless freeloading pimps or not. Also, expect lots of manipulation with tampo ( silent treatment) and plenty of threats and loads of denial and NOTHING being her fault. Get used to talking to her like shes a sulky child too because they are perfectionists when it comes to this. Dont expect adult conversations and adult negotiations. Instead you will receive empty threats and silent treatment. Also, every problem she has is because of YOU! She is never at fault, so get used to that. Another common trend you might experience is the looming financial threats she will pull on you. Like “im goin to the Philippines whether you like it or not” when she is already thousands in debt an has a child and mortgage to pay off.
The one bonus of the tampo is that she might sleep on the couch and give you the bed to yourself which i fucking love. Also, with my wife, she loves to use pussy power to get her way, sleeping on the couch hoping i am suffering , but at this point im happy wacking it in the shower and getting a good nights sleep on the bed alone! Lol!
So what have i learned from the “culture” is that you must embrace it whether you disagree with it or not, you must open your arms to the pimps pimping your wife, you must tolerate rudness, disrespetful behavior, you must suck up to your wife when she does tampo and last bu not least, you have to throw all your money away to useless parasites who think they own you! Otherwise they will”disown you”.
Im hoping one day my wife snaps out if this manipulation and threats bu i only see that happening when her pimps pass away.Published in