My Filipina Wife Is Draining My Soul

Thought I’d add a quick little story before I go to work. As many of you can probably relate, I, yet again, have to be subjected to my wife’s manipulation, Filogic and down right bitchy attitude. This is an endless cycle I tell you. All it takes is one little thing and this Filipino fucktard puts me through hell once again. If she can’t get her way it’s the same tactics:

  1. Fight: Needlessly fight with me, throw things around the house and try to be heard
  2. Threaten: Go to the extreme if she doesn’t get her way and threaten the relationship
  3. Manipulate: Proceed to Tampo giving me silent treatment
  4. Deny: Refrain from any blame by trying to switch the tables on me.

This is the pattern I go through over the smallest little shit. I swear this bitch is fucking mentally unsound and considering she is a Filipino, it goes beyond that. Stupidity, childishness, temper tantrums, all the symptoms small selfish children get. But what do you expect from a Pinoy brain?

Just the other day, we get in a fight over money which is always the number one tampo creator. We made a deal, she gets 100$ to spend on whatever and I get to keep her bank card. Simple, she can spend it on whatever she wants while I handle the money. She’s dumb with money after all, and having $100 for spending is within our budget each month so it is fair. I also only get $100 to spend so things are equal. But as you all can imagine, they never stick to a promise. Instead they will fight tooth and nail to weasel out of it and that’s what she’s been trying to do now. Anyhow, I’ve been holding my ground and not allowing this and now I get the bullshit that’s tied with that. Tampo, silent treatment, threatening the relationship etc. Taking money away from a Pinoy is like taking their SOUL away!

OK, on to my main point here. So, as most of you know, trying to reason with a Pinoy when they are sulky and upset is as good as reasoning with a tennis ball. You can bounce it around all you want but it’s not going to answer back and reason with you. Just the other day I notice my little boy is not closing the toilet lid, flushing, and then washing his hands. “why the heck are you not doing this? Ive taught you better?” Well what would be the source of all problems in the house hold if there is someone of Pinoy blood? You guessed it, my wife decided she would not bother with that task anymore. So now, when I come home from work, I get to retrain my son because of her laziness. So I ask her “have you been getting him to flush and wash his hands? What is going on here?” She of coarse denies, lies by saying “ya, ya” but through time of me pestering her, finally caves in. “it’s a waste of water flushing all the time and he’s getting his hands dirty anyway”.

What a poor pathetic excuse, but what do you expect from a Pinoy? That’s their specialty after all. Now I try to reason with her and tell her “well you’re making work for me and yourself by doing so, he should get into the routine of flushing and washing his hands”

One thing I’ve learned with child brained Filipino adults, is you never correct them or lecture them. They will do whatever they can to make your life a misery if you do so, and that is what my wife decided to do. I told her “please don’t make work for me, you know he should be cleaning his hands” SO what comes after that? “I’ll just do all the work then and you can do whatever you want” So she plays the victim role (your requests are hurting me), denies she did anything wrong, and then does the all so predictable switch one me (“I’ll do all the work”) then proceeds to threaten the relationship after this. Seriously, you catch them cheating or doing something wrong and they will go to extremes to make you pay for it! Never correct a Pinoy on their wrong doings because they are never wrong in their eyes! They are God’s perfect creation!

On top of this she wants that bank card back all the time. You know how it is with pinoy’s. Money, materials and showing off is their specialty and of the utmost importance. Now if you were a sane person, would you threaten a relationship, use tampo treatment, deny, disrespect and continue this trend over these 2 little things? You try to sit down and have a reasonable conversation and it’s just like talking to a brick wall. “Lets sit down and reason like adults. Lets try to work out a compromise?” but it goes nowhere.

Anyhow, I gotta go to work, but I thought I’d share my frustrations of living with this psycho manipulating, denying Pinoy. This is what I get to endure all the time. Sometimes my 3 year old child is easier to deal with.


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  1. Profile gravatar of Beavis

    I had an ex that would give me the silent treatment as well, but unfortunately that tactic didn’t last long. She figured out that the silent treatment made me happy because that meant peace and quiet, and it was a great excuse not to deal with her for the rest of the night.

    1. Profile gravatar of Don Quixote
      Don Quixote

      You can almost see the brain register. CLUNK !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ITS IN THE EYES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
      HE DOESNT FUCKING CARE. !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
      Now what do I do to piss him off. ?????????????????????
      Trust me they always come back with something, but you shouldn’t laugh when it is a Cluster Fuck spur of the moment thing..

    2. Profile gravatar of FHPS

      Yep same here or sleep on the floor when she could have called me a cunt and get on with coming to bed. Totally did functional people when it comes to dealing with things.

      1. Profile gravatar of BLX2

        Actually, calling THEM a cunt is the one thing you can do here, blank stare response. Try doing that with a woman from the West, only if you want to die…. 🙂

    1. Profile gravatar of FHPS

      I heard a guy get asked… “So how are you enjoying living in the Philippines”. His reply ” Its ok..I grew up with a retarded brother so I’m used to it”

  2. Profile gravatar of HawkEye

    You have a choice. Leave her. Lots of other decent ones around just make sure the next one is employable. Nothing worse than an unemployed wife, although an employed filipina wife can have its own problems!

  3. Profile gravatar of FHPS

    I’d never have a Filipina again. They are jealous.. Mad ..stupid.

    My ex was jealous of my friend ..I’m in 12:30am
    She tried ringing and said you not answering my calls you fucking that bitch.

    Umm I’m in hospital..she knows that.. Waiting for surgery.

    My accountant.. I said I’m with him in a meeting. Stupid and suspicious as they are she (another ex) rings and wants to chat and said. Are you in a bar drinking? Ummm its 2pm

  4. Profile gravatar of FHPS

    Why you don’t want to get a Filipina at all cost:

    Lack proactive skills outside texting..washing..sleeping..eating…

    Lacks English skills (only remembers last bit what you say/and comments on same)

    Lacks real empathy. No money=no love

    Has pissy fits over other women etc

    Highly dependent.. Financially

    Family are meddlers. They want a slice of your pie.

    Family will coerce her they cannot think for themselves.

    Wants the ideal sit at home and do nothing lifestyle.

    Pressure to secure..have kids.

    The focus is getting them out of poverty.. Into a job.. Into a lifestyle and if you don’t give this they leave..


    LIFESTYLE SEEKERS looking for an upgrade
    Unstable mentally
    Low common sense



    ..,why the fuck would you fly 10–30hrs to place yourself with one these.. Just enjoy the beer instead

    1. Profile gravatar of BLX2

      “COVERT NARCASSISTS”? Nothing covert about it, not once you know what a narcissist really is. Beyond that, yep, you got a Pinay.

      1. Profile gravatar of FHPS

        Most aren’t normal outward NARCASSISTS they are coverts. They use all sorts of guilt and shame to get attention and get their way.

        1. Profile gravatar of BLX2

          Yeah, that’s the mistake I made, I thought I knew what they were. I didn’t. “use all sorts of guilt and shame to get attention and get their way”, that is their pattern, that is normal for a narcissist. In a argument with my wife it was like watching the reels spinning around on a slot machine as she jumped from one technique to another trying to guilt, shame, embarrass, insult, threaten…. And like a loser on a slot machine, when the reels stopped spinning and there was no payout, well that’s when they beat their fist on the machine…..

  5. Profile gravatar of Stephan Sutherland
    Stephan Sutherland

    I get all the same shit from my Wife as well.The Tampo,The ignoring the moods.I had a good solution! I called security and had the bitch thrown out on the street! She sat there for 3 days and txt me until she ran out of load then she spent her last 200 on more load.The first day she threatened me with the police and the courts,I ignored me.She had the police at the gate and security called me.I told the police to get an arrest warrant and called my lawyer who called the security chief.The second day she cried and whines all day and begged my forgiveness.I let her back in on the third day and told her that her job was to get that cute little ass up in the air whenever I want it.
    (shes very hot) and the fourth day she wants money to go shopping to buy some new clothing cause the ones she wore for 3 days were to dirty! What can you do?

    1. Profile gravatar of BLX2

      She’s not a keeper, she won’t forget that….. They don’t take it as a lesson to be learned, only record for payback time.

    2. Profile gravatar of 30-30

      Well you are lucky!!!!!! There is a 2000 peso bounty out by the Philippine Immigration office. They have a text number and your butt will be in jail!!!!! on some trumped charge.
      We do not know what dark forces are in this world.

      1. Profile gravatar of Johnny


        Any chance Filipinos will abuse that hotline? Either threatening an expat for money or simply making bogus claims?

        The funny part is, that “campaign” of cracking down of illegals or foreigners is just an image thing. They could easily solve overstays, illegals, or hand out small infractions for minor tourist visa violations. However, Fiilpinos love to put up signs instead of actually doing anything. Again, they burn 90% of their calories pretending to do something and claiming it as actual work instead of just doing the job.

    3. Profile gravatar of loco_loco

      Just do it in their way…prepare all…simply all what you need to leave this country. Play her friendly . be nice to her bullshit…and suddenly one day you leave without sayin one word….thats the deal…she can text to the immigraton office and tell them lies …then ur ass is in the hands of these guys ….

      1. Profile gravatar of Brass Doff
        Brass Doff

        That’s the way to do it loco – I got tired of her lies and slander, so offered her a deal with a count-down date. She wanted more – naturally – so with 5 weeks left to zero day I packed a suitcase and took a flight to safety overseas. That was almost five months ago and since arriving back in civilization it has been bliss.

        The stupid aswang was coming on with the BI threats and wild accusations – and now that I’m free I’m coming across basket cases here in the west, guys who have been worked over by these Cluster B imbeciles.

  6. Profile gravatar of Don Quixote
    Don Quixote

    MAKE HER WASH THE DIRTY ONES !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    How can she go shopping in dirty clothes.???????????? You will be ashamed !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    When they are washed , NO NEED FOR THE NEW ONES.

  7. Profile gravatar of Stephan Sutherland
    Stephan Sutherland

    Ha ha ha Don of course she washed the dirty ones its just in the Filipina mind she needs an excuse no matter what.I kind of felt sorry about it anyway (and she made sure I did) so I took her shopping anyway.And she was as happy as a kid in a candy store.You know filipina their stupid excuses and such are sometimes what makes them so lovable.

  8. Profile gravatar of Don Quixote
    Don Quixote

    YUP MATE I KNOW EXACTLY WHAT YOU MEAN !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    The funny thing is the small things make them just as happy, as long as they are thinking they are winning.
    Flip Philosophy 101,
    I WIN YOU LOSE.!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! JUST WINNERS AND LOSERS. easy as that.

  9. Profile gravatar of BLX2

    ” stupid excuses and such are sometimes what makes them so lovable”, that is very high on my new vetting process, call them on their stupid excuses (“explanations”), they don’t let go of it quickly, I will let go of them.

  10. Profile gravatar of Barry Smyth
    Barry Smyth

    Well do not start me on this shit I have been married to one for 35 years now.
    I am not the best person to live with I admit that but she drives me fucking nuts.
    Any wonder I had a girlfriend anything to escape why not divorce her its not that easy to do.
    And I am fucking old now so just escape as often as possible like on Sunday back to the Philippines.
    Yep I know how you feel mate and it does not get any better trust me on that……

  11. Profile gravatar of BLX2

    “35 years now”, I can’t imagine. “Any wonder I had a girlfriend”, maybe that’s the answer, inside a relationship I can’t be with anyone else, can’t handle one at a time, how could I handle 2? 1 or 2, I can’t handle, right now ZERO is feeling pretty good!!!!!

  12. Profile gravatar of FHPS

    ORDER OF IMPORTANCE FILIPINA CHECK LIST WHETHER THEY like it or not (with little exception) is:-
    1. Money
    2. mother and Family
    3. face in the families eyes. Ie. The lazy fucking family will heap shame on them that mr FOREIGNER hasn’t provided for etc and to GET THE FUCK OUT and find a foreigner that will.
    4. Filipino Boyfriend and Friends. They will borrow off the FOREIGNER to give to the Filipino bludgers or prostitute themselves to support his eg shabu addiction. Sorry but its fucking true pinoy cocksuckers!
    5. Possessions..phones..clothes.. Etc to chat on fb to work lists.. The moneys in the list as internet marketers say and making loads of friends is a way to get cash by pleading poor and begging through the list and showing off to #4 the pinoy fans what they have been given from foreigners or that they are in a resort or Boracay. Photos. Sorry pinoy cocksuckers but its fucking true!!!!
    6. Foreigners. Yup. Last …fucking last where the loyalties are. Foreigners even get told..your have no rights here. Sorry pinoy cock suckers but your rotten culture sucks and its all true.

  13. Profile gravatar of Thunderhead

    Had a Korean wife who would get me dinner and put it in the car. Asked her not to, and she did it anyway. Told her not to do so and she did it anyway. She followed me around when I parked in a different parking lot at college. Knew she was tracking me due to the arguments that followed “where were you? You weren’t at school like you said you were.” Been married to crazy before and it was not fun. Her current husband told her to knock it off or he would divorce her. Kudos to him.

    She was so bad her divorce lawyer returned all the money she had spent and told her to go away and find another lawyer. Pretty bad when a money grubbing lawyer does that.

    1. Profile gravatar of FHPS

      Taiwanese are fucking paranoid.

      1. I’d go across the road and get a sanwhich.. I spoke to the guy and she’s ringing.. No answer i get back to the house..she’s putting on her shoes.. Where were you..I was coming to look for you.

      2. Not talking to males and females. Even being nice eg opening the door

      3. Following me everywhere o had little time out on my own
      Calls were where are you..why are you taking so long.. Etc

      4. My friend would get same calls from his Chinese gf even at 2pm she is saying your not at work are you? Your at a disco!! Lol

      Taiwanese and Chinese girls are paranoid types. I gave up. I couldn’t stand this monitoring g they do.

      I get to the Philippines and ..we’ll…
      First I’m having arguments and discussions with girls that go nowhere. They don’t understand IRONY..they don’t understand ANALOGY.. They don’t understand many jokes.. They think my English is slang.. I’m a fucking native English speaker.. They only remember the last bit of what you say in a sentence..they have no logical responses from what you say and are dismissive..they are emotional abusers calling me hard headed for example daily and labelling me. They are mentally you g for their age..low mental intellect and have not had a breadth and depth of life most same age western girls have had..many are distracted by Facebook and gadgets.. Theres little proactiveness…
      Basicall y I went from a Chinese hotpot to a SHIT SANDWHICH!!!!!

      1. Profile gravatar of Thunderhead

        Some of my GF friends said I spoke in slang as well. As a native speaker of English, I do use big words and know what they mean. Also, I do not talk down to people. I’ve sent several native speakers of English to the dictionary to see what it was I was saying. They don’t understand the difference between having a good vocabulary and speaking in slang. Their problem, not mine. Keep speaking the way you speak and if it drives them crazy, then so be it.

      1. Profile gravatar of FHPS

        Agree Don. Filipinos are like a black hole. They will never return money even when obtained by deception and fraud. Businesses even obtained money for dodgy products don’t want to refund. Getting YOUR money back from a Filipino just don’t figure in their way of dealings.

    1. Profile gravatar of BLX2

      “actually a good one out there “, Agreed, but finding that one out of 100 million is like finding a needle in a haystack.

      1. Profile gravatar of Sarah

        Agreed! Majority are so money hungry, materialistic, narcissist, vain, self centred. I’m sure you got the picture by now. Well, Biggie and FHPS and others already covered it in detail. “There are good ones out there”, and “not all are like that”. Really? Perhaps not in the beginning……

  14. Profile gravatar of kalbo

    The narcissism is displayed by the constant selfie taking. I witnessed a teenage girl sitting for hours by herself taking photos and uploading them to facebook. Instead of enjoying her friends, family and the pretty poolside setting high up above the city, she preferred to just look at her own face.

    I saw something else that freaked me out last week. I was on the plane to flipland and a flip on my row was looking at his phone during the flight. Nothing unusual there you might think. But when I looked, he was using the front facing camera on his phone so he could see HIMSELF in his phone! Yes he was preening away for most of the flight, fluffing up his quiff and checking himself out. Unreal.

    1. Profile gravatar of Mike

      If they are not taking selfies then they are taking pictures of food. In the last 4 months we ate at 1 steak house,1 Japanese restaurant, 3 Korean and 2 Chinese. Each time the cell phone comes out and pics are taken of the food. “Don’t eat yet, I have to take a picture of the food.”

  15. Profile gravatar of

    You poor thing.

    We have never fought before.
    I am the only one that has ever made threats when frustrated about something. Usually stupid.
    Never manipulates me.
    She admits everything is her fault. Even the damn rain was from something she did.

    Where do you guys meet these crazy Pinay?! lol

  16. Profile gravatar of Matt

    I wish I’d seen this site before I was married. It makes feel a bit better knowing the strategy Filipinas use to deal with conflict is universal. I thought it was just my crazy wife. Do they all revert to the same tactics when dealing with PMT too? How can it be that something they have to deal with every 25 days or so is still allowed to take over the lives of everyone around them?