Wife arrives in the States and everything is great for about 1 year. Yes during that year we sent some money to her family but it was never any large amount, never more than 20 dollars a month, nothing to get bent out of shape about. Her father retires and all of a sudden can no longer pay for his meds. 20 becomes 40 becomes 75 becomes 100 and at that point I refuse to send so much as one more dollar as I suspect this will keep going on and on with no end in sight.
Yes her father was legitimately ill but I saw what was happening, which is why I refused to keep helping out. The wife finally gets a job, pays me back the money I spent, and takes over paying her fathers medical bills and meds. Wife toils her ass off for over a year all the while pops condition continually gets worse. Mother continues to play with her emotions over the sick father, 100 a month grew into 1000 a month, and sometimes up to 800 a week when those special hospital visits were needed.
The wife and I argued all the time over it too as we really could have used that extra cash. I would point it out to her that she was just being scammed by her mother and she refused to see what was right in front of her nose. Why is it that every time you send money, your mother and siblings have new things posted on facebook? New improvements and additions to the house, new clothes, tablets, jewelry, 1 brother got a motorcycle, always throwing beer and lechon baboy parties to impress the neighbors and a multitude of other shit they could never afford as a poor family in the rural province.
Maybe she did see it but the fact her pop was so ill was the overriding factor for her, she was always so worried about him and I understood that part. Also during that time she sent one of her sisters and one of her brothers to OFW on the promise of being paid back. The sister actually told her “fuck off, I don’t owe you anything” when the time came for repayment, and the brother just kept giving excuses as to why he can’t repay. Wife doesn’t talk to them anymore.
Wife quits her job, bank account reads a big fat ZERO in her personal balance. (I thank the powers that be which gave me foresight to not have a joint account with her) Still sends money back home when she gets money from her student loans. 2015 she goes back home to visit and finally sees her pop after several years. He is in constant pain, can no longer see, can’t walk, can barely eat, gets left in his own filth in a dark room for days at a time with only a 6 year old granddaughter to watch over him most of the time. Father depressed and despondent says to her, “you know I have been very ill, your mother told me that you refused to help us out”. Light bulb FINALLY goes off!!!!Wife said she had WW3 argument with her mother and finally found out the truth, which was painfully obvious for so long. She also found out that her mother had lied to the OFW siblings and told them my wife refused to send money so she could get the maximum amount of money from them too. Sister gets back home and after sending all her pay to the mother the entire time she worked, mother tells her after 1 week to get a job and start helping or find someplace else to live. She wants my wife to pay for OFW preparations again, brother too. No more money will be sent to these shameless bloodsucking leeches.
After 2 weeks the wife returns to the U.S. Mother still asking for money LOL. 4 months later her father passes away. Wife goes back for the funeral. So many people there she has to sleep outside for 3 days at the house she was scammed into upgrading. She tells me this over the phone and I implore her to get some fortitude and deal with it. She told aunt and uncle to vacate the bedroom and let her get some proper rest or she will get the bolo and kill them. They gave up the room fairly quickly she said, lol. Cousin arrives and immediately asks her for money, no sorry your pop died let me know if you need anything, just gimme money. She said she bitched him out so severely that he left and never came back. Wife knew to hide her personal things away, passport, cash and cards in a money belt. Some shameless fuck went through her things and stole her toothpaste, yes that’s right a used tube of toothpaste, and a small box of single serving packets of coffee. Wife gets back to the States and days later gets a text from mother asking for money. Says it will be a little while until she gets the death benefit and needs help. JFC….