Off Shore Filipino Debt Slaves And The Freeloading Parents That Made Them That Way!

A while back, I was having an interesting and refreshing conversation with a Filipino! No, it wasn’t a native Filipino, he was born and raised in my country (Canada). He told me something that really resonated with me and I couldn’t argue with. He told me “Filipino’s here are just the new Niggers!” It was surprising hearing those words come from a Filipino. I could tell he was an outsider looking in at the destructive and absent minded behavior of the native Filipino’s. He had seen it all with his native parents and their parasitic relatives.
I thought to myself, how they are modern day slaves and further realized that they may be far worse off than the Negros during the slave days.

Working Abroad:
For many Filipino’s, being a Nanny and taking care of children is the one way ticket out of the Philippines. Since many of them lack the capabilities to do anything else, this is one of their first options to escape and live “free”. When compared to the Negros of yesterday, there is a striking similarity except they aren’t forced onto slave ships! They willingly travel across the oceans to be willing subservient “slaves!” Employers give them minimum wage, often a charged suite to live in and have them work around the house, cleaning, taking care of pets, children and so on. The only other difference between the Negros and modern day OFW’s is the looming debt that Filipinos “owe” to their parents.
*From my experience with Filipino’s, I always have a laugh when I hear about them having a hard time with their employer, milking them for all they got and manipulating them for all their hard labor, because the employer is nothing compared to their freeloading, slave driving parents and relatives back home. *

Off Shore Filipino ATM Pawns For the King and Queen (Momma and Papa):

After they get their permanent residence and finish the contract for the nanny/maid job, OFW’s are left with 2 choices for their future.

Option A: Work at a minimum/low wage job, pay for freeloading family back home and accumulate endless debt.
Option B: Work at a minimum/low wage job, “invest” (go in more debt) into school and pay for the freeloading family back at home and continue to accumulate endless debt.

The options are obviously pretty dreary but this is all too often the circumstance for the OFW. Either option is just a big trap for them in the end. Either they work a low paying job and try to work their way up the ladder, or they put down thousands of dollars for education (that they can’t really afford) and try to work part-time while giving money handouts to the freeloading parents and relatives back home.
Example: My wife’s sister is a Nanny, and also works at Tim Horton’s. She is in endless debt to her parents paying off acres of land that they aren’t even using, paying for their bills, food and merchandise, you name it. Eventually, once the land is paid for it won’t end there…..she is expected to pay for the construction of a house next and God knows what else. She is nearing “marriage and kid’s” stage but will probably never see that happen unless she pairs up with a wealthy husband (but what guy would take this sh*$ on?). Her prospects are pretty low since she decided to buy a new car, doesn’t have the money to invest in an education and has little work experience to excel to a high paying job in this suffering economy. Fortunately she is one of the rare OFW’s who is a little more careful with money. The only debt she has is the car loan, but savings? What savings? How the hell do they save? The only way I’ve seen Filipino’s really save is when they don’t’ have a freeloading family back at home or they manage to find high paying jobs.

Boasting, status oriented, and racking up debt to “impress” their competition and family.

The general outlook from native Filipino’s is that everyone is rich in 1st world nations. They believe we have endless amounts of cash and we have more than enough to spare. Since that view is so overwhelmingly believed, Filipino parents expect their children to live up to that rich, superficial status role, making sure they banish any part of their poverty to impress neighbors and friends in their village. This leads to some heavy debt load since a lot OFW’s buy all the new gadgets, clothing, and countless other things they can’t afford to show off and please their parents and relatives back home while competing with other money moron Pinoy friends doing the same thing. It doesn’t matter how much you try to explain to native Pinoys how money works and what things cost here, they won’t f*()ing understand and will persist to have their children invest money they don’t have into their status. (A very shallow culture indeed).
So with the pressure of freeloading families, sustaining a “rich” and “successful” appearance and paying debt’s to continue that role, the OFW proves to be an ultimate debt slave.

OFW’s: The Ultimate Modern Day Debt Slaves
What makes a good slave? Well, one that will pay you money all their life and die with nothing left for themselves. Too many OFW’s play this role. They “invest” in their families back at home buying land, house, car, merchandise, school for the dozens of kids and are left with nothing for themselves. They are continually guilt tripped (often through religious tactics) into believing they are greedy if they don’t give up what they have for the freeloading family back home and if they don’t accept this parasitic behavior they will further be guilt tripped and “disowned” by the parents.
All too often the OFW’s invest all their savings to family and are left with no other choice but to get in debt so they can invest into their own future. But how the hell do they have a future when they have accumulated large student tuition fees, credit card debt, debt to parents and personal expenses? This would explain the many OFW’s I see who Nanny into their old age.
Why do OFW’s work so hard in 1st world countries? They always boast about how they are hard workers. Well I think it’s pretty obvious why. Picture this: You have 4 siblings back at home who need school paid for, 2 parents who are lazy fu$# and don’t work, an aunt who needs medical expenses paid for, a house and land to pay for, a plane flight to visit your parasitic family and endless personal expenses that you can’t even afford. That’s what makes a good hard working slave. One that is struggling to survive, trying to make ends meet and sacrificing all their hard labor for others.
*Just about every Filipino I dated would bring out the credit card to pay for things. This initially raised a lot of red flags for me. Through enough experience getting to know Filipinos it became pretty clear that they were just money morons. Credit card debt, tuition, car loan, and freeloading parents back home make them the ultimate debt slaves*

Native Filipino Parents Rewarded For Having Sex And Procreating.

Where do all these problems arise for the over worked OFW? It all starts with the careless parents who barely have enough money to feed and clothe themselves let alone kids, but yet, even after having 3, 4 of them, they keep pumping them out.
Through desperation the parents become dictatorial and look at their children as nothing more than walking, talking ATM machines, expecting them to pay for everything so they can live a cost free life, and through brainwashing and manipulation, most OFW’s don’t even think twice about serving them. Hey, they’ve been serving these parasites all their life, it’s ingrained in their brain!

Unfortunately, many OFW’s become nothing more than a host for parasites. What do parasites do? They find a host and deplete as many resources from that host, even if it costs the host his/her life. There isn’t much difference here for an OFW. They are taught from birth to serve and provide for the irresponsible dictatorial parents and become nothing more than pawns on the chess board. We know how it turns out for pawns. They take all the hits for the king and queen, while the king and queen sit high and pretty on their thrones, unscathed. The parents could care less if they get their children in endless debt. As long as they can live an easy care free life and get money hand-outs, that’s all that matters.

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  1. Profile gravatar of Penance

    The way that I have come to see it is as a “perfect storm” of factors that contribute to this.

    First of all, you have the uneducated masses that, due to both laziness and an indifference to what the norm SHOULD be, are also promoted to be uneducated by the government. The government regularly rips funding from schools (you can guess where it goes), tolerates an incredibly stupid level of drop outs as early as grade 4, and uses the poverty that stems from education as a way to promote more foreign investment.

    Secondly, there’s the remittance program. It’s a goldmine, and the government doesn’t have to lift a finger to collect on it. It pulls in billions of USD per year that the government just slathers on to everything BUT the poverty that gives it a never-ending supply of manpower that’s only just smart enough to do the work, but too dumb to question why. They just send money back home, and the government collects it’s share. It’s that easy.

    I once heard a politician say on the radio that “the Filipino is our greatest export!”. The last I heard, exports referred to things such as bananas or rice. I.E. something to make a profit from that others will consume. Rather than create manufacturing jobs here that will keep more money in the family, thus better chances at higher education, they’d rather collect it and pocket it, doling out only the most minimal in social services to look good on paper.

    All they have to do is keep the Filipino uneducated to keep the money coming in. With the inherent laziness of the Filipino, you couldn’t have a better cash cow if a genie just granted you one.

  2. Profile gravatar of

    Family got jobs in Canada, one is a Radiologist, so GOOD JOBS.
    They came home after being away for 18 month, with their first Fucking child !!!!!!!!!!for the Pamily to see and Gush over.
    We were invited to the ONE YEAR OLD birthday party, It was Fucking DRY . 7 Eleven located, Not dry anymore.
    The baby FUCKING SLEPT ALL DAY what do you expect it was a fucking baby. They had every fucking thing, Hot seafood, cold curry the obligatory lechon, booked a waterfront resort for the party. For the sleeping baby.
    BROKE the next week, they had to borrow money off my wife to pay for changing the plane tickets to get back to Canada out of the Fucking Philippines . My wife had to borrow the money off me, that’s how I knew about it.
    How the fuck do they get it through their heads to stay away from the family!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    1. Profile gravatar of Pinay Lover
      Pinay Lover Post author

      When they get their hands on any money, they automatically spend it without hesitation. When they run out of money they beg and freeload off others. When that doesn’t work, they rack up credit cards and keep spending.

      The worlds #1 Money Morons in my opinion.

      1. Profile gravatar of Steve Declerck
        Steve Declerck

        Not only working abroad, but marrying abroad ends up in the same: being an ATM. I’m at my wit’s end with my dumbass wife. She certainly is a big, big money moron. Whenever she has money, she makes sure it is spent ALL in the shortest possible time. Saving ? How about the future ? No way. Living from day to day is the way to go.

        What made me furious last weekend is this : I told her already several times that she has no savings and she is not even willing to save. Immediatly her irritated face showed up again. I said : “Fine, don’t save, but don’t expect me to save your sorry ass when something goes wrong again and you cannot pay” (like I always did before). Then the typical Filipino attitude showed up: Not taking any responsability and playing the victim’s role. According to her, I should love her and help her when she’s in need, while she is playing the ATM for her parasite relatives and in case there is something left over, it has to be spent immediatly. Instead of taking responsibility for what she’s doing already 10 years, no, she’s playing the victim, feeling sorry for herself because her husband is no longer willing to be her ATM. Twice I payed a trip to Philippines for her. I gave her 1000 euro for expenses there. After 1 week, she called that everything was spent already. Money Moron !! 60000 pesos spent in 1 week. Her explanation : the price of rice increased. They are certainly the world’s biggest money morons !!

        1. Profile gravatar of Pinay Lover
          Pinay Lover Post author

          They are money traps. The best way i found to handle their money moro. Tendencies is to have a joint account and go over the expenses each month. Make goals like saving for a new car, saving for a vacation, saving for retirement. Then figure out what you have left over eqch month and then determine how much you can afford to send to the parasites.

          If she persists to go in the negatives to server her slave masters then you have a lot of work to do. Hell, i still tear out my hair to this day trying to manage her and the parasite freeloaders. It is an endless battle.

  3. Profile gravatar of snakebitbytheflip

    You are spot on with this analysis. I especially like the quote, “Filipino’s here are just the new Niggers!”, for there is nothing more true than that. For some time now, I’ve been calling those people “Oriental Niggers”. Now for those who do not understand the meaning behind that word, “Nigger”, if it is used by a non-black person in america, is considered to be a racial epithet, but that word is often used by middle or upper-class black people to describe blacks who are lazy, prone to drugs, alcohol, etc., live as freeloaders off of family members or the government, dirty, multiply like rabbits, irresponsible, etc. etc….

    Can you see the similarity to the “Oriental Niggers”?

    I confess that, as a “rich Kano”, I fell into their trap, and though I make a very good living here in the States, I ended up as a slave to my wife, her family, and poor families I adopted. Now I was doing it all in the name of Charity (I used to take annual mission trips there to work with churches and oversee humanitarian projects I tried to start), but in retrospect they were nothing more than parasites who took advantage of my love and generosity. In loving concern for their well-being and their future, I tried to teach them a better way to live, tried to teach them the wrongfulness of their cultural traditions, and tried to get them to think about the future, rather than merely live in the “here and now”, and initially they agreed with everything I said.

    However, they only agreed to everything I said, and made (empty) promises to me, so the ATM would keep spitting out cash.

    In reality, they did not want to change. All they wanted was the “goodies” (remittances, balikbayans, etc.), and they would do things without any thought or regard to the effects/consequences in the future. That became evident when, just a little over a year ago, I emailed my wife to inform her that I needed to reduce my support because I was physically incapable of continuing the pace of work I needed to maintain in order to maintain the level of support I was providing. Instead of having empathy and understanding, she got nasty with me. That (as well as other “red flags” that I foolishly ignored over the years) made it clearly evident that she only married me to have a “sugar daddy” and an ATM in the family.

    So last year, I made the heavy-hearted decision to “let go” and stop all support, and eventually I will terminate the marriage (thankfully, she never made it over here due to a snafu with USCIS, and we never had any children). Once again, no empathy or understanding, instead, I get occasional emails/texts in which she tries to throw a guilt trip on me by saying how miserable she is. But as for me, it was a great burden lifted off of my shoulders.

    Bottom line is, DON’T F— WITH THESE “ORIENTAL NIGGERS”!!!!! I estimate my losses–between the many trips I had taken in an 7+ year period, the many balikbayans I sent, the college educations I provided, the business I started, and many other acts of charity–to be around $150,000. And no measurable level of true appreciation from them, but then again, when you go to a bank ATM and get cash, do you say “Thank you” to that ATM?

    1. Profile gravatar of Pinay Lover
      Pinay Lover Post author

      I hate to say it, but the majority of them are just a drain on 1st world nations. They come here and in less than a couple years start having kid’s, draining our tax system getting free tax credits, milking it for everything it has. They cripple the western economies with their money transfers since all the investments go back to the Philippines and not back within the western countries. The money handling is embarrassing, racking up debt like they are receiving free money and many of them will just pay interest the rest of their lives and leave that for their children (if they have any).

      The only people who TRULY benefit from these OFW’s are the banks and their parasite families back at home, while they are left with nothing but debt and depression for themselves.

      Sorry to hear about your Filipina. See, they have this belief that they are entitled to your money and you OWE them. What for? Well, for simply being Filipino’s! That’s it. They consider 1st world people to have truck loads of money. They are too stupid to understand WORK=MONEY, since they are used to hand-outs. They are also too stupid to understand what everything costs over here. All they look at is the currency and how much it’s worth and figure “wow they are rich because they make 140,000$ per month!” but then they don’t realize that monthly expenses are 138,000$. Critically thinking is non-existent there.

      I’m pretty lucky since my wife is not a complete moron. She was smart enough to cut her parents off for a month and show them who’s boss. They were threatening her and telling her they would “disown her as a daughter” if they didn’t get their money. Well, They were pretty fucked for that month and they deserved it. The money transfers are small for just food and bills now and we mutually agree that’s all they get or deserve.

      Why should she pay for them being complete fuck ups? The Dad fucked off and didn’t pursue in school when he had a chance. He is now a Jeepney driver and doesn’t make anything. They have 4 kid’s and they don’t learn after the 1st one? They were still able to manage when their kid’s weren’t abroad, but suddenly when they become OFW’s they are broke? Just a bunch of con artists who couldn’t give a damn how much they drain you. I know from experience and read into it right away. Didn’t like her parents to begin with.

      If you can’t afford to have kid’s, you don’t deserve to be parents. If you are freeloading off of your kid’s, you don’t deserve to be parents. If you can not provide for your kid’s, you do not deserve to be parents. If you haven’t learned after 5, 6 kid’s, you don’t deserve TO BE ALIVE. They just keep fucking like jack rabbits and expect some miracle to save them, and unfortunately that miracle is a OFW debt slave!

      1. Profile gravatar of Steve Declerck
        Steve Declerck

        You are so very right. These dumbass relatives don’t understand anything about prices abroad. They just think, wow, 1 euro is 60 pesos. They are rich. That’s how dumb they are. Even explaining it to them 100 times doesn’t help, they are so pre-occupied with their nonsense belief. And yes, they think we owe them. When we were just married, her brother sent me an e-mail to ask for 400 euro for a dancing course ????? He was asking it in a way like it was a very small amount and I was so rich, so no problems to give it, right ? When I told it to my wife, she immediatly took his side : “Well honey, you didn’t give him anything yet”. What the fuck ?????? Do I owe him something ?????

        That stupid brother of her still managed to loose his job. Of the rest of the parasite clan, there is only 1 left who has a job still, the rest are all freeloaders. My wife seems happy with it, she told me already many times : “I have my obligations to my family”. Yes, be their ATM for the rest of your miserable life. I told her, after this generation, you will still take care of the next generation. Then she’s so very surprised I don’t give her any money anymore. I was too stupid before to do that. While she was giving her money away in Philippines, I gave her my bank card to buy clothes, numerous shoes, handbags, etc….. After years of having a bank account below zero, I stopped it. I want my kids to have a future, not that moron I’m married to. Of course the love was also finished and she played the victim’s role. Why these dumb asswipes cannot take responsability for their own actions ?? And why it is simply not possible at all to have a reasonable conversation with them ??

        What to do with such a money moron ? I don’t know anymore.

        1. Profile gravatar of Pinay Lover
          Pinay Lover Post author

          I dont understand how they manage to pretend like they have it all with their low paying jobs and how they live in complete denial and fantasy when it comes to money management.

          In their mind they think they can pay for their own bills, expenses, their kids, mortgage and at the same time support an entire family back in the Philippines? So they end up going into the severe negatives and continue to live in denial and pretend as though they are financially stable.

          The truly live in the present and do not think of consequence. I had this discusion with my wife and she basically thinks God will save them.

    2. Profile gravatar of Steve Declerck
      Steve Declerck

      That’s also my experience, they don’t appreciate anything you do or give, it’s just like you owe it to them, or they “deserve” it. They don’t have the capabilities to understand something. And you cannot have a reasonable conversation with them, I gave up on that. They will “love” you as long as you are willing to be their ATM and the lazy relatives ATM. The love stops when the cash stops flowing. Good she’s still there and you don’t have kids.

      1. Profile gravatar of Pinay Lover
        Pinay Lover Post author

        They will fight tooth and nail to serve their masters. It is a hypnosis that takes a long time to break free from. If your wife continues to make these absent minded sacrifices she will bring you and everyone eles(kids) down with her.

        It took me a long, long time to break my wifes spell. She finally understands the concept of future planning and money management.

        I would try very patiently, to approach her with calmness and lots of logic (especially if you have kids) and ask her “whos future is more important? Ours or theirs?” If she says “theirs” you have a lot of work cut out for you.

  4. Profile gravatar of Barry Smyth
    Barry Smyth

    My girlfriend here in the Philippines was treated no better than a dog all her life little education and no family love I go her a descent job her in the Philippines and guess what —-The fucking parasites want to leach on her she pays for the rice every month to feed the pricks from her salary working in a hotel a job I got her.
    I have told her many times they are bleeding you you owe them nothing but she feels she has this misguided responsibility to help the parasites who treated her no better than a slave all her life.
    So its not only OSW.S its in the country as well and its done with no shame send your daughters off to fuck and send all her money home the prettier she is the bigger the asset more popular more JOHNS between her legs.
    Yes Filipino’s are nothing more than parasites/fleas living on the backs of others I never forget this when dealing with them here.

  5. Profile gravatar of Eric

    Ok…Im all for the premise of this article and the points raised. I too am supremely frustrated with the way things are “done” here and how ass backwards things can be. This blog is a great for frustration relief and connecting with others who share a similar plight, etc…, etc…

    But what I can’t get with is how relaxed some of you are with throwing the word “nigger” around in the same context as “negro” and “slave”. We come from different backgrounds and I respect that…but those words have no place here in this conversation. There is no comparison between what those words mean to some and what you are experiencing here in the Philippines. To say “nigger” is ok because that’s how middle/upper class black people describe those less fortunate or “educated” than themselves is completely UNTRUE. It is a term that reflects ignorance by those that speak it. I don’t care what the media, hollywood, or popular music artists will lead you to believe. In real life among real people that word is offensive…period.

    Back to venting…

    1. Profile gravatar of Mick

      Eric, this is the problem with ‘PC’. For me it’s all about context.

      It pisses me off that so many countries & their people have outlawed or become so over-sensitive with words like ‘nigger’. I certainly wouldn’t call someone a nigger just for the sake of it but used in the context of slavery it’s fair game IMO.

      A slave is a slave is a slave. They might not be chained or getting whipped but the mental torture/abuse is abundant. I think ‘nigger’ illustrates the actual seriousness of it perfectly well.

      If you value freedom of speech then please refrain from falling into PC nonsense. Understand the context and then hang or respect them accordingly.

      1. Profile gravatar of Eric

        Obviously the word “nigger” means completely different things for you than it does for me. If using that word in context with slavery is fair game for you then we come from totally different schools of thought and what is generally deemed to be socially acceptable vs. NOT. The only thing that word illustrates is complete and utter ignorance and a lack of understanding of that mental torture/abuse you speak of. I won’t get into this any more than I already have as I think we understand each other and this is not the place for this discussion. Regarding PC’ness…I am the LAST person you have to worry about on that front. I will call out a motherfucker in public here at the drop of a hat – it’s what we have to do sometimes right?

        But ignorance like that needs to be addressed, especially if you walk around with the thought in your head that its ever ok to use that word – in any context. Consider it sage advice in the event you ever come across someone not as calm and collective as I am regarding this issue

        1. Profile gravatar of Mick

          Well done, you’ve highlighted the problems of political correctness very well.

          Perhaps I am ignorant of what ‘nigger’ means to you. What do you expect when we’re never to utter the word, when we’re expected to pretend the word doesn’t exist?

          No hard feelings pal but you will not silence my words, unless you discuss it first, then I’ll decide how offensive it is.

          Carry on ranting.

          1. Profile gravatar of Captain PFB
            Captain PFB

            Hey Mick, what does the word “desk” mean to you?

            How about the word “eyeglasses”? What does that word mean to you?

            Let’s talk about how differently we define these words. I’m sure you’ll agree, it would be a VERY short conversation.

            Or maybe I’m ignorant of what the word “desk” means to you….I don’t know.

        2. Profile gravatar of Captain PFB
          Captain PFB

          As far as I know, in modern times, the “N” word is a derogatory term racists use when referring to a man with black skin; someone the racists feels does not deserve to be referred to as a “person” or “man”, or “another human being”. It’s a term the racist uses because said racist feels far superior than the man with dark skin, because of the dark skin, and that’s as far as it goes.

          Let’s stop the pissing down our backs and telling us it’s raining. The word has one meaning, one use. And someone can try to redefine the fucked up word all they want. It doesn’t change the meaning of the word.

          If you want to refer to a slave, call him a slave.

          Usage alert
          The term nigger is now probably the most offensive word in English. Its degree of offensiveness has increased markedly in recent years, although it has been used in a derogatory manner since at least the Revolutionary War. The senses labeled Extremely Disparaging and Offensive represent meanings that are deeply insulting and are used when the speaker deliberately wishes to cause great offense. It is so profoundly offensive that a euphemism has developed for those occasions when the word itself must be discussed, as in court or in a newspaper editorial: “the n-word.”
          Despite this, the sense referring to a “black person” is sometimes used self-referentially among African Americans in a neutral or familiar way. The sense referring to other victims of prejudice, especially when used descriptively, as to denounce that prejudice, is not normally considered disparaging—as in “The Irish are the niggers of Europe” from Roddy Doyle’s The Commitments —but the other uses are considered contemptuous and hostile.

          Slang: Extremely Disparaging and Offensive.
          a contemptuous term used to refer to a black person.
          a contemptuous term used to refer to a member of any dark-skinned people.
          Slang: Extremely Disparaging and Offensive. a contemptuous term used to refer to a person of any racial or ethnic origin regarded as contemptible, inferior, ignorant, etc.
          a victim of prejudice similar to that suffered by black people; a person who is economically, politically, or socially disenfranchised.

          Seems to me there are one or two instances where it’s considered not so disparaging. But the word itself still means what it means. It’s a fucked up word. I hate the word, and the only time I utter it is in cases like this. Fuck “PC”. It’s not about political correctness, it’s about NOT BEING IGNORANT.

          Let’s face it, people who feel it’s ok to use the word “nigger” certainly deny they are racist. I don’t know many people who are racist, that openly accept that they are. They always seem to have some sort of justification for their beliefs and usage of words. But sorry, most of us can see right through your bullshit, and we end up seeing YOU.

          1. Profile gravatar of Mick

            There we have it FiloFail, OP’s usage of the word was clearly in reference of #3

            a victim of prejudice similar to that suffered by black people;

            It was very clear it wasn’t intended in a derogatory manner, hence my defence of its use. It was concise and straight to the point.

            I don’t know how old you are but I lived back in the days when the word was used freely. I’d love to have those days back, not because I don’t find the word offensive when used in a derogatory manner but because you basically get to weigh people up in super-fast time as opposed to giving people the benefit of doubt forever in a day.

            You’d prefer to call a slave a slave, I’m not so sure that really works though. Here in UK we have the unemployed being forced to work for their benefits. The right-wing are fine with it whereas the left-wing will say it’s a form of slavery. Both sides can make valid points. The money men effectively get cheap labour which also denies others a paid position. On the other hand why should people get easy money during times of austerity when we’re all seeing cuts to services?

            The OFW slave on the other hand doesn’t fit the above criteria. They’re living in fear of being disowned by those who purport to love them unconditionally. That must be a horrible position to be in. I think the use of the ‘N’ word highlighted their situation perfectly.

            I’m now repeating myself so I’m done with this topic.


          2. Profile gravatar of Pinay Lover
            Pinay Lover Post author

            Some people might find the word “bitch” offensive, but it’s used all the time to describe a women who is often a user, manipulator, money loving, cock teasing, cynical women. I guess everyone has their meaning of a word. Generally “bitch” is a pretty straight forward well understood name for a women. As for N___, I think there is too much stigma behind that word. There’s just too much bad history tied to it.

            Hell, personally though…..I got a good hard laugh from your post! I don’t use that word freely myself, but you’ve got a point about the freeloading, cheating, crime……general deadbeats that I suppose could be tied to that word.

            The Filipino that I was talking to was basically relating N___ to the slavery that went on. How OWF’s are in a similar situation. I call it sophisticated slavery. Hell, the majority of us are in it. We are all debt slave to the banks, but OFW’s certainly take the cake for it!

          3. Profile gravatar of Pinay Lover
            Pinay Lover Post author

            Exactly…..that word is so taboo, especially if your white! If you’re gonna say it…’s better to say in your head or under your breathe! heheh

          4. Profile gravatar of Captain PFB
            Captain PFB

            Quite frankly, there are plenty of less derogatory terms that can be used in whatever context you’re speaking of. But some just feel free to use the “N” word still…..freely. Tsk tsk tsk.

          5. Profile gravatar of Eric

            “It was very clear it wasn’t intended in a derogatory manner, hence my defence of its use. It was concise and straight to the point.”

            Dude…you can’t be serious. Here and now in 2015 there are people that still believe the bullshit you are spewing. You could have stopped right at the point where you are “defending” it’s use. No more explanation needed. It’s very clear to me who and what you are with regard to this issue.

            All I am asking is that for the sake of your health (and those that happen to be with you at the time), please do not go walking up to anyone with brown skin spewing this nonsense.

          6. Profile gravatar of Captain PFB
            Captain PFB

            “I don’t know how old you are but I lived back in the days when the word was used freely. I’d love to have those days back, not because I don’t find the word offensive when used in a derogatory manner but because you basically get to weigh people up in super-fast time as opposed to giving people the benefit of doubt forever in a day.”

            “the “n” word in any context makes reference to the meaning of the word which white men created. White men who saw the black man as inferior, lazy, unworthy to be drinking from the same tap, unworthy to sit in the same classroom, unworthy to drink in the same pub as them. It is a word used to de-humanize.

            So you’d love to have those days back where you could quickly de-humanize. Ok I see. “oriental nigger” was referring to lazy stupid people with their hand out. And even when used in this context, it still says “the black man is a lazy, stupid person with their hand out”. It will always refer back to the black man. Whatever context you use the word in, it never loses it’s origin….a word made by white men who felt the black man was inferior and unworthy, because the white man force it on them, never gave them the opportunity to be much of anything more. The white man created the nigger. They are labels PLACED on the black man AGAINST HIS WILL. He was brought over on ships against his will, forced into slavery against his will, given no opportunity to prove worthiness, and all because he had black skin and came from another land. Period.

            But once given the opportunity, the black man has proven his humanity, his charity, his intelligence, and his worthiness. The black man overcame the suppression and oppression which was forced upon him by white men. The Black man always wanted out of this, fought hard to get out of it, and did so, and are still fighting the racism today against the people like you who still want to “freely use the term” under some bullshit disguise that those of us who are NOT ignorant can see so clearly.

            That is a far contrast from Filipinos. Filipinos remain willfully ignorant, willfully lazy, willfully stupid, willfully submissive to their government. Many don’t want it to change. They choose to remain in poverty because holding their hand out seems to be much easier work than being productive and contributing members of society. Most are like this because it’s how they were raised. But every one of them can choose to get off their ass and do something. Nobody is keeping them from doing it. Nobody is threatened by a lynch mob if they go get a job or sit in front of the bus.

            You’re wrong Mick, dead wrong.

            But you’re obviously not at all sensitive to the 100% derogatory usage of the word. You obviously want to use the word more. I tend to believe that underneath your feeble attempts to justify using the word while trying hard to remain in the closet with your racism, you’ve been exposed, not by me, but by your own words.

            You’ll never change the real meaning of the word.

            Nigger: A person dehumanized and made inferior by white men based on the color of their skin.

            I, too, am done with this topic.

          7. Profile gravatar of Pinay Lover
            Pinay Lover Post author

            “Nigger: A person dehumanized and made inferior by white men based on the color of their skin.”

            A good reason not to use the word, especially if you’re white! I can’t help but to agree with Eric on this one. I remember a guy I used to work with used the word all the time to describe blacks and it totally rubbed me off the wrong way. Like Eric mentioned, it screams ignorance.

            Anyways…case closed!

  6. Profile gravatar of Mick

    Where the fck did it all go wrong?

    As a 70s kid living in UK and realising my then willy wasn’t just for pissing out of, I’d often find myself thumbing through a holiday brochure looking at all the bikini clad women. Locations like Boracay were often featured. Failipines itself was seen as an aspiring Asian nation. Pictures I’ve seen from that era ever since have proved that Fails was once a respectable country. Clean streets, people in suits etc etc

    Did they suddenly close all the public toilets, tear up their suits to make shorts and systematically become idle bastards?

    In all seriousness, the slaves today only have themselves to blame. We live in the digital age where information is freely available. There’s a small minority trying to make the most of it, trying hard to send the right message but the vast majority can’t see past FB, TV, skin whitening and whatever commercialised bollox they’re told to follow. They know their lives are crap but smile anyway. Fck ’em.

  7. Profile gravatar of Pinay Lover
    Pinay Lover Post author

    I hear ya. Negro was a term widely used back then for African Americans which i agree was probably used too loosely. It was used for history purposes since that was the racial term.

    I was surprised the other day to see an add on Canadian tv titled “negro………” It was a show relating to the history of slavory. Again, the word was titled for history purposes and not meant to offend anyone.

    Ok, lets keep to venting!

  8. Profile gravatar of kalbo

    I’d like to tell a tale I heard from another Kind Kano. He married a filipina and spent some time at the provincial home in the PI. He noticed the brother of the wife sitting around all the time, doing nothing. He asked why. “No job” was the reply.

    Anyway, this Kano had a brainwave. He could buy a trike for the brother who could then earn some money, boost his self-estreem AND help the family too. Maybe this would allow the Kano to reduce his payments to that family, since they now had their own source of income.

    A year later and the Kano returned to the PI with his wife and visited the family home. He noticed the brother doing what he did last time – sitting around on his ass. “Why arent you out earning money on your trike?” the Kano asked. The brother just looked at the floor and said nothing.

    Later on that day, Mr Kano finds out that, rather than using the trike, the brother had simply sold the f***g engine of the bike almost immediately for some fast cash.

    1. Profile gravatar of Pinay Lover
      Pinay Lover Post author

      Lol. So typical. I too have a similar story. I was sick of my wife sending her dead beat father money. He is a Jeepney driver and works for someone else. Anyway, I figured to myself, “hey, if I save up a little money and just by him a Jeepney, he can run his own business and make a lot more money.” So that is the offer I made, thinking that “hey, once he gets his self esteem sorted with his own business and better pay we won’t have to worry about sending him handouts ever fucking month”.

      Well, not too long afterwards he made ever excuse in the book stating “oh, there’s too much competition, there’s no money in it, there’s the cost of repairs, blah blah blah……” That pissed me off, because here I am, working my ass off raising a family and I put him on my priority list to help and he turns it down with dry empty excuses. My conclusion to this is that he just wanted handouts and didn’t want to strive towards success. He wants to live off of someone else hard labor.

      God….what a useless twat. And this guy demands respect from me? LOL!

  9. Profile gravatar of Margarett

    I agree that there are a lot of money morons Filipino. They are uneducated and never had the ambition to be. I came, personally, from that kind of family. My dad (both of my parents are native Filipino) is a different story though. He wants me to buy him a car and tour him here in US. He thought that after helping me with my education (i was 100% scholar the whole 5 years in engineering school, my dad helped me with daily needs), I will be be able to pull the whole family off from poverty. I tried for four years and never saved a penny for myself. Didn’t even have money for my own meds when i got sick. That was a wake up call for me. I was a money moron too. I was, but not anymore. I still support them but very cautious not to be abused.

    I agree with this post. but i have become a little obsessed with educating my money-moron friends and family about money facts that will fuck your life if you don’t wake up.

    No matter how ugly pinoy life has been, one has to start changing the culture. That’s my belief. I’m happy that i have influenced some friends.

    My life motto now is: DON’T GIVE THEM FISH, TEACH THEM HOW TO FISH. If they’re too lazy to fish, leave them to starvation!

    1. Profile gravatar of Pinay Lover
      Pinay Lover Post author

      “My life motto now is: DON’T GIVE THEM FISH, TEACH THEM HOW TO FISH. If they’re too lazy to fish, leave them to starvation!”

      Good on you man! And one of the beliefs I go by is, if you become a parent your obligation is to take care of your child until he is of adult age and let him be. The job of being a parent DOES NOT get rewarded and should not be treated as a position where you can use your child for money and ROB HIM of his future.

      Give them what you can afford and don’t sacrifice yourself for them, and if your parents say they sacrificed for you, well SO WHAT!!!! THAT IS YOUR FUCKING JOB AS A PARENT!! NO FUCKING REWARDS!!!!

      YOu can tell them that next time they use you as an ATM machine.

  10. Profile gravatar of Cruzters

    Yes, there are plenty of stupid, lazy, leeching, entitled, idiotic SOB’s out there, but here’s my 2 centavos:

    For many of you, the point is already moot, but seeing as this blog is also intended for would-be or newbie Expats in the
    Philippines, and what they should do, in order to avoid getting into these frustrating situations, I would like to offer my
    humble advice in the form a question.

    Ask yourself: Just how hard is it to spot a gold-digger? (and her leech of a family)?. If you’ve known someone for only a
    short span of time, who quite fittingly has the figure of someone half your age, would readily profess her love for you in
    said short span of time, and here’s the kicker: comes from an extremely impoverished family, then the situation is most
    likely too good to be true. 99 out of a hundred times my friend, it is!

    And furthermore, is being a leech, a trait specific to Filipinos? Or it a quality that you would find from any
    nation/culture – especially from the poorer classes? If one’s family is first-generation poor, then he or she can probably
    chalk it up to extreme misfortune. But if one comes from a line of generations upon generations of poverty, then most
    likely you and your family are poor for being stupid and lazy. But for Pete’s sake, as someone who knows better, stop
    marrying into these types! You just happen to be in the Philippines (with a predominantly poor population). But I’m sure
    we can all admit that this can very well happen too, if we married that young ghetto-hottie from South Central or Queens.

    To those of you who aren’t in a relationship-with, or married to a native Filipina yet, but is open to the possibility, try
    meeting someone from say, an upscale club/bar/pub/resto at The Fort, or in Makati (not the Burgos red-light district area
    that a lot of expats frequent). I for one had several native-Filipina girlfriends but never once had the misfortune of
    running into these despicable scenarios. I even get presents in the form of clothes/gadgets from my girlfriend’s parents,
    whenever they come back from their overseas trips – as it is customary, nay, obligatory to have “pasalubongs” when returning
    from one’s travels.

    Now if you happen to already be in a relationship with a native, wait a little while before popping the question – I
    guarantee it will only take a month or two for any leeching family members to come out of the woodworks.

    I apologize in advance, if this next truth-pill becomes too tough to swallow, but – Isn’t it hypocritical to call your
    gold-digger of a wife’s family, lazy, when you yourself were too lazy to invest your time and effort in finding a genuinely
    sincere life partner? Who isn’t brainwashed by her leeching lazy-ass family? Like I said, just how hard is it to spot the
    red-flags? Screen’em before you marry’em – including her family, because yes, here in the Philippines, you get married to
    the family too.

    1. Profile gravatar of Pinay Lover
      Pinay Lover Post author

      Good points man. That is why I did not technically marry, we are common law. I saw the signs that her family were leeches a long time ago and they didn’t get much out of me at all. If I look at my wife and her sister, they are not lazy at all, but like you mentioned they come from a line of lazy good for nothing family ties on their mothers side. The mother and her family pulls everyone down unfortunately.

      1. Profile gravatar of Cruzters

        Good for you. In hindsight though, I’m guessing a lot of the other posters here got married, soon after knocking-up their Pinay, as it was the honorable thing to do. If so, I apologize if I branded you ‘lazy’, and I totally feel your pain man.

        1. Profile gravatar of Pinay Lover
          Pinay Lover Post author

          Hey, no hard feelings. I’m totally open to hard cold truths, that’s the only way we learn, correct? I’m kicking myself because for most of my life, I’ve been the “fuck and chuck” guy where I see those signs, and then I leave! This occasion, I ended up not seeing all the signs until we had our kid and that’s when I put my foot down and told my wife that they are not my responsibility.

          It’s such an obvious thing that I should have seen. Marry into a poor family, and you end up getting dragged down because they know nothing more than to be useless and poor! What is their speciality if they are poor? Freeloading! But you see, this was part of the culture I didn’t fully understand. My only experience with poor families and poor people in general is that they own up to their problems and they won’t pry and manipulate you for money. As for the Philippines, it is the complete opposite, where you “owe” them everything if you make success and have any sort of money. Now that I understand this I have made the effort to control this situation and protect my family. How long it will last? I don’t know. This family of my wife’s is pretty persistent!

          Great points though, I completely agree and respect your view.