I hear about this and wittnessed it on how natives Pinoys wont allow you to enjoy the success you have earned. Instead of trying to earn their own success they would rather steal yours!
For example: Ive heard of instances where if you’re a native and you have more money and a better house, neighbors will come unexpected, using up your kitchen, living room, outside deck, like they fucking own you and your house. I find this behavior extremely rude and disrespectful. But my wife has told me “thats just a part of the culture.” She believes these better off natives are welcoming these parasites, but i dont believe that. I think they are so persistent and persuasive, they end up getting their way. Actually, I have heard many times from my wife how her parents complain about neighbors coming over all the time. Home, in my opinion, should be a place of peace and it sounds like a place of hell if your a native living the the Failippines.
Another thing I have experienced first hand is the mentality of entitlement to your money and owing them. If you make success on your own and you have extra money the rest should go to the parasites that didnt work hard. Its such an upside down culture of entitlement and cheating.
Example: I dont care how much fucking money my uncle makes. He was head manager for a huge train company and started from the bottom and made his way up. Even if he had billions of dollars i would never ask for a penny out of respect, unless he offered and i really needed it. Pinoy culture is completely opposite. They go out of their way to steal and dismantle your success for their own gain and are ungreatful children. They can never get enough from you either. If they were leeching off my uncle he would be pennyless in a matter of days.
My wifes parents made a perfect example of their “culture” of leeching. Numerous times they have preassured her and her sister for more than they actually deserve. They have proven to me countless times that they only respect free money and not hard work and success. My wife has told me”you dont understand the life there”. But the fact is, I do and I know how much they actually need. Ive researched the cost of things there and they bite off more than they can chew. It pathetic how the native parents look at their children too. You see, they compare each others status on how much their kids send to them. It’s disgusting and disrespectful and honestly shameful. I recall one occasion where my wifes mother was complaining because “the neighbors are making fun of us because we dont recieve as much money”. See, they are more concerned with free money and keeping up with the joneses then anything else. What a true respectable parent would say is “send me what you can to eat. Thats all i need”. But you will rarely hear that. They are more concerned about being on the pedestal of their childrens success and showing off like children.
This part of the culture is puzzling and the most destructive my opinion. Their meaning of respect if being the opposite. Disrespectful and its excepted because “its our culture!”Published in