If you ever noticed when you’re talking to a Filipino or Filipina that they defend their Filipino’ism quite strongly in fact in denial when shown clearly with evidence how stupid things may be or the patterns that are associated culturally in the way they act.
More often than not you will find a response received like “not or Filipina like that”. It’s as if they have to prove themselves that they are different and that scamming, lying, cheating and treating each other bad is just a minority.
The daily “goings-on” the largely reported here I really only found by living here. Tourist to the Philippines that see everything with their Filipino rose coloured glasses from their luxury of a hotel room or poolside lounge never see the realities of living in the country. As the saying goes you don’t know people until you live with them.
When I get the response not all alike that I say, yes – – – not all but most. Where’s overseas you will find least.
I also term at the Sari Sari store approach. As your relationship progresses most likely you’ll get asked to fund a store to help Mum or dad. It is such a common theme an idea as to what a viable businesses (as you know Filipinos cannot do maths and work out what a viable businesses). Often I ask, how many stores and street or take a look and you will find there are often between 3 to as many as eight other stores in the street all selling the same crap. Hanging coffee, sachets of shampoo, tins of tuna, small bottles of Coke and the list goes on – you know what is being sold there is being sold everywhere – there is absolutely no point of difference. Filipinos cannot see a point of difference just like they cannot see sarcasm, irony and other relational things when they speak. They have very little relational sphere of focus even on the fact that if they do something stupid what the outcome would be.
The Sari Sari store approach is what keeps them poor in some cases and subject to being ripped off constantly. They think that many Filipinos are honest and reliable people (remember they live by the saying not also looking like that). They therefore will have very little in the way of question marks about their own fellow Filipino. You’ll often find Filipinos no matter in the country or overseas will gravitate toward each other and that’s when the games start. No other country, being the nine been to many one met people with even from the first outset of the conversation they will ask for money. So with that mentality in mine of the Sari Sari store there will be very little in the way of determining a good Filipino from a bad Filipino. Their approaches this doesn’t apply to me, on good, this person is good, this can make it – we all live on hope.
This is where I get so angry when I end up having to pick up the pieces of a Filipino fuckup.
I’ve been dating women here for many years and I often find the so-called great investment, awesome business idea, long lost friend – simple searches reveal that these are scams perpetrated by fellow Filipinos.
The girls actually believed the messages they were hearing because they also thought model Filipino like that and that the scammers and is country are in a minority. They are quite defensive saying of been here long enough and found that 100% of Filipinos never return money given to them when they say they were going to return it, that you never receive any money from Filipinos (so I question why a long lost friend would be sending you a computer, camera and money) et cetera. I’m not a negative or sceptical person – I’m always open to a good deal but when you work with Filipinos you know that Filipinos will never feel good deal.
Sari Sari store mentality as I mentioned is what gets a lot of Filipinos into trouble is generally their western boyfriends that will end up picking up the pieces of the financial loss. I cannot believe some of the stupidest things that I’ve heard as to investment schemes, free gifts et cetera – and when I expose the floors and why I could see that there was something fishy I was told not or Filipina like that.Published in