Trying to help a Filipino is one of the things much of the world has learned is a complete waste of time, money, and resources. This is tragic. I want nothing more than to help the people of my ethnic heritage. But native Filipinos cannot form any understanding or concept of the phrase “feed a man a fish, he eats for a day, teach a man to fish, and he eats for his lifetime.”
What I experience is that when you try to reason with them, and impart some wisdom from your own life experience, it is often shrugged and disregarded because “that’s not the way we do it here”. And there’s the failure. They cannot make a connection between “the way they do things here” and “if you wish to make changes and improve your situation, you need to realize, or at least consider that “the way you do things here” is the reason you’re failing.” Why not try something different and see what happens? If “the way you do things here” has been failing, why can’t you change “the way you do things here”???
A good example is Gordon Ramsey’s “Kitchen Nightmares”. If you’re not familiar with Gordon Ramsey, he is arguably the most famous, most successful chef and restaurant owners on earth. He knows how to make a restaurant succeed. His life and his restaurants are proof of it.
One of his many TV shows is “Kitchen Nightmares” in which failing restaurant owners ask him to help them turn their failing restaurant into a successful restaurant. So Ramsey goes to their restaurant, samples the food, the service, observes how the restaurant in managed, evaluates, and offers expert advice on the needed changes to turn it into a success.
And like the average Filipino, the restaurant owners are usually unwilling to budge on the way they do things. They tend to blame the customer or community for the reasons why their restaurant is failing. And it often appears that they just expect Ramsey to wave a magic wand and somehow convince the surrounding community that this restaurant is good the way it is and they should stop being so mean and come patronize it.
Ramsey often ends up banging his head against the wall and asking,
“why did you call me in to help you if you’re not willing to take my advice? Being an expert with dozens of successes, my evaluation of the way you do things is 100% to blame for why you are failing!!”
It doesn’t matter if you think your food and service is great. If the surrounding community thinks your food is terrible (which it is), then they’re not going to come back!! Why can’t you see that??? Get off your high horse, get some humility, take some constructive criticism intended to help you, and make the changes necessary to succeed! Otherwise, I’m wasting my time here. I would rather go help someone who can first admit they’re to blame for their failures and take responsibility for their mistakes, learn from them, not repeat them, and make the necessary changes for success.
There are many examples that have proven that the way things have been done for 100’s of years was discovered to be the wrong way, and a progressive mind that is willing to learn and grow will depart from a tradition that keeps them in a mud pit, and make the change based on proof that it’s the wrong way if he/she wishes to improve. But Filipinos cannot form that logic. It’s impossible. They spend their time blaming the world for their woes, and work overtime trying to convince everyone that it’s not their fault, and their way is best, no matter how fucking stupid and illogical their way is. They expect those around them to change, so that they can succeed.
THE FILIPINO LOGIC: “I failed because you refuse to see things my way.” And since you won’t help me, I’m going to repeatedly slam my testicles in the doorway until you can’t stand it anymore and decide to make me successful.”
It is a cultural institution for Filipinos to shrug personal responsibility. In their mind, it is a dishonor to admit they were wrong. It is customary to justify their wrongdoing through some kind of blame, instead of fully owning it. This prevents them from learning and improving. Accountability does not exist in Philippines. There is no such thing as taking responsibility for your offense/mistake and doing what is necessary to make corrections or pay for the damage you’ve caused, most especially if it involves monetary cost. This places morality far below self preservation. And what makes this so unbelievably pathetic is that they all claim to be such moral “god fearing” people. And that’s the funny thing about religion. I find that the overwhelmingly vast majority of anyone claiming to be religious are among the most morally corrupt people on the face of the planet. And Philippines brags itself to be the most “Catholic” nation with high morality. Unfortunately, THINKING people don’t believe words unless those words are backed up and supported by action. You surely don’t see that in Philippines.
This stems from the general sense of entitlement that is the downfall attribute of the average Filipino. It’s strange. They see that if they plant a seed, and water the soil, a plant grows which bears fruit. But unfortunately for them, the Filipino mind is about the most unfertile soil in which to plant a seed. They can form no application of how the basics of life work to their own life. Planting a seed of independence in the average Filipino will most likely fail. Therefore those who have tried, quit trying. Now Philippines is left to rely on their OFW’s and charitable handouts. Philippines is like the lazy, apathetic 46 year old son who still lives with and is supported by mom and dad. The only way they’ll survive is by those that are willing to support them without obligation.
There is a difference between disablement and just plain refusal to do for oneself / laziness. If someone is incapable by no decision of their own to support him/herself, I feel that the community should provide. But that is certainly not the case on the most part here in Philippines. It is the refusal to think, reason, and get up off your dead lazy ass and find a fucking honorable way.
Rather than appreciate a helpful lesson, or if they’ve been given some kind of financial start with which to expand on, they will selfishly and unwisely squander it. They tend to feel it is other people’s DUTY to help them and provide for them, rather than do for themselves. There is such a low value placed on human life, dignity, charity, and good of community. It’s “every man for himself” in Philippines. They cannot take a given opportunity and turn it into a way of independence. They will just continue to expect handouts. And this is why today, countries have given up on investing in this country. It doesn’t help them, and the investor always loses to the corruption and irresponsible management.
Scams, rip-offs, lies, and selfishness is the mode of survival here. Elected officials see the suffering, poverty, and desperation, yet continue to plunder their own people, and then the people elect them back into a position of power after they have been tried, convicted, and served prison time for plunder. This is an obvious indication of the lack of value placed on human life.