I never understood the concept of this : using Kuya, Ate and nicknames for everybody.
From what I heard, Kuya is used when talking to a man older than yourself and Ate is used for the same purpose when it’s a woman. To show “respect”.
The very first time I met my brother in law, he started the conversation by saying 2 things. The first one was his name and the second one was : “You can call me Kuya”. Why it was so important for that man to inform me immediatly about him being “Kuya”. The way he talked to me was like he was superior to me. He was only 2 years older. So when I had to approach somebody of the relative clan, I always had to remember if I had to say kuya or ate or just their name. Oh no wait, you don’t have to use their name, they all have nicknames. Nice, what’s the purpose of that ?? Well that one her name is Rosalinda, but we call her Bachoy. And her sister is Jen, but we call her Bang Bang. The name of the brother is Rosario, but we call him Jingle. Huh ???
I ended up using no titles and no names to talk to them. Why should I call somebody Kuya or ate, just because they are older? And why should somebody call me Kuya because he is younger than me? We’re all humans, aren’t we ? And still all those nicknames. When a child is born, they give the baby a name, and they never use it afterwards. Instead they use a nickname that sound like total idiot.Published in