I’ll never forget all the times my Pinoy business partner has told me how we are responsible for our ADULT house helpers and live-in employees. Over the years of several different employees, they range from age 22 to 32. Certainly considered consenting adults in virtually every part of the world…..except Philippines. And consenting adults are also responsible for themselves….except in Philippines. Until their parents are dead and gone, Where ever they are staying, the host is responsible for them. I guess the concept of one being responsible for him or herself is way outside the confines of their twisted, dysfunctional culture.
I have a strict rule for employees who live in my house that if they go out, and they’re certainly welcome to do so, that if they’re not back by 10pm, they will not be let back in until 8am the following morning. No way do I give any Filipino a key. But my Pinoy partner and I have an ongoing disagreement about our employees going out all night.
Being Pinoy, he believes what they do is our responsibility, as if we are his surrogate parents. If we allow they to go out all night, and they do something stupid, or criminal, we will be liable. We can be blamed for what our ADULT employee did while OFF DUTY, and OUTSIDE OUR HOUSE. I know you all are saying, “That is fucking unbelievably insane!!” How does that make a shred of sense to anyone with the tiniest measure of intelligence? What about a legal adult being responsible FOR HIM/HER SELF???????? Does that come into play at any time in this ass-backward culture????
My partner says their parents will hold us responsible for what they do. Hell, why is the real parents even responsible for an adult son or daughter? In virtually every country that actually has THINKING PEOPLE, there is what they call an “age of consent”. That means when you reach that age, you now become fully responsible and accountable for yourself……EXCEPT IN PHILIPPINES!
Shocking? Surprising? Not at all. This kind of ass-backward thinking and complete stupidity is fully expected here.
When I employ someone, why do I have to be their parent? This is one of the most ridiculous things I have ever heard in my life. I completely refuse to accept it.
“But DAT’S DEE WAY WE DO IT IN DEE PILIPPINES!”
My response is, “THEN ENJOY REMAINING A 3RD WORLD IMPOVERISHED COUNTRY INCAPABLE OF SOLVING PROBLEMS! DON’T TRY TO RECOGNIZE THE MINDSETS AND WAYS THAT KEEP YOU POOR, IN POVERTY, AND HIGH ON THE LIST OF MOST CORRUPT COUNTRIES ON EARTH, DON’T TRY TO PROGRESS, JUST STAY STUPID, HELPLESS, DEPENDENT AND IGNORANT BY RESPONDING TO EVERY PROBLEM, EVERY CRITICISM WITH DAT’S DEE WAY WE DO IT IN DEE PILIPPINES AND IF YOU DON’T LIKE IT, LEAVE!”Published in